NTA, I do the same thing and my ex also used to get pissed at me for it for the same reasons. He thought that I didn’t believe him or thought he was stupid and had to prove him wrong. For us I think it boiled down to his insecurity about his intelligence because I would often correct him or tell him things he didn’t know. He was a smart guy we just had different areas of interest. I also look up EVERYTHING because I’m a very curious person.

I never knew how to explain that it isn’t that I thought he was wrong, it’s just that I wanted more information. For instance, say I used a word incorrectly in a sentence and he said “that doesn’t mean x, it means y”. I would say something along the lines of “omg, I’ve been using it wrong this whole time? I have to look this up”. And that would upset him.

Of course we would also just get into arguments where we would disagree about a fact that was google-able and that also pissed him off lol. I’m just trying to end the argument!

She shouldn’t take it personally. We all have data that was passed down to us, but was originally incorrect, or information that has changed overtime, or opinions that are filled by emotion, rather than fact. It’s nothing to get pissed at… Depending on how you do it.
When I’m debating a topic, I’ll usually preface it by saying, I haven’t checked the facts on this in a long time, but I read once that… Or… Someone told me once that this was true, but I’ve never looked it up.

Don’t listen to these people.

Your wife sounds like a mansplaining blow hard know it all who hates being called out when she’s spouting things she knows nothing about.

But seriously if you’re being annoying and picky about everything then stop it. But if she’s just getting mad forgetting busted about insisting on things she’s totally clueless about them keep going. It depends on how you’re doing it.

Please don’t do this to your wife. Even though you are not technically TA (the best kind of course), it is still really rude. If you think she is right 95% of the time, let. it. go. You are creating ‘gotcha’ moments. Those are just terrible for married partners. If she is correcting you all the time, that is rude as well. We really don’t have enough information to give you a good opinion.

NTA. I’m a woman, and I look everything up, including fact checking my own statements. Is your wife worried about being proven wrong? Looking things up is a great way to verify info. There’s nothing wrong with that. Plus you might learn something new. I’m always more suspicious of people who refuse to be fact checked or verify accuracy. Then it lets me know something is off.

YTA, but I sympathize, I also do this so I understand. The key is to look it up and just not say anything. No one likes people who go out of their way to show how wrong they are all the time. It is rude. One of the tradeoffs for having information at our fingertips is if you’re going to access it at all times, recognize it’s not always a good time to share.

You need to start researching if *you* ended up being declared correct on something. And then you approach her a day or so later and say “actually, there was this detail I didn’t knew / represented wrong”.
At last, at most ‘correct’ her as often as you are correcting yourself to her.
This is the way to make it not condescending

NTA. I am literally a woman and do the exact same thing whether a woman or man has proven me wrong or provided me info I didn’t know. I do it to understand why I was wrong and to learn more about it. I do it simply to educate myself. Your wife shouldn’t take it so seriously and some of these comments are dumb as.

I am gonna say NTA, but I am biased. My husband has a HUGE bulls&!t meter and tells me the most ridiculous stuff, and he can do it, so sincerely, I can never tell if he is being truthful or not. He would make an excellent actor/comedian, but it is so frustrating in a marriage.

Google things! All the things!

NTA. Also, I’m pretty sure this is an ADHD thing. My husband and I both have ADHD, and this is 100% us. We are always looking up something weird or to check for accuracy. I mean, sometimes you just desperately need to know what the laws are on lingonberries in Sweden.

NTA

I would find that really cool. I’m often too lazy to confirm interesting facts myself so I appreciate when others do it instead.

I do always say “I’m not sure, but I think that…”
When talking about a fact whose source I forgot or with an unreputable source.

YTA – how many times does she have to say it before you are willing to believe her? Put your phone down and be in the room with her. The specific details are not important. She just wants to connect to you.

The information will be there when she’s not.

NTA. When people spout stuff off that sounds either interesting or blatantly wrong, I google it. I like to see the image search results for arc furnaces and find out the forums for people who think colloidal gold will give them psychic powers.

IDK. l have the same issue with my bf. l‘m doing research to verify what he told me in order to educate myself, and he calls me rude and we get into a huge fight. l‘m very confused why someone gets upset at someone for fact-checking things.

You have to be smart about these things, don’t research in front of her in the middle of the argument. Do it later and learn from it, if she egregiously wrong then politely correct her and make sure you have the full evidence. 

This completely depends on how you do it. There is a way to do this that conveys that you are interested and grateful that she taught you something, and you want to learn more.

I doubt that this is how it’s coming across.

Low effort post.

We had the supposed wife roll in a few days to complain about “you”

What joy do people get from trying to pretend they’re the villains from another (successful) post? 

YTA – you literally DO do it to provw if she’s right or not. Don’t try and kid yourself otherwise.

Eirhe way though she has told you many times it annoys her and you continue so YTA

Nta at all, I think it shows a higher intelligence and self actualization when people research instead of blindly accepting what other people say. It’s not an insult to your wife 

NAH.
Women are used to being second guessed and doubted even if they’re experts in their fields.

You are allowed to research. Just don’t do it in front of her.

If someone tells me something that doesn’t make sense to me, I look it up. My brain comprehends better reading it than listening to it. I’m also autistic though.

INFO: is this a new habit that’s cropped up or have you always been someone who likes to fact check and research? I mean… didn’t she marry you, knowing this?

NTA – I could see how some people find it annoying, but my wife and I both do this to each other all the time. We would both rather know when we’re wrong.

YTA.  Women are always right.  You should do your research later.  Even if what she tell you is wrong, you don’t really have a choice if you are married.

Does your wife correct you and give you gotcha moments butterflies you can’t check facts or learn more. Not really fair in my opinion

Info : what’s the timing ? Do you do it later in the evening or immediatly ? Maybe do it later if you want to continue

It seems I am your wife. YTA it is annoying as f*** especially when male buddies do not get the same fact checking.