NAH.

It sounds like he doesn’t fully understand how severe your acid reflux is. Which sucks and could be a sign that he’s not paying attention.. but, there are numerous reasonable reasons for him not understanding that. I’m not going to assume he’s an AH based off this short description.

The dogs’ meal aspect of this is irrelevant, IMO. What he makes for his dogs is a total non-issue. If he really did cook pizza from scratch, that’s a HUGE undertaking. I cook a ton… and steak and potatoes is as easy a meal as you can make. Homemade pizza takes hours of work and is really difficult to do.

Overall, I think this is a really minor speed bump. It seems like he likes you, enough to put in a ton of effort cooking you dinner… and it seems like you like him too. I honestly think this is a 5 minute conversation where you impress upon him how bad your acid reflux is.. Presumably, he’ll understand where you’re coming from.. and this blows over in a heartbeat.

NTA. You have a food allergy, you made him aware of that food allergy, and he chose to disregard it when he offered you food you can’t eat. He knew and he did it anyway, because he doesn’t respect you enough to listen and believe you.The dogs are irrelevant. It’s good he feeds them well.

I have celiac. It’s an autoimmune disorder where the body attacks gluten like it’s a virus. Eating gluten causes my body to damage itself and can lead to permanent complications. The “short term effects” are days of migraines, belly pains, and a lot of time in the bathroom, which can lead to severe dehydration. When I ask if something has gluten in it, “there’s just a little” means I can’t eat it. At all. If you can’t tell me what’s in it, I can’t eat it. It’s not unreasonable to refuse to eat things you’re allergic to. It’s not unreasonable to expect him to know this when you’ve eaten together before and been clear about it. He’s being a disrespectful jerk.

NTA. Hey, I love my dogs but there is no way I’d treat guest, let along someone I’m dating, like this. The dogs don’t need to eat an entire steak dinner (eggs potatoes corn? Sheesh I eat like that maybe once every 6 months or so, plus that isn’t all that healthy for dogs to have that much anyway, it’s going to give them a fatty liver and kill them, which is all besides the point anyways) and he obviously doesn’t seem to believe that you actually have a medical problem with theses foods as he purposely made you a dinner that requires red sauce and got mad when you didn’t eat it.

Seriously think about your relationship with him. To me (who also deals with medical issues with food) it’s a huge ol’ red flag 🚩 when someone doesn’t respect your health choices when it comes to the food, and the (very) bad consequences that will happen if you eat them.

NTA – I have severe food allergies too and I have to be really careful. The fact that he made you something you are allergic to and tried to convince you to eat it, while he obviously had stuff you would not be allergic to, is troubling. I personally do not date anyone who would have a woman split a check. I will volunteer and then refuse to see the person again if they say yes. I am doing well in life and want an equal, and my equal would never even consider letting me pay for dinner. It is a test. Anyway, NTA. What would you do when he wants to feed your baby something they are allergic to while feeding his dogs so well? A man needs to be able to provide for his family. This guy does not seem to meet that criteria.

Oh my god, NTA. You dodged a massive bullet here and I’m glad he showed his true colors early on. Anyone who minimizes or disregards your dietary restrictions isn’t just toxic, but an actual health hazard. The fact that he came unglued after you left and railed at you over the phone shows that he has massive insecurity issues.

And, like, I own a very spoiled dog. I absolutely home cook for the dude from time to time. But that was… Is he doing that consistently? That’s expensive.

Don’t lose any sleep over this dude. He’s a total mess and you handled him with more civility than others would have. “Just try” the food that would put you in extreme pain? Oh man, I’m mad just reading that.

NTA – this is victimblaming. He’s clearly able to put afford in delivering the best able diet if he wants to (his dogs). But he totally ignoring your health conditions and saying you should just try? That’s ridiculous. I don’t see any problem in feeding the dogs better than yourself. But giving the dogs like 5 stars meals while actually poisoning you… I don’t even put in words how I feel about it. He can’t even deliver the bare minimum. Ohh and that he expected an tab on the shoulder for making homemade pizza is childish. Don’t want to devalue pizza, but that’s no hard cooking. In fact it’s lazy cooking. Nothing against lazy cooking, but you can’t expect an reward for that.

NTA Dude can feed his dogs whatever he wants. Has nothing to do with the fact that he knowingly made you something you couldn’t eat, was dismissive of your health problems, and then threw a temper tantrum when you didn’t just do what he wanted. Your friends are focusing on the wrong thing. Take the dogs’ meal out of the equation completely. My guy served you red sauce when he knows you can’t eat it and copped an attitude when you didn’t eat it.

*He* showed his true colors and now you know, he’s inconsiderate and self-important and you’re better off without him.

NTA, but I think what he fed the dogs does play in here. He didn’t even put out the same effort or expense to feed his date as he did the dogs. I love my dog, and if we are hiking and drinks all of his water, I give him mine and I do without, but I’m not going to make him a better meal than someone I am cooking for. You dodged a bullet with this one.

NTA. You told him you couldn’t eat certain foods. He made you those exact foods. You left.

People who don’t have issues with foods hurting them rarely understand why you follow a strict diet. I play mine off in public because I don’t want to sound whiney, but it absolutely sucks ass.

Sorry he turned out to have a meltdown.

NTA but I don’t think the issue here is necessarily what he fed his dogs but his lack of respect for you and your dietary needs. That’s a huge red flag for not caring about your boundaries.

Especially when paired with him trying to guilt you about him not catering to your already discussed requirements for a healthy life.

I going the unpopular opinion. ESH. I also have severe acid reflux. There are OTC medicines that won’t interfere with your prescription. You could have eaten what he served and taken an OTC when you got home. He SHOULD have served you guys the steaks and given the dogs pizza.

NTA

Even if you completely remove the part of the story with the food for the dogs.

He tried to feed you something that he knows you can’t eat. Honestly it sounds like he was looking for an out and he created a situation where he could call you entitled and push you away.

No, NTA. This is what casual dating is for. He seems to have confused dislike of strong sauce (hence the sugar) for an actual medical condition, but it is odd that he can’t seem to understand the simple medical explanation. Not sure this has Anything to do with the dogs.

Yta for being jealous of the dog, he can feed the dog what he wants and sometimes our own dog eats better than we do, but she doesn’t get a choice. But NTA for your own meal. If he offers to make you food he needs to pay attention to your diet so he doesn’t cause you pain.

The “true colors” comment gives me shit test vibes. Like he prepared the nice meal for the dogs knowing you would assume it was for you, then brought out pizza to see if you would just be chill with it. NTA.

NTA. It’s likely not his fault entirely, because there are so, so many people who claim food allergies or food insensitivities when they actually just dislike a particular food.

NTA. This isn’t about what he fed his dogs, that’s not your business. It’s that he tried to feed you something medically contraindicated for you.

You didn’t leave because he fed the dogs better. You left because you were starving and he INTENTIONALLY made a meal you couldn’t eat. NTA

NTA, because he made you a dinner he knew you wouldn’t be able to eat. The dogs and splitting the bills are side issues.