sorry but YTA. really put your yourself in your sister’s situation, where she’s been carrying this person around literally inside her body – I think we underestimate how aggravating and uncomfortable that is, followed by the ordeal of birth which is grueling, scary, agonizing, bloody, body fluids, you shit yourself, it’s a disgusting mess, and on top of that, it was an unusual and thus alarming birth. Afterwards her vagina is still ripped open and bleeding for like a week, her body is still stretched out to accommodate a person having been inside of it until recently, and all you can contribute is a cheap joke, because all you can think about is getting a cheap laugh. If *she* had cracked this joke, it would have been funny. But because it was you, you were punching down at someone who has just been through the wringer. Though it wasn’t meant in malice, it still makes you TA.

“It’s a good joke… a great joke even… but I’m going to need you to stop saying it.”

Sometimes a jest won’t land right. If you offend a person you care about you should try to empathize, sympathize, and understand their perspective. A funny joke can hurt someone in a way you didn’t expect and the funniness isn’t an excuse.

In this story we have three adult opinions and two of them are that YTA. The third is your opinion. Own up, it’s not such a big deal to say you’re sorry.

Now, I have a rather twisted sense of humor, so I found the joke to be funny. That being said OP, YTA.

This is the first time I’ve heard of babies being born this way and from the sounds of it, it’s not a normal occurrence. It was probably a scary moment in your sister’s life. Luckily, nothing bad happened, but to make a joke about that to her and so soon after it happened. That’s why you’re wrong here. Time and place matter.

It think it was funny. But this isn’t the “was I funny” subreddit unfortunately.

If the person you’re making your joke at the expense of is hurt by the joke then YTA and should apologise – tell her you didn’t mean to hurt her feelings or be insensitive and you won’t make that joke anymore.

I think she’s overreacting a bit, but it’s not my feelings that have been hurt.

Light YTA – obviously you didn’t mean to hurt her feelings but you were also insensitive to the hormonal roller coaster she is on (and will continue to be on for a while)

Apologize and make fun of yourself for it. Eventually – she will likely laugh.

Be warned – the roller coaster doesn’t end for a while (think months…) so be gentle with your words

It’s very rare and called being born in the caul. Caul meaning sack. The old tales say a child born this way is gifted with second sight at birth and can see the future. Pretty cool and your sis is a champ for birthing a human and you need to cut her some massive slack and be kinder because mama bears are not to be messed with.

NAH. You didn’t mean harm, but apologize anyways and tell her how beautiful it all was and how you feel blessed to have been a part of the experience so she feels comforted and understands you weren’t judging her

YTA

That’s a new one to add to the list of things to NOT say to woman in pain with raging hormones. Seriously, she just went through an incredibly painful and intimate experience. Supportive comments only.

Gentle YTA. Birth is a difficult experience, and the hormone drop that occurs in the days after birth is *really* intense.

It’s best to be nothing but supportive in the weeks after. Jokes can come later.

YTA – you may not have intended to be and I, personally, find it funny – but she just had a baby and has all sorts of hormones and stuff. Give her time and space and then apologize for upsetting her.

I mean it’s incorrect and pretty insensitive. I’d say YTA, especially for the timing (as others have said) with hormones. Apologize and move on.

I want to say NTA because that is pretty funny. Maybe once she is well rested she will look back on it and think that it is funny too.

NAH

Not the best time, but I wouldn’t call it an asshole move really. It’s also completely understandable how she reacted.

The joke itself didn’t make you an AH, the fact you didn’t apologize when you realized it offended her does, so YTA.

NAH,

A few days after giving birth is not the best moment to make jokes like that. But you didn’t mean any harm

This incredibly rare phenomenon is 1 in 80,000 births and is actually often referred to as a mermaid birth