NTA

Are you serious? A school friend? And half an hour of her own music? Picking her own dress? And a tiara? Wtf?

They’re kidding, right? They have to be. It’s your bloody wedding, not some party they can rearrange to their liking.

It’s *your* **wedding**.

If they’re that bothered, tell them they can have their own party in their own home because they’re not welcome at your wedding.

Jesus, I’ve heard of people pulling some petty shit at weddings, but this is unbelievable.

And your fiancé is starting to cave? Tell them to piss off. I wouldn’t want them anywhere near my wedding. They sound obnoxious.

NTA. Your sil is insane and entitled. Also, SO many children have parties the weekend before or after their bdays because of so many reasons! My sisters bday can fall around Easter so her parties have been moved around before. She can have her own party at a different time no problem. If your SIL had a silly little request like a cupcake with a candle that would be inoffensive enough but her requests are absolutely ridiculous. 6 year olds dont even keep track of what date it is, if they lied about what say is her bday she wouldnt even know.

NTA

Do not budge! This is your hill to die on.

Niece will get a birthday every year. Your wedding is once and **is not even on her birthday!!**

If you want, you can compromise with a little cake at your *rehearsal dinner* but no additional stuff at your actual wedding. To anyone to ask, remind them that niece’s birthday is your wedding day but 3 days after. Your wedding is an event you’ve paid thousand of dollars to celebrate your union.

NTA. What is the difference between waiting 4 days for the next weekend or having it three days before? Options would be at most is there a rehearsal dinner the night before, then maybe have a small cake and sing happy birthday. Or if there is a breakfast or something for family the day after. But hell no to picking out the dress, inviting friends or playing her music. Your SO needs not cave

NTA

WTF? That was the most ridiculous list I’ve read in a long time. If anyone had given me that I would have rolled on the floor laughing.

A special cupcake for the birthday girl to be sounds like a good compromise. At 6 she should be old enough to accept that she is not the center of the universe. if her family can’t be bothered to celebrate her on her actual birthday, that is their problem.

NAH, leaning more towards NTA. My goddaughters birthday was the day before our wedding. The day before our wedding was our rehearsal dinner. We got her presents, a cake, and had guests sing happy birthday after the rehearsal. She loved it. Maybe there’s a compromise somewhere here? Obviously no one is obligated, but it would be a nice gesture IMO

NTA. The entitlement is strong in this one. It’s your day, not your niece’s. Your SIL can suck it up and deal with it. It’s not your fault that your niece won’t have a birthday party next year.

Also, that’s ridiculous af. Why won’t she have a birthday party? Because you have your wedding on the same year? I honestly do not see the connection.

NTA!!!!! Holy Entitlement! Do not cave! Do not give in!

None, and I mean none of those *demands* are reasonable for your wedding; this is your (you and your fiance’s) day, not that child’s’. It’s not even on her actual birthday! She can do all those things at her own party.

(Btw it’s “tiara” 🙂 you were close)

NTA. Sounds like the mother is trying to get a free birthday party out of your wedding. She can have the birthday party on Sunday. Waiting until the next weekend is a good option too. The kid won’t remember that it was a few days “late”, she’ll remember that she got cake and ice cream and presents.

NTA. Why is it such a theme that people think they’re entitled to change the weddings of others? I don’t understand why she can’t have a birthday party on a different weekend. You were willing to make some compromises, too. SIL can figure it out, don’t let your partner cave.

NTA
Work out the total cost of your wedding, then work out how much 30x mins is going to cost and tell her if she wants to pay that + any extra attention time, then sure you might consider it. She wants a free party but it’s your wedding day, tell her to jog on!

Let me get this straight. Your wedding is a Saturday. Her birthday is a Tuesday. But the following Saturday is too late to have her birthday party? FFS these parents need to wind their neck in.

Edit: forgot to say NTA.

NTA. This is just weird. If she wants all that, throw the girl a birthday party. I feel like that will also teach her that she deserves something on someone else’s special day just because it’s close to her birthday.

NTA it’s yours and yours husband’s day. It’s a ridiculous request, my uncle got married on my 5th birthday and my mum didn’t request anything special for me and I was fine with been a flower girl for my birthday.

NTA – and please for the love of your guests don’t do that. They are there for your wedding not to celebrate a kid they don’t know’s bday. Maybe sing happy birthday but for the rest no. it doesn’t belong there.

NTA. If I were you I’d start making noises about how you are now thinking the wedding should be child free. Maybe then your SIL will realise it’s not and should not be about her daughter.

Absolutely NTA. The kid’s mother is out of her mind. You have no obligation \*at all\* to make your wedding day about a little kid’s birthday.