NTA as your fiancée is absolutely being shallow, and excessive to the extreme. There are plenty of ways around this for her to have some ‘perfect’ photos too – I went to a wedding where the bride had a list of groups she wanted posed pics with, beyond family/bridal party, like college friends etc.

Plus, get all the bridal party to hold the bouquet the way sister can, one less difference.

Your accident prone/outdoorsy sister isn’t 100% free of fault either. She wanted you to keep this from your fiancée, to achieve what, exactly? Still get to be a bridesmaid but spark unexpected drama on the day?

She’s known for getting into scrapes and couldn’t play it safe for just a couple of weeks? How often you need to collect her and that it was even a topic to bring up speaks volumes.

Hmmmm ESH. Your bride to be sucks because she’s being materialistic, but it’s understandable she wants nice photos. She’s willing to break up over this which I feel is blowing things out of proportion and she shouldn’t end her relationship with YOU over something your* sister has done

She DID warn your sister about injuries before the wedding. So it was something your sister knew, and decided to do risky things anyways. Your sister was fully aware that she’d be reduced to guest for the wedding and relied on YOU to tell your fiancé instead of confessing herself.

You suck because you’re refusing to see how your sister chose to be reckless so close to the wedding, and you’re expecting your fiancé to compromise on something she already said she wouldn’t compromise on.

“\[Lune\] did ask me not to tell Amber which I thought was weird.”

“Amber then told me that she’d told Luna that if she had any injuries to her face in the run up to the wedding then Amber was going to make Luna just a guest.”

“I’m being an asshole for not prioritising Amber and her feelings… Luna knew what the consequences of getting hurt so close to the wedding would be.”

Your wife is 100% right. She saw this coming. She told Luna what would happen if she got crazy and messed up her face. And what does Luna do? Does a face plant on her bike. Then told you to lie to your fiancé about it.

You absolutely took your sisters side over your wife’s. That means YTAH.

Your wife-to-be is definitely an AH! How shallow of her to want to remove your sister from the wedding party over her injuries! I wouldn’t even have thought about it but instead would have called or seen your sister to make sure she is ok! 🤦🏻‍♀️ I don’t know how long you’ve been dating before you got engaged. BUT, even to consider canceling the wedding because you put your foot down for your sister is a big red flag! I’m sorry, you have a lot to think about and consider. Good luck! And I hope your sister is doing much better now. 💖

look, I’m not always a cut them loose type of person, I often feel things can be talked out but if I was getting married again, made that mistake before, and my future husband said my brother couldn’t be in the wedding over appearance? Uh, bye. I’m 43 and my brother is my best friend. He’s actually autistic and we’re pretty close so I would never be able to be with someone that couldn’t accept him. Your fiancé sounds shallow af and your sister sounds awesome lol let her know i could use some cool friends!

Tell her that you care more about your sister than pictures and a vision she has. If she wants her out of the bridal party then *she* needs to be the one to do it. She was the one who set the terms and conditions, not you.

No matter how perfect the pictures are, hardly anyone is going to ask to see them. They’ll look through them when they are posted on social media, and that’s about it.

You could always ask the photographer to photophobia lunas eyes/nose to appear less swollen too.

NTA

Your extremely materialistic fiancé realizes that photos can be edited right?

She just wants an Instagram wedding and she doesn’t care Who’s there to fill the slots. Beware of people who care more about appearances than actual quality. They tend to be self-centered and make terrible partners in the long run. She’s also starting off your marriage on a sour note and she doesn’t even seem to care… you will be living with this woman for the rest of your life. Choose wisely.

I knew a girl from work who had to have the perfect wedding. It was really expensive, but she didn’t care. I asked questions about her soon to be husband (name, where he works, what he is like). She gave me a funny look and said she didn’t want to talk about HIM, just about HER wedding.
Surprise, surprise, the marriage didn’t last but a month or so.
Lesson to learn, take her up on the offer to cancel, and then thank your lucky stars for dodging that bullet.

Your sister had an accident and your fiancé is worried about her “perfect pictures”. She is worried so much about her “vision” she would rather not marry you because you want your whole family a part of your next chapter of life. What would she had done if you or her were in an accident? Replace you or herself with a “perfect” duplicate?

May not seem like it, to you, now, but sounds like you dodged a bullet there OP.

