Yet peace is shattered when her conservative parents, steadfast in their loyalty to a party whose rhetoric wounds her deeply, visit her home. Their cold dismissal of humanity for political allegiance strikes at the core of her values, igniting a silent but fierce conflict between love, identity, and the relentless weight of ideological betrayal.
I (38F) have a rare condition where my body rejections estrogen and any amount slightly greater than my usual makes me retch (as easy as taking two birth controls at once (oops)). It’s been inferred that ANY extra estrogen stressors would make me dangerously ill, pregnancy would be the worst.
Not sure about breast cancer, but my file comes with a lot of, “What to do in case of X.” I eventually got my reproductive parts removed and have been happy ever since.
I’m Canadian. My parents (70F, 69M) are Conservative voters, which is basically RepublicanLite for all you Americans. They were over, and I’ve already been passively scolding them since I found out in the last election that they voted for a guy who compared Palestinians to either rats or cockroaches that needed to be exterminated.
“But we’re voting for the PARTY!” they proclaim. “Not the person.”
“Oh? The party where most of the members either want or are allowed to have a free vote if abortion legislation is proposed? The one that is anti-pro choice? The same one that wouldn’t recognize my medical condition (No-Name-Brand is the best), and would just try to intubate me and shove tubes in my arms and gut so they could “keep me alive” for the baby?
The party that would rather if I SUFFER and DIE?! That party?”
Watching my Dad kind of grin and quibble at the same time is just… something… since his best defense was, “Trudeau is doing nothing about crime!”
“You’d be voting for a party that would be happy if I suffered and die!” (To a hypothetical pregnancy I cannot have but my way-too-many-doctors know is lethal.)
“But the crime! How can you know they’ll ban it (abortions) if they’re not elected?”
I then screamed at them to “Read their party platform and to GET THE FUCK OUT OF MY HOUSE!” If they can’t respect me and my life even if this is something that is impossible now, I don’t want them around because clearly their ‘principles’ have more standing than the safety of their only daughter.
My mom bawled her eyes out when I kicked them out. I feel gutted. Sure, it’s not something that would hurt me now, but the thought of maybe (younger) me or someone else ending up in the ER and being denied care because their requests for an abortion are “not enough to justify it for medical reasons” is just saddening.
AITA for giving ultimatums over a bunch of hypotheticals?
Conclusion
The original poster (OP) reached an emotional breaking point, demanding her parents leave after a severe political disagreement rooted in her life-threatening medical condition. Her conflict stems from her parents prioritizing their political affiliation over acknowledging the real danger that restrictive reproductive policies pose to her specific health needs, even though she is no longer at risk of pregnancy.
Given that the OP’s extreme reaction resulted in her parents leaving in tears, the central debate is whether expressing such firm moral boundaries regarding one’s fundamental right to medical safety justifies immediately expelling family members, or if the conflict should have been managed through less confrontational means, even when deeply held political beliefs clash with personal safety concerns.
Here’s how people reacted:
My state opted to just let me die if I got pregnant.
There is NO WAY my parents would ever have voted for or supported a party that was fine with killing me to get a few more weeks of nonviable pregnancy. The fact that it would have left the little girl I did have without a mom is also a no-go for them (had her before my body decided that my blood was my enemy and must all be destroyed).
If you hadn’t gotten your surgery, the party they support would have required your death. Nope, done, gone, outta there.
“How do you know they’ll do it?” Well they said they were going to do it and they’re seeking the means to do it therefore they’re either lying, in which case you shouldn’t vote for them, or they’re telling the truth, in which case you shouldn’t vote for them.
It’s a bad faith argument endemic to conservative thought, and you have no obligation to indulge it in your home or anywhere, family or not.
You have to realize that the Tories have not always been the party they are today. They created the CBC. They brought in the Canada Health Act. As much as I hated Mulroney for many things, he led the way that forced the apartheid government in South Africa to finally allow for majority rule.
Old folks like me are likely to associate the party with that legacy – not this hard right iteration it has become.
Don’t tell people who to vote for. Your love and loyalty is conditional. Yea you are a terribly narcissistic person. Sorry about your medical condition. I hope you are doing better!
and hateful politics more than Trudeau. You’ve clearly bought in to that, and you’re using it on your parents. You haven’t changed anybody’s mind, you haven’t made anything better, you’ve just told people who see things differently than you to F off. Sorry, but YTA here.
I will say YTA. Politics is decisive. You are going to encounter or have people in your life with opepsiing views. In fact it is GOOD to have an opposition view challenge your beliefs. Living in an echo chamber is not good.
Youve essentially kicked your parents out for being conservative. They didn’t start any shot at the table
The arrogance to think that you deserve any special treatment and can be that disrespectful to your elderly parents because they have differing political views. My god.
You are the problem and anyone like you should feel great shame. But we’re on Reddit so you’ll get your pats on the back from the other children masquerading as adults.
Darling, I’m in the states. So it’s hell here. I’ve cut my family off for voting for a man who wants my mere existence to be removed.
There is NOTHING wrong with protecting your peace and well being and sometimes that means we have to remove people from our lives who work to harm us, even when that’s blood family.
Acceptance doesn’t mean alignment. You don’t have to agree, to accept. I hope you can build a bridge back to your loved ones.
The very last thing Canada needs right now is trump dick sucking Pierre to gain control. The US probably wouldn’t even have to invade then. Fucker would probably just hand us over.
I’m a bit tired of people saying we shouldn’t discuss politics.
If politics are going to literally kill us then we should be discussing it