Apparently everyone in the comments seems to magically know OP is not wearing underwear, which imo is kinda creepy on their part. Since when did internet strangers get so good at telling if people are wearing undies?

Regardless, either OP is completely clueless and the comments are right, in which case the couple is terrible at communicating (why wouldn’t they just say “we can see ur balls goddammit” and get over it instead of bickering with someone who clearly doesn’t understand them? Is it not more awkward for them to make such a massive fuss over it compared to just telling OP what’s going on?).

Like if someone had, idk, a wardrobe accident and their tits were spilling out of a rip in their shirt or something, I wouldn’t say “your shirt makes me uncomfortable, please go change,” and then refuse to elaborate when they say their shirt is fine. Like, I would clarify why I think the shirt is not fine? Cuz they might not have realized and they just think I’m being weird? Cuz clearly OP seems to think their shorts are normal, I *doubt* OP would feel the same way if he knew his balls were out like people are suggesting.

Idk at least to me, it seems like either OP is clueless and the couple is bad at communicating, or the couple are straight up dicks. In either case, it’s hard to call someone clueless “an asshole,” so NTA ig? Also, the other cousin is clearly just an AH. They don’t know a thing about the situation and are ready to tell someone off for wearing fucking shorts.

>AITA for disagreeing that I shouldn’t wear shorts because a girl finds me wearing them uncomfortable?

No

>AITA for completely disagreeing?

Yes

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To explain…

>telling me not to wear shorts cos you are uncomfortable is crazy no? Why do I need to change what I wear to accommodate someone else? Am I being the asshole and arrogant here?

Vs

>I am happy to not wear shorts as its her house end of the day.

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I know that you believe that you’re being reasonable because you have told yourself that you’re happy not to wear shorts at the end of the day; however, your belief is not echoed by everything else that your conversation has expressed.

Let’s be honest here… You’re not happy about it. It bothers you. You have reasons it bothers you. You want to express those reasons.

Those are all valid things.

But, completely disagreeing and being disagreeable are not the same thing. You are allowing your disagreeability to create a situation that makes you completely disagree before allowing your better judgment to shine through.

…

All that is to say… It’s fine to disagree, but don’t compromise your willingness to be agreeable in the process. You can do both simultaneously.

NAH ’cause obviously the OP doesn’t get it, but OP and guys in general, y’all need to know that depending on how you’re sitting **people can DEFINITELY see up the leg of your shorts all the way up to your man-tackle.**

And because of how things “sit” from that angle, what we can usually see most of is a big splayed out clump of your balls, because you’re sitting so it’s like they’re set out on the table.

And you try not to look but they’re RIGHT THERE.

And also guys, did you know, when you’re sitting like that that your balls move around independently quite a bit? I don’t know if y’all can feel that but they damn sure do.

So it’s like *trying to not look* at two hamsters fighting in a wrinkly, hairy bag.

I’m never upset about it because who cares it’s just body parts, but clearly the GF is, so take it under advisement OP, she’s the only one that has said anything to you but she’s not the only one you’ve been (accidentally, I get that)…subjecting to OP’s DEEZ NUTZ show.

So now that you’ve found out, adjust your wardrobe or you will be TA because nobody bought a ticket to see that.

It is quite an appeasement to see yet another example of how hypocrisy is just another (legit) part of life and there are no exact rights or wrongs.

A lot of modern drama is to tell ,mainly male specimens, that you can’t tell a lady (or man/anything inbetween or outside.) how to dress. “She should cover up” < “Tell men not to be horny pervs”

However, it becomes totally different when it’s the other way around. (Disclaimer, in my beliefs its totally right to ask someone, regardless of who they are, to cover up if you feel uncomfortable with them. And i get this goes for ladies moreso than men.)

Makes me wonder, is Hypocrisy maybe just a bit more a matter of perspective instead of being a factuality?

What kind of shorts are you wearing? And do you have a habit of manspreading? My guess is that she’s been flashed by you before and instead of calling you out in front of everyone she decided to have your cousin ask you privately.

I think it’s clear what they meant, but maybe it wasn’t clear to you? Idk I have been flashed many times before and it’s uncomfortable. Do you think maybe you can be honest with yourself and see if there is a possibility that she did see you.

In the grand scheme of things you should wear pants for one day. Also, if one person has been possibly flashed, she’s not gonna be the first. Other people might have been to embarrassed to call it out before.

INFO: Are you going commando??
Everything about this seems like you aren’t wearing underwear, sitting in a comfortable wide stance and yes, your junk become visible to whoever you are facing.

I personally hate wearing underwear – but it’s also my responsibility when I don’t, to make sure I am not wear clothing like shorts with a loose fit where I’m inadvertently “flashing” other people.

If you are are freeballing, then it’s an obvious YTA, as it’s indecent exposure
If you are wearing boxer briefs or tighty-whiteys, than NTA as no one is seeing anything that wouldn’t be fully allowed as public beachwear.

