Now, faced with the poignant decision of how to distribute her inheritance, she chooses loyalty and fairness as she sees it, leaving everything to the one who stood by her side through every trial. This choice ignites a storm of emotions and questions about justice, love, and the true meaning of family.
So I (30F) made money young. I dropped out of college to model, then started my own business and made some smart decisions with stocks. So I have quite a bit of money saved, my own property owned free and clear (just pay utilities), and a couple cars.
I am single and childless.
Growing up, I was very close with my twin (30M) but not so much with my other siblings (also twins, 28F). Basically they were favored quite a bit by my parents. I took care of myself starting in high school and so did my twin.
He paid his own way through college with no parental help while I built my business also on my own. Our younger siblings did not. Our parents bought them cars in high school, paid 100% of their tuition and living expenses in college, and supported them in starting their adults lives.
Both my sisters ended up in bad relationships where they had kids that the fathers eventually had nothing to do with. My parents have always given them plenty of money and support.
I just got diagnosed with a terminal brain tumor. It’s inoperable and I am going to die within six months. I have made my peace with it. I opted to leave everything to my brother in my will.
That was he can pay off his student loans and have a vehicle and home free and clear. I want to know he has a good life while I’m gone.
My parents and sisters found out that I’m leaving everything to him and flipped out. They accused me of favoritism and being a bad daughter, aunt, and sister. They said my parents deserved money for raising me, and that my nieces and nephews deserved my money for future expenses since their mothers couldn’t afford things like cars and college.
Even my grandma and my uncle’s wife who I barely see messaged me on Facebook to tell me how selfish I’m being.
I blocked all of them in Facebook and told my brother I only wanted him to be at my bedside while I died.
Conclusion
The original poster is facing severe backlash after deciding to leave their entire estate to their twin brother, based on years of perceived unequal parental support and a desire to secure his future before their imminent death. This decision has created a sharp conflict between the OP’s personal autonomy and their family’s expectations regarding familial obligation and shared inheritance.
Was the OP justified in using their independently earned wealth to exclusively support the sibling with whom they shared a closer bond and similar self-sufficiency, or did this action violate fundamental duties owed to their parents and the financial needs of their nieces and nephews?
Here’s how people reacted:
but heck, in a few months time, you wouldn’t really care if youre the AH or not, right?
think of your inheritance as a gift, a gift worthy to bestow anyone you like. No one has the RIGHT to tell how you should give your gift. They may offer an opinion, but its for you whether to take that advise or not.
from your post it seemed that you have a perfectly good reason to give such a gift to your twin. That’s plenty good reason enough. Your other family may disagree and think that you’re the AH, but so what? They can’t take that opinion to the bank, or spend it.
I’m sorry you’re ill. I hope you had a great life.
Here is a AH joke. I often tell my friends that if I’m terminally ill, what I’ll probably do is take them (and some innocents) with me, against their will, in a big fiery ball of thermobaric goodness, so that they will be with me wherever hell that may be. lol.
Would you take the same advise to your other fam? Just kidding
On another note OP: your parents do not get a prize for raising you. Your sisters deserve nothing. Your parents spoiled them and left you and your twin to fend for yourself. If anyone displayed favoritism it was them. The fact that they are more worried about the money than you says you made the right choice. I hope you find some peace in that
I am so sorry about your prognosis. It is such a horrible card you have been dealt. Please do not let your family shroud the precious time you have left. You are an amazing person for looking out for your twin. Please focus on that.
I would advise that you leave the rest of your family a small amount, because if they are left out entirely they could have the option of claiming you “forgot” to include them and go to court for it. But you should speak with a lawyer or legal adviser about this, because I’m neither of those things.
Don’t leave them anything your brother can have the opportunity to live a long beautiful stress free life that you could of and why not?
Don’t be upset with your family although it may be hard but they are ignorant and one day they will see their wrongs.
Edit: I don’t mean they deserve the money, it’s just a “fuck you” hidden in the will
Edit: Wrong vote. Accidentally wrote YTA first
I am sorry for your situation and I hope that you have only the people who love you around for your remaining time.
Example: Pretending to love him/be friends after his death because he got $
I would find out how they found out.
It’s your money. Your choice. They should be focused more on spending your last few months making memories instead of being AHs about it.