AITA for calling my brother and sister ‘Jaime and Cersei Lannister’?

In the quiet corners of a family home, an unconventional bond unfolds between a brother and sister, their affection expressed through lingering hugs and gentle kisses that blur the lines of typical sibling behavior. Their intimate moments, filled with whispered conversations and tender gestures, create a world where comfort and closeness reign, yet leave an observer tangled in a web of confusion and discomfort.

Caught between love and societal norms, the narrator wrestles with feelings of embarrassment and bewilderment, struggling to reconcile their siblings’ unusual closeness with their own sense of normalcy. The attempt to label their behavior with a sharp nickname only deepens the rift, exposing the fragile boundaries of family dynamics and the painful challenge of accepting what feels inexplicably strange.

AITA for calling my brother and sister ‘Jaime and Cersei Lannister’?

My brother (24) and sister (17) do this really weird thing sometimes where they hug and kiss (on the cheek) for 10-20 mins. Like, she’ll be sitting on his knee (sometimes with her arms around him) while he’s doing work on his laptop and they’ll be hugging while talking or and kissing each other on the cheek.

Sometimes they lick each other’s ear along with kisses on the forehead and stuff.

It’s just really really weird and it embarrasses me. They’d never do it in public or in front of others but it’s just so weird, like I’m a pretty unusual guy so if I say it’s weird, then it’s pretty damn weird.

So anyway I called them Jaime and Cersei Lannister to try and get them to stop. They took offence at that and were upset with me for like a day. Was I the asshole there?

Here’s how people reacted:

littlescream

NTA – This is odd behavior and makes me concerned that she has been groomed. There’s a lot of things even in my past that I thought was normal at the time and didn’t realize it wasn’t until I was an adult. For example, my dad used to drink beer while driving my brother and I around. I didn’t think much of it because it happened all the time and was normal to me; now as a adult it’s clear my father is an alcoholic. Your sister might have been exposed to a lot of odd/ abusive behavior growing up and now thinks it’s normal. Maybe try to talk to her in a respectful way to see if she will open up. I hope that this is just weird sibling behavior rather than something worse.

discombobulationgirl

I’m from the deep south (not Alabama) and married into a New Jersey Italian family and was weirded out for the first few years of being kissed on the cheek by my BIL, but it’s normal in their family. NEVER, EVER would anyone on either side of our family be okay with what OPs brother and sister are doing. Honestly, I’d probably have called CPS when I first saw this and realized the mother wasn’t trying to intervene. Lap sitting stops in our families when a child is old enough to see over the table while sitting in a chair. I feel like I need a shower just from reading this. Also, NTA. Run!

Droneoflife

NTA- I get that siblings do weird crap together, me and my siblings are having a contest to see who licks the most elbows (out of our family, and it only counts if they don’t know.) They’ll lick us forhead to chin, but the kissing and sitting and cuddling is really weird if they aren’t little. I don’t think I’ve been within my brothers striking distance since he was a toddler without getting smacked for years.

chooch57

NTA & I really hate to jump to conclusions but there’s a 7 year age gap & you said they’ve been like this for about a decade…so her 7 & him 14???
This screams grooming.
So no you’re not an asshole for calling them out on this weird incesty behavior. Sibling affection is fine but cuddling/licking/kissing excessively for 20+ minutes? That’s more than normal sibling affection.

commodorecliche

INFO: Do they date other people? If so, how do they act towards their respective partners? God I hate even asking that, but this level of affection is not normal between siblings and it makes me wonder if there is more going on behind the scenes with them. Especially since this apparently started when he was 14 and she was 7…

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YTA. That sounds like a really odd sibling relationship, but some people are more comfortable with physical affection than others so I don’t think they’re assholes.

While calling them incestuous villain characters is kind of funny from an outside perspective, it was a dick move.

FatManJay

NTA – By far. If anything I would have said much more.

People on here talking about affection. A hug and kiss on the cheek and that’s it. 20+ minutes of sitting on his lap, licking his ear and constant kisses? Must have the whole lot of Alabama on reddit today.

_swimdown

I’m gunna got with YTA because although they’re a bit wierd you’re the stranger one for seeing siblings show love and affection and making it sexual. As well as calling them that I front of them of bound to make them uncomfortable

Heathen15

YTA. If you think something untoward it’s going on you should first bring it up with your parents instead of resorting to name calling.

Besides that, this just doesn’t ring true for me. Sounds more made up for the controversy

nononoohgodno

NTA

That’s…just fucking weird. The lap sitting and the licking are what cross the line for me, I could deal with extended cuddling but licking each other’s ears? Jesus what are they, cats?

misfitx

This sounds like grooming because of the age difference. How long has it been going on? She’s underage, instead of shaming her you need to talk to her and see if she’s being sexually abused.

cadavarsti

NTA.

And PLEASE share this with Social Service / Child Protecion Service in your city. If they’re doing this since she’s 7 years old, it’s clearly abuse.

OneTwoWee000

NTA

~~Tyrion~~ I mean OP, you know something isn’t clean in the water about this dynamic.

It’s disturbing your mother doesn’t intervene.

speedycat2014

NTA. No one should feel like a third wheel around their siblings. Or around **any** siblings, for that matter.\*

\* Except in Alabama

IncredibleGonzo

NTA that is indeed *extremely* weird – and the fact that they don’t do it in public suggests they are well aware of that.

Iloandstitch

NTA. That’s how I act with my husband. Anyone who doesn’t see that as inappropriate between siblings has got issues.

Conclusion

The original poster (OP) found their younger siblings’ prolonged physical affection—hugging, kissing on the cheek, and ear licking—to be deeply uncomfortable and strange, leading them to voice their discomfort by comparing them to the controversial Lannister siblings.

The core conflict lies between the OP’s need for personal boundaries and comfort regarding observed behavior versus the siblings’ right to maintain their specific, affectionate dynamic in private. Was calling the siblings ‘Jaime and Cersei Lannister’ a necessary, albeit harsh, attempt to address boundary violations, or was it an inappropriate, punitive reaction that caused unwarranted offense?