As Nana retreats into silence, the warmth they once shared feels like a fading ember, igniting a painful uncertainty about what lies ahead. In this tender moment of doubt, the raw complexities of love, acceptance, and self-discovery come crashing down, revealing how fragile even the strongest connections can be.
I (20M) have been in a relationship with my very wonderful girlfriend Nana (21F) for a couple years, we were really close as kids and started dating around freshman year of highschool.
If you asked either of us about any aspect of our relationship, we’d tell you how it’s all absolutely perfect.
That is, except for our intimate life. Don’t get me wrong, it’s good, but dear god it feels absolutely frustrating sometimes, Nana keeps wanting to experiment but it gets really annoying on my end at times.
Recently, she decided she wanted for us to try and switch roles, or in simpler terms, straight up peg me (Oh god I hate admitting this.), usually I’d give and she’d receive, but she wanted to experiment differently.
We did the deed and I personally enjoyed myself a lot, and I thought she did too.
A few days pass and she gradually distances herself and doesn’t even kiss or hug me, so I decided to sit her down and talk. It was going well until she said “Are you gay?? You shouldn’t have enjoyed our intimacy that much.” Safe to say I was absolutely baffled, I tried to elaborate the fact that I’m attracted to her and only her.
And don’t get me wrong, I’m not homophobic, but WHAT?
She immediately told me to hush and that we need a break so she can rethink some stuff, I tried to again explain myself, but she just totally broke down and I just decided to leave it at that.
It’s been a week now and I’m worried about her and worried I fucked up.
Conclusion
The original poster (OP) is experiencing significant emotional distress because an intimate experience suggested by his girlfriend resulted in her immediate withdrawal and accusations questioning his sexuality. The central conflict lies in the OP embracing an activity his partner proposed, only to be rejected and judged by her afterward for enjoying it, leading to confusion and worry.
Given the girlfriend’s sudden negative reaction to the OP enjoying a mutually agreed-upon role reversal, the core question remains: Is it fair for one partner to suggest an intimate experiment and then punish or question the other partner’s sexual identity based solely on their enjoyment of that specific act?
Here’s how people reacted:
First, If she does even a modicum of research, she could realize that many people will say the male g-spot is a few inches in there. Most guys who relax enough to do it, enjoy it.
Second, being gay has to do with wanting sex with other males. If you aren’t interested in sex with another male, you’re not gay. End of story. (Assuming honest with self etc etc). But certainly nothing about enjoying being pegged by your gf even remotely suggests you would enjoy sex with a male.
Third, even if you did like guys, that wouldn’t necessarily mean you didn’t like her. It would be possible you were bisexual.
And especially given that she wanted this, it’s just weird that she’s all upset by it now. Honestly, if she keeps this up, I know it’ll hurt now, but you’ll have dodged a long term bullet. Because she’s being ridiculously weird and kind of anti-queer in some way.
Good luck
For me, I am one kinky bitch. But trust and believe I never want to see my man in the submissive position of being fucked in the ass. For her to mentally work up the desire for that (our imaginations work just fine) and then still follow through with it AND now be weirded out??? Yeah… she wanted out. She suspects you’re gay and thought you would refuse or immediately stop her. She was testing you. And in her mind you failed. But again. Your prostate don’t move regardless of who you like sleeping by with.
There is nothing wrong with high school sweet hearts. But this is what tends to happen. You grow and learn you’re not sexually compatible.
Like others have said, it’s concerning that your gf wanted to try it and got upset you liked it. Maybe ask her if she expected you to hate it. Even if she is cool with gay people, she might be innately prejudiced/homophobic. So many stereotypes need to be broken.
If she can’t get past this, then y’all weren’t meant to be. At least you know something new you like!
But she initiated it, and we all know there is a spot in a males ass that feels good (I don’t have experience like you do tho but from what I read shit was 🔥) so it’s very weird she comes with this. Imagine you would tell her “are you trans” afterwards since she liked giving it to you?
Would break up with her and find a women who will give you backshots without making a scene💯 get your G spot tingled homie
Never tried it myself, but I have heard of a woman sticking the finger up a man ass during sex and it increases his orgasm.
It may have something to do with the prostate. You could probably google it and get answers.
Your main problem is that a man is not designed to take it in the ass.
And for that matter, neither is a woman.
We have perfectly designed equipment to go into the correct spot.
The ass is for shit and nothing else.
However, she kind of is.
Whether something is gay or not depends on who you do it with, consensually. Nothing else.
Not the act in and of itself, nothing.
Even then, you could just as much be bisexual hence still be quite into her.
If anything, you being gay does NOT warrant shushing you and breaking down.
She has some soul searching to do
She wasn’t for you either way. Good riddance. Best of luck with whatever comes next
Congratulations, you let your girlfriend emasculate you and now she doesn’t see you as a man. Believe it or not, outside of Reddit this is very much seen as gay. I would say you both fucked up in this situation. Her for wanting to do this and being shocked by the obvious outcome and you for willingly doing it and being shocked at the outcome.
Her shit testing you is immature, and it sounds like you dodged a bullet. Go find someone who is a better match for you.
Sorry, man.
You know now, that it was a test?
You also know she’s going to tell everyone she knows?
Sometimes you have to fight irrational with irrational.
She’s dumb.