Neighbor kept joking I should become a US citizen so I told him I’d die fighting it

A Canadian visitor to the USA finds themselves caught between admiration and frustration. They cherish everything about America—the vibrant spirit, the warmth of its people, the proud, unyielding attitude—but face a constant, dismissive “joke” that threatens their national identity. Despite their love for the States, their heart beats fiercely for Canada, a country they hold sacred and fiercely independent.

When a neighbor casually jests about Canada becoming the 51st state, the visitor’s quiet pride erupts into a powerful declaration: they would fight and die before ever surrendering their homeland. In that moment, the line between friendly banter and deep allegiance becomes painfully clear—love for a country isn’t a joke, and defending one’s sovereignty is a sacred vow.

Neighbor kept joking I should become a US citizen so I told him I’d die fighting it

I’m a Canadian visiting the USA for the winter. I love America. Totally love it. The weather, the people, even the “rah rah I’m AmErIkUa! best in the world” attitude. You go America.

You have a lot to be proud of.

And my neighbors are the best too. But I am so sick of the “Hey you guys are going to be the 51st state soon!” “Joke”. FUCK THAT. I love my own country too. Much as I love the USA, I am Canadian first and we are proudly independent.

Hard as it is to wrap an American mind around the concept, there are actually people who love visiting the USA, love the USA, but do not wish to be Americans.

Would an American like to be told by say Cuba that soon the USA would be invaded and annexed? Hell no you would not.

So the other day a neighbor did the “joke” again “Bet you can’t wait to be the 51st state!” and I said “that can not happen in my lifetime” he looked puzzled so I added “Because I would take up arms to defend my country and die before I let that happen.” He was shocked and wandered away shaking his head.

I know he wasn’t intending to be offensive and I realize I may be a bit of an AH for overreacting but damn it… that’s just a nasty thing to say to a Canadian visitor.

Here’s how people reacted:

jlittle984

Meh-why get so upset about a joke? Not sure how the math works out for Canada, but there was talk about the USA offering every Greenlander 1 Million USD to vote to become part of the USA.

Not sure if I would be alone in this, but if Trudeau offered me 1M to become part of Canada, I would take that offer. I live in California, which is basically an overpriced socialist suburb of the USA.

Country is such a dumb abstraction. It’s just the entity that collects your taxes and wastes your money. If I’m Canadien, I’m not getting mad, I’m asking what’s in it for me and hoping Trump isn’t crazy enough to mobilize the military to do it by force.

All things considered, it would be no contest militarily-I’d strongly reconsider your urge to fight to the death to protect what again? A flag…a boundary…who collects and wastes your taxes. Nobody would take your poutine away bro. We could all be brothers-we’re basically step brothers right now anyway.

Ippus_21

NTA

As a dual citizen who’s lived in the states since childhood, I often feel conflicted, but not about this.

There are far too many Americans who never learned what happened in the war of 1812 when some hothead decided we could annex Canada. It didn’t pan out, and the British troops defending it captured DC and burned the Capitol and the White House. Mind you, Britain was smack in the middle of dealing with the Napoleonic Wars at the time. Our War of 1812 was just a brushfire conflict to them, a sideshow.

Canada’s not the kind of place you just annex on a whim. I’m with you; if it comes to it, I’ll volunteer.

Dollydiscus

NTA as Canadian I find it extremely offensive as well. Unfortunately the standard is set by their leader who is the most unleader-like person in speech and manner I have ever seen. I don’t understand when it be okay became okay for a world leader to speak in such a aggressive and quite frankly uneducated manner about politics and political allies.

Also many people are just tone deaf and I suspect the person making that joke is the same person that would tell a barista to smile more it makes her prettier. They just find themselves hilarious and make jokes that are mean spirited

Tishers

NTA

As an American who has spent quite a bit of time in Canada I can say that you are rightly proud to be Canadian and to have your own country.

Each nation is slightly different in ways that can be surprising, humorous and confounding all at the same time. The 51’st state BS comes from people who probably have never been to Ottawa, Vancouver, Toronto, Calgary, Winnipeg or Rivière-du-Loup.

The world needs Canada for ketchup flavored potato chips and unusual winter sports involving ice.

waywardwyytch

NTA – Fellow Canadian here. If someone “joked” to my face about the 51st state bs, I can assure you they would never speak me to again once I was done with them. You are never the AH for standing up for your country while its sovereigntry is being threatened by Nazis. My family immigrated from Ukraine to Canada, my grandmother would die for a second time if she knew what was happening to her beloved homeland. I will defend Canada until the end.
Alarming_Yesterday28

Imo- NTA. I’m an American and I think it’s cool that you love coming here, but I agree. Those jokes are dumb. I also think the “americans age better than everyone else” is dumb. I love America personally, it has its faults but I do think America is a great country to live in. But that doesn’t make a person from America any better than a person from somewhere else??
incospicuous_echoes

NTA. It’s a bad and ignorant joke. I didn’t even know it was a thing and I go to Canada all the time, so to hear Canadians were already tired of it before a threat was made was a shock. Maybe now your neighbors will wait the extra 3 seconds to rub two brain cells together before opening their mouth to say something insensitive and stupid. 
Beneficial_Status360

YTA Lol bruh this is a misguided view of how “great” either country is. if you are gonna take up arms there’s a lot of folks in both countries whose land was stolen and are enslaved or cannot afford to take care of their families with multiple jobs who could use your help now.
MeadtoDe

I like how conservatives’ response to the whole Israel Palestine thing has been “heh call me
Old school but I like to defend our allies”

Now suddenly trump is in office and suddenly that good will to Allies goes down the drain with Canada.