My first view of male genitalia was thanks to shorts. Even long ones with loose legs will revel the family jewels in certain positions or movements.

Do you wear undies?

She’s trying to politely tell you that she’s seeing more of you than she’s comfortable with and asking you to stop – at least at her home.

Women wearing revealing clothing is a different situation altogether. I know it doesn’t seem fair, but a man showing you his junk can feel very aggressive and threatening to a woman. Even if it’s unintentional.

YTA you’re probably exposing yourself and not realizing it but if you act blind to that fact than your responsible….
The comments saying it’s not comparable to when women wear revealing clothes or no bra are wrong…it’s the same they should accommodate too.
Yes we can wear what we want but common courtesy is to think of those around you.

It’s like the neighbour that doesn’t care for their lawn at all….yes it’s their house but it’s put neighborhood we all have to look at it….do better

NTA. She needs to control herself and not look at you that way. At least, that would’ve been the response had the situation been reversed. But out of politeness, either don’t wear them to her house or wear underwear beneath them. Imagine telling her you’re uncomfortable with her low cut top or short skirt or whatever. Would she extend the same courtesy to you? Ultimately you get to wear whatever you want, just like she gets to. It’s just a matter if you want to accommodate her or not.

YTA dude. You obviously don’t wear underwear under your shorts (this is dumb by the way), and you don’t sit with your knees together. No matter what you think, people can see your dick and balls. No one has mentioned it because it’s embarrassing and they don’t want to say anything, but it’s definitely visible.

Get some boxer briefs, the kind that are loose around the junk, but hold tight to the legs. Wear that under your shorts from now on. No one wants to see your junk.

I am leaning towards NTA. But I have a feeling that this girl lack the words to tell you that you are man spreading. Just close your legs when you are out in public so you don’t present your private parts to the world. Girls have to think about the same wearing skirts or tights. But I regularly see boys and girls “hit” everybody in people’s faces with their private parts without even thinking about it. And it is uncomfortable for everyone.

What’s the undies situation? Maybe that’s the real issue. If you’re freeballin or wearing loose undies your boys might be visible. Otherwise, I see value in both compromising for her comfort when in her home and also just wear what you want. Ultimately no one has a right to tell you what to wear. But we all also make choices for other people’s comfort to either be polite or because it’s the path of least resistance.

NAH, just wear underwear that contain your willy and balls and you can wear the shorts. I don’t think being a man means caving in to others demands of you if you don’t think they’re appropriate, I’d argue it’s the opposite, you shouldn’t bend to placate other people where it’s not reasonable to do so, but if your willy is hanging out or visible then it’s a different story.

YTA compromise is wearing briefs under your shorts instead of boxers so that people can’t see your junk every time you sit on the couch.

It’s not the same as telling a woman not to wear a crop top. It’d the same as telling a woman not to wear a skirt without panties and then spread her legs when she sits. Which would also be a reasonable request.

I’m guessing that if one chick saw OP’s balls then more than one chick saw OP’s balls if all he wears is shorts. Is any other chick or person saying not to wear shorts? Or, does this chick have issues? Fuck it, don’t even go over. Do something else, somewhere else, all while wearing shorts.

dude, your junk was visible on at least one occasion obviously and she doesn’t want to be subjected to that again. it’s her house. dont make a big deal about. Respect her request and stop making it. thing.

Leg day is clearly working when the sight of your thunder thighs is making people flustered. What type of shorts are you wearing around boy! lol good on you for not wearing shorts to their place btw

Be thankful that she’s bringing to your attention, as not many people would, that you’re flashing your bits to unconsenting people.

And if you already did know and choose to ignore – YTA

Quoting OP: “my shorts go up to my knees literally.” Ok so how is anything hanging out? Cant you idiots read? Or you don’t want to and just want to rag (yes RAG) on the GUY?

Grow up and wear fucking pants. Wearing shorts all the time is your “thing” and your thing is douchey. Derp I wear shorts in the winter look how thermoregulated I am, derp.

Give me your hand.. put your nuts away. You can’t go commando in basketball shorts without giving everyone a free show. That’s the point here my friend.

Gentle YTA. You’ve been showing more than you thought. Shes doing you a favor by telling you and not letting you keep flashing friends and family.

Alright my guy, here’s what I need you to do. Pull up the show Friends and turn on episode 13 of season 3. That’ll tell you all you need to know

Show everyone your cock and balls, then seeing your thighs won’t be a big deal. I wear short shorts! It’s not easy having beautiful legs 🤘🏻

NTA, but I think what we learned here is that you need better undies so she sees them instead of dick and balls if she looks up the leg.

> She said it shows my thighs and a bit more higher up.

Dude. What’s “a bit higher up” than your thighs?

Think about it

Post pic of wearing shorts while in sitting position. This should clear up the validity of uncomfortable claims.