NTA

While I think Amber is out of line, it doesn’t sound like your sister is her bridesmaid because they get along. And it’s weird that your sister gets injured so frequently. It honestly seems intentional and I’m saying that as someone who is injured more frequently.

ESH. You care more about your sister than your future wife’s desires & she cares more about aesthetics than your sister.

I actually think you and your sister are AH , if she needed a cast no but thin, then yes and your sister should have called your finance and told
Her what
Happened and she wants to be just a guest .

You do realize you told
Yournwife she and what’s important to her is never going to be more important thsn your family . Hopefully there is still
A wedding

Nta. Looks like your dodging a bullet.
” Dear Ember, I heard that you are thinking about cancelling the wedding. I agree. If esthetics are more important than the people in OUR lives and that you’re so quick to discard my family in OUR wedding, it doesn’t show me a good side of you and I’m not sure I want to start a family with someone like this”

NTA, her “vision” is more important that the inclusion of your sister in the wedding? It’s not just HER wedding, it’s yours as well. This will be only the beginning of “her way or no way”, so you’d honestly be better off if the wedding is cancelled and you both move on. Do yourself a favor and cut her loose.

NTA. Why does your sister have injuries though? They might be pretty constant for someone to ask her to to get hurt especially the face close to the wedding.
I injury prone, I almost always have cuts, bruises and burns. Rarely the face though. Why was she punched before her wedding? Is she safe?

NTA, Excluding someone over a broken nose is beyond ridiculous. I get it she wants it to be a perfect image but news flash life isn’t always perfect. Weddings aren’t meant for the aesthetic, they’re suppose to be showcasing your love for your partner with your family and friends

What happens if you have a child with special needs who doesn’t fit her esthetic of a perfect family?
You’re not picking your sister over your fiancé. What you’re choosing is having people who you love share your day, no matter what they look like. NTA

My two cents. I would never ask someone who had been injured to remove themselves from my wedding party because of their injuries. I am also someone who had I been the one injured would immediately offer to withdraw myself from their wedding party.

This would be a hill I would die on. And if she would consider cancelling the entire wedding over 1 person who isn’t the groom but it extremely close to the groom, then maybe Op needs to rethink the relationship altogether. NTA

NTA. Let her cancel the wedding! She’s more interested in a wedding than building a life with you and combing families. And on top of that, she wants to solve a disagreement with threats? Yeah, she’s a loser.

Obviously you’d pick your sister if you were forced to? What a disgusting ultimatum your (hopefully ex) fiance has given you. Uck. She’s the one prioritizing one day over your literal SISTER. 

YTA for not making your sister part of your party. He’s your sister. She’s important to you. Make her a groomswoman.

NTA for not treating your wedding party as props but as people.

NTA. If she calls it off you know you dodged a bullet. Imagine if your sister had backed out first due to that earlier request, you might not know how shallow your partner is.

*she’s extremely outdoorsy and active so her calling to be picked up from the hospital isn’t unusual.*

This isn’t concerning? At all?

NTA. Your finace is tho. Remove her.

Amber’s showing you who she is before the wedding. Lucky guy. Now you know what you’re getting into.
I’d cancel the wedding immediately after this.

Amber has explained very clearly who she is and what her priorities are, now you get to decide if you want to legally tie yourself to her.

So it’s her way or no way? Run Forest run! This is a sign of things to come, don’t really want to go down that road? NTA!

“Sorry, but i’m considering canceling the wedding because your vision of how we treat family does not align with mine.”

NTA. Amber is more concerned for pictures than for people. Cut her loose, and consider yourself Neo during bullet time.

YTA

The bride has final say 9n the bridal participants (bridesmaids). Your sister knew to atay uninjured. She didn’t.

NTA – have to ask though, if you fell over the day before the wedding, would she remove or replace you, too?

YTA

Bridesmaids are hers, so her decission.

You can have your sister on your side, though.

This is the fakest story ive ever read with the worst crumbs of rage bait. Do better!

Welcome to the rest of your life. Amber is giving you an out, take it and run!

Dodging a bullet. When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

Her ‘vision’ should be of your marriage. Not the wedding.

Your fiance is mean spirited. Not a good character trait.

Yta. Why isn’t your wedding atleast postponed by now?

Red flags everywhere and serious bridezilla vibes.

NTA. Amber just showed her true colors.

photoshop exist i’m just saying