Hahaha! Peculiar eh?

throwaway108615

NTA.

I’m biased tho, since I’m a proud Canadian. But honestly, ur neighbor can fuck off. Some things aren’t jokes—like the sovereignty of ur country. No American would like it if we started calling the U.S. the 11th province. So, no, u didn’t do anything wrong.

specialPonyBoy

Sorry man. I have a dear Canadian pal who has been my emotional support Canadian since the election. I absolutely hope that Canada is not too inconvenienced or harmed by the buffoonery that is happening in the US, and thank you for being a beacon of hope to us.
NefariousnessFresh24

NTA – a joke is only funny if everybody’s laughing.

Would he laugh if you made a joke about buying his daughter? Two-timing him with his wife? Taking some of his shit for yourself? Probably not. So why should you laugh, if he jokes about taking your country?

bigsystem1

Trump pulling this shit with Canada is possibly one of the stupidest things an American administration has ever done, with the exception of the various times we were lied into wars. Feel free to let everyone know that. Obviously you are not the asshole.
FortuneTellingBoobs

NTA. I’m a dual Canadian-American living in the US, and I’d defect back to Canada and fight for the Canadian side if something like that were to happen. I love both my homelands. But we work better as siblings than a shmushed pile of limbs.
Separate-Swordfish40

Americans love to give each other a hard time, and everyone else. I think the suggestion here to turn the joke back on them is a good idea. It’s not that deep, friend. No one actually thinks we are taking over Canada.
Wizard_of_Claus

NTA

There are some things you don’t fuck around with and right at the top of the list is a person’s identity and home. There is nothing funny about the 51st state crap. You neighbor sounds like an idiot.

Ill-Mastodon-8692

Americans think it would be a privilege to join their county, and dont seem to understand why Canadians wouldnt want that.

As a canadian fuck that, as long as this continues the usa is an enemy to canada

mittenknittin

I‘m an American and I’m sick of seeing those jokes too. It’s absolutely bizarre that people think Trump’s not serious about this, and what would happen if he tried that is very much not funny.
Turtleboy411

Nah, your ntah. I’ve had yanks tell me Australia is America’s little cousin. The fuck we are. Sure we’re mate’s, but that’s all.

Hold onto your values mate, no one else will for you.

griff1821

You can choose how to take jokes. Instead of getting upset, I would’ve turned it on them and joked “Nah, you got it backwards, we’re going to take you over and name you Canada Jr.”
mdax

I’m an American vet and if the orange turd tried to attack Canada i will come up and help you’all fight back.

You’re right, it’s just half our country is passionately dumb.

rikaragnarok

Anytime someone breaks up another person’s echo chamber by saying something that doesn’t fit into the conservative media propaganda, an angel gets its wings.
Objective_Mud_8579

NTA and I’m an American. That’s not a joke that is literally a threat. You should have called them colonizers because that’s what they are “joking” about.
Necessary_Page_8558

Did you see the ice football game where Canadians boo”d during the US national anthem. The players had 3 fights. End result East Alaska lost.
Jolly_Engineer_6688

There’s a little known fact about jojes: they’re supposed to be funny. Making comments about annexing a sovereign nation is not funny.
Normal-Difference230

NTA: Any American that jokes about Canada being the 51st state is a COWARD who would not stand up to the tyranny of Trump.
CrabbyPatty1876

Just gotta hit em with don’t worry you guys will be speaking Russian soon with those Russian assets you have in power
mauigrown808

Say it more often. Say it with malice. Ask the ignorant Americans if they realize how much bloodshed there would be.
LindonLilBlueBalls

As an American, I would take up arms right beside you. Tyranny is tyranny, regardless of which side you fall on.
the-Horus-Heretic

NTA. It wasn’t a funny joke.

Next time you see him, ask him how excited he is for Denmark to buy California.

Whack-a-Moole

It’s not really a joke. We view you as an irrelevant waste of land that could be greatly utilized. 
buildersent

YTA. Massive asshole. To react that strongly is juvenile and immature at best. Hit a nerve did he?
mamamedic

American here- you are NTA!

That crap isn’t funny and you have every right to be offended.

Secure_Engineer7151

NTA Perfectly reasonable response to the threat of your country being taken from you.
cincyaudiodude

I got news for you buddy, he absolutely WAS intending to be offensive. NTA
th987

Sorry. Could not begin to explain what’s going on with our country now.
Helios0186

NTA, the joke is offensive and your reaction is more than normal.
Admirable-Sector-705

NTA. It’s past time they get told the truth about themselves.

Conclusion

The original poster (OP) expressed strong affection for the USA while simultaneously feeling deeply insulted by persistent jokes suggesting Canada should become the 51st state. The central conflict arose when the OP reacted to a seemingly lighthearted comment with a stark statement about defending Canadian sovereignty, causing shock and confusion for the neighbor.

Given the difference in perspective—one viewing the comment as harmless teasing and the other perceiving it as an attack on national identity—was the OP justified in escalating the response to the point of defending their country with force, or did this reaction exceed what was necessary for setting a boundary?

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