Do it asap girl! No time to waste. Don’t let him guilt you. It only gets worse from here if you forgive him. Men notoriously cheat when their spouse is pregnant & his ass was ALREADY doing it.
It’s a difficult time already, emotions flowing, pains, hot flashes, moodswings, often too uncomfortable to even want sex, cravings, weight gain, we are maturing & nesting, while they sadly stay the same (in my experience).

If he was already failing you, he ain’t gonna suddenly be a good partner, he’ll probably either start a new 1 or continue with her.
Stay on track, take care of it, & keep it moving babe.
Tell the family you miscarried, or that he’s lying to make everyone guilt you into staying (if you don’t want to say the truth, which it ain’t nobody’s business but yours.) Good luck.

It’s most definitely NOT over and he’s now feeding you both the same line – “I’m so sorry, I swear I’m ending it with her!” Y’all both would be dumb to stay. As for getting a termination, your body, your choice … he’s opinion on this matter doesn’t remotely count seeing how it’s the woman AND ONLY THE WOMAN that does ALL the work in making said baby. He’ll probably lie and say he promises to be an equal parent once born, but they always claim that shit. You do strictly what is best for you. You’re all that matters right now.

Please for the love of God don’t let any of the people on this post telling you to keep the baby shame you into keeping the child. I am pro-life, but in many ways pro-choice for cases when it comes to abuse. Cheating is abuse! Your mindset is in the right place, keep thinking long-term and envision your future if you keep this baby vs. if you don’t and leave this chapter of your life behind. Wishing you the best regardless of your choice ❤️

If you are from the USA… I don’t recommended getting rid of the pregnancy cuz the current “law” will go after you. Your best option is to give birth and then decide whether you wanna keep the baby, give full custody to that ex husband or put that baby up for adoption. If you aren’t in the USA then do whatever you feel is right for you. 😞 this current situation sucks a whole lot but things will definitely get better later on.

Honestly, his behavior is unacceptable, and it’s very telling that he’s putting the pressure on you instead of taking responsibility for his actions. It sounds like you’ve already been thinking about your next steps, and you have every right to prioritize your own well-being and future. You’re strong for recognizing that this is not the life you want.

If you want an abortion have one. No need to tell anyone. The stress of finding out about husbands affair made the pregnancy unviable. Tell people it was a miscarriage if required. God knows people get very up in people’s business with abortion.

No need to tie yourself to this man forever if you can walk away

Leave him. YWNBTA. Leave him and the fetus for your own sake. He’d be a terrible dad and it’s better to not have the baby than spend your life caring for a child you could never love. Cheating is a relationship ender, no if ands or buts about it.

NTA. I’d never stay with a cheater. Especially if they tried to manipulate me into staying after they were the one who cheated. Pregnancy is your choice. You’re the one who has to go through it, make whatever choice is right for you.

I’m so sorry.

I couldn’t possibly presume to know better than you about your own circumstances, needs, and desires.

Please just know that the right to make a choice about your own pregnancy is morally yours, unconditionally.

“He told everyone to put pressure on me to stay”

Congratulations your husband wins AH of the day.

I hope you make decisions that are best for you now and in the future. Like kicking that whiny little bitch to the curb.

This man will be the father of your child for the rest of your lives. Is that what you want? If it were me I would rather share that experience with someone who is a good person and actually loves me.

“Happy fucking pregnancy” is fucking wild and disrespectful. Fuck her and fuck him. He doesn’t deserve to even have a child with you. Get your affairs in order and find a more deserving partner 🩷

> now he told everyone to put pressure on me to stay

The opening salvo in using the pregnancy (and, should it come to it, the child) against you in any way he can. Don’t let him. NTA.

Terminate but tell him and everyone it’s a miscarriage. He does not need to know the truth from you anymore. He lost that privilege.

NTAH

I’m sorry you are going through this.

If he went ahead and told your family about the pregnancy, then it seems like you have the right to go ahead and tell them about his infidelity. Get that abortion and move on.

I agree, you have to do what is best for you. But, I would not give that beetch the satisfaction of busting up my marriage, and ending the life of my child. But that is me.

Once a cheater, always a cheater. Especially if he cheating knowing your pregnant! Time to loose this looser and do what you feel is right with jour body!

He’s trash. Cheating on you while pregnant. Don’t trust a word he says. He will do it again. Get tested for STDs that could harm your pregnancy.

Children are not toys or bargaining chips. This is not a man to spend the next 18 years of your life tethered to if you’re not 100% sure.

You definitely need to do what’s best for you. I would be afraid of the lengths he would go and the manipulation he would use to keep you

I mean ur just gonna make abortion ban easier ur using it as birth control so plz do but when right take ur abortions away u help do that

Oh my god. You should do what feels right for you. And the man’s clearly not the kind of person you can spend the rest of your life with.

He’s only crying because he was caught. And to put that pressure on? He sucks. Do what is right for you and your future.

You already know the situation is bad. You already know what kind of ‘dad’ he’s gonna be. Everyone else can get fucked.

Tell him you need time to think, a baby could bring joy n he’d have to give you child support, move out of his range

If you’re going to leave him you definitely don’t want to have this baby. What was his excuse for cheating, btw?

Say whatever you need to say to everyone. He’s a pos, tell everyone the stress caused you to miscarry.

Him cheating and manipulating you to stay like that should tell you all you need to know about him.

The fact he told everyone to manipulate you speaks fucking volumes. 

End it girl. And move on. 

Do what you want to do! If you listen to other people you will prolly regret later

DO NOT bring a baby into this bullshit!!! That’s would be selfish.

Ignore anything these people say to you, they aren’t in your shoes.

Most miscarriages happen in the first 12 weeks. If anyone asks.

NTA Do it. It’s the only way you will be free of him.

Dont abort the baby. Just run away from this AH.

Don’t go through with the pregnancy

Forgive him and have this baby