Her frustration boils over when she answers the call meant for him, no longer willing to shield his deceit from the consequences. In that moment, the fragile balance shatters, exposing the raw truth of a love tested by neglect and the harsh demands of survival.
My husband (33) has a habit of making up excuses to get out of work. Simply for just not feeling like working on certain days. This has affected us financially because his boss kept lowering his salary as a result.
I had to get a 2nd job. He’s now bought a ps5 from his 14yo cousin and started playing with it day and night. Meanwhile missing work and lying to his boss about why he does it. This time it’s because of bad diarrhea and he couldn’t get off the toilet, that time is because of fever etc etc.
Honestly I got fed up with him ruining his job and causing us money. I told him he needed to knock this off but he told me to stay out of it and focus on my JOBS.
Days ago. He was as,eep after staying up all night playing video games. He’s decided to skip work even though his boss gave him a last warning. His boss called at 8 a.m and I picked up the phone.
He asked where my husband was and whether he was coming to work. I straight up said no, because he was up all night playing video games and decided he wasn’t going next day. His boss ended the call with me then I went to work.
2hrs later, I got a call from my husband panicing saying be found a text from his boss saying he was fired and asked with I told him to get him to do that. I said I told him the truth, but he blew up at me saying he was cooking up an excuses to get his (now former) boss off his back and give him the day off but I went I fucked I all up.
I told him he can’t blame me after the pattern he’s set and the lack of commitment he’s shown to his former boss. He yelled saying I did this to get back at him and to mess with his livelihood.
He hung up but the Nast texts kept coming. I went home and he’s gone completely silent while occasionally venting about how I ruined his job for him when I could’ve lied and told his former boss whatever excuses instead.
Conclusion
The original poster is clearly experiencing extreme financial stress and frustration due to her husband’s repeated job irresponsibility and subsequent job loss. Her decision to tell the truth to his boss stemmed from a point of desperation and a breakdown of trust, directly conflicting with his expectation that she protect his habit of deception.
Given the pattern of financial instability caused by the husband’s deliberate choices, was the wife justified in prioritizing honesty and the reality of their financial situation over maintaining a protective lie for his benefit, or did her intervention constitute an inappropriate overreach into his employment affairs?
Here’s how people reacted:
He ruined it for himself. The job may well suck (most do), but he was engaging in self-destructive behaviour by acting in a manner liable to get himself fired while not having a plan for a new source of income.
btw, this is a RED FLAG.
He sabotaged his job to such an extent that you had to get a second job. He is exercising weaponised incompetence. Has has successfully made you into the sole income for the household, having earlier gotten you to take on extra work to make up for his laziness. Do not be surprised if this is his long-term game-plan. He will be a stay-at-home amateur gamer while you hold down two jobs to provide for his new lifestyle. He will protest strongly that he is job-hunting every day of course. Or he might say he is in a funk because he’s scared that you’ll sabotage his next job (ie blaming you for his failing).
Think long and hard about whether you want this relationship to continue.
I’m laughing.. OP messing with his livehood? The way I read this, it’s was him. Please tell me you all still doesn’t have any kids? Frankly I really don’t want to have a boyfriend, husband or partner that’s ‘mooch’ for a living.
Yes, you can play game all night, have a guys night, hobbies but be fair when it’s come to your household, your partner, wife, gf or family. It’s embarrassing when your woman had to get 2 jobs because, you lazy to go to work.
Find so much lazy guy nowadays.. So pathetic and disgusting.
GET out from that’s relationship op, don’t wait until you burn out! Or until you have children..
He doesn’t sound mature enough to be in any relationship let alone 33 and married with all the financial and emotional responsibilities that comes along with that. Stop supporting him and I’d be carefully thinking if this is what you want your life to be like for the next 40/50/60 years.
Just leave, it’s not going to get better.
Eta: this sounds like financial abuse. Are you and he of similar ages?
If he want to lie, that is down to him, but he should not expect others to keep up with his lies.
At the same time though, you rightly complain about him taking says off and this affecting you financially, and now he doesn’t have a job. Could have been easier to just lie so he kept his job.
If you do have children, you’ll end up doing if not all then most of the caretaking. Get out while you still can.
Your husband needs no explanation, however as a partner it was a crappy thing to do.
You did what you did out of spite and cost your family a level of security.
Oh, and you mean ex-husband, right?