Your mother is so dumb and selfish its beyond me. I am so sorry. This is RIDICULOUS. I am 46, its true i had a crush once on a 31 year old guy, but i never even thought about having a child with him despite him ASKING for it. No way. And honestly i would never consider a guy 15 years younger than me, EVER AGAIN. Its bad enough to find maturity at my age, but when they are younger its temporarily and based on lust, and have nothing to do with maturity levels. Anyone who says but blah blah, it worked – exceptions prove the rule. Age difference DOES matter.

Yeah, YTAH. Your mother is still your mother. She made a decision that, frankly, I don’t think was really wise, but it’s absolutely none of my business just like it’s absolutely none of yours.

suppose you made a decision that she felt was bad. How would you feel as suddenly she referred to you by your name, refusing to call you daughter.

That your mother has issues, and that she’s in for a difficult time, is beyond question. With the fact they were her decision, and not yours is immutable.

YTA – if one of your friends got pregnant, would you “have a hard time viewing her as a mother?” If your dad was still in the picture and the two of them had a late in life surprise baby would you stop seeing her as your mum?

You’re just making up an excuse to treat her disrespectfully and thinking yourself righteous for doing so. You want to look down on her for being a cougar, own it, but don’t think yourself virtuous for being a dick to her.

My dad dated a 22 year old when he was in his late 50’s. All of his kids, myself included, were grossed out. It was so weird.

I told him there’s no fucking way I’m hanging out with him and her. I felt sorry for her at first until it became apparent by the things she said.

He bought her a brand new car, paid for her university, up until she dumped him to date his friend—a very rich and older guy that was in his 70’s.

You’re entitled to your feelings, but this is such a cry baby ass post. Would you feel better if she was fucking some creepy old dude? Would you feel better if she got knocked up by someone her age? Probably not because you’re concerned with your mom’s sex life. How exactly does this have any effect on YOUR life? If it does, maybe it should be your motivation to grow up and spread your wings a little.

Man, I can’t blame you for feeling weirded out by the whole situation. It’s like once the age gap crosses into ‘younger than your own kid’ territory, things just get extra awkward. Setting some distance for your own sanity sounds smart, but yeah, I get how calling her ‘mum’ would feel strange now. Hopefully, time and space help you figure out how to deal with all the emotions this brings up.

While your mom sounds creepy dating a guy that age (as I would say with the genders reversed) YTA.

My dad’s wife is 4 years older than me. They’re happy. I’m happy for them. Although she was in her 30s when they got together, so more mature.

You’re about the age as my sister was when my dad got remarried. She was a brat about it too. Grow up. YTA.

Wait, how old are you?

It’s funny to me, kids seem to only call their parents by their actual names when there is an actual or perceived problem in the kids eyes. Like you’re trying to gain some power by changing what you call her now. I don’t think it makes you an asshole, but also, her adult actions don’t make her any less your parent.

NTA. And don’t worry about her bad mouthing you to family members. I doubt they set much value on her opinion about things right now.
And beware the people telling you to have ‘sympathy’ – once she’s a 50 yr old single mom with a toddler, sympathy will get your Next Gen Sibling dumped on YOU to raise faster than you can blink!

NTA

But I would be more concerned that your mother was so stupid.

Either she was so stupid that she didn’t understand birth control and how it works

OR she was too stupid to realize she is going to be raising a child alone at nearly fifty years old.

Either way, have some sympathy.

Your mother is stupid.

If she doesn’t like it, try calling her Mrs. Robinson. You are old enough to limit contact and move on with your own life. I have a feeling this isn’t going to turn out well for her, but you don’t have to pick up the pieces when it all falls apart. Walk away and enjoy your freedom.

You see, you’re mother is a predator. If the roles reversed, this would be obvious, but a young man can’t be seen as a victim here. She trapped him with a baby. You’re mother isn’t stupid, she’s a calculating and manipulative old hag.

NTAH.

Your 47 year old mother is having a baby with a 22 year old? How long has this ‘relationship’ been going?  Your mom sounds like she has a very questionable moral compass.  You calling her by her name is the least of her life issues.  NTAH 

YTA. This is just petty. She is your mum, and whatever she gets out of this relationship, it is not on you to judge as long as he does not harm her or harm you. You may not like it, and you may not like him, but that’s a you problem.

NAH: If you don’t see her as a mom you shouldn’t feel obligated to call her that. She’s allowed to be hurt but she should be asking herself why does my child not see me as a mother anymore instead of badmouthing you.

Not only the age gap is weird (would not like it if the gender were reversed either), but for a woman to have a child at 47 years old, the optics of a healthy pregnancy and healthy child are not exactly in her favor.

Oh my goodness… What poor judgment on the part of your mother! But she is still your mother, regardless of her loony life choices. Try for a little empathy even if you find it hard to drum up any respect for her.

I was trying to order my burrito and cracked up.

Your mom is more worried you’re calling her by her name than the fact that she’s with a 22 year old?

NTA that’s just uncomfortably weird

You aren’t calling her mom anymore because this is not the way a mom behaves. I would think every one who knows her thinks the same. I’m sure the 22 yo parents are disgusted with her.

NTA. Your mom is disgusting and quite honestly I would’ve stopped contact with her by now. That’s insanely gross and she’s extremely close to being a predator if she isn’t already

47? That’s an ultra high risk pregnancy. Not many women can get pregnant at that age and of the ones who do, extremely few are able to carry the child to term.

You’re not the A-hole for your feelings, but consider addressing your discomfort with her in a more constructive way rather than changing how you address her.

Your mother is an idiot.

Calling her by her name aside, you need to distance yourself unless you want to be pulled in for CONSTANT help and babysitting.

that guy’s a gigachad and ytah, she’s her own person she can make her own decision you twat. and the fact that your mom gets pregnant at 47 is a blessing

If they genders were reversed and your dad knocked up a woman 4 years younger tham you, I don’t think you’d call your dad by his first name.

YTA
Shes your mother. Who tf cares who she fucks and has kids with.

Youre a brat who needs a hard lesson is respect

Well, chances are probably pretty high that she’ll be a single mother by the time of or shortly after the birth.

You don’t even exist without your mother. Calm down and stop having such a panic attack about her sex life.

Is she happy about having a baby at 47? What kind of right do you have to tell a woman not to have a baby?

NTA. I’m a 50 year old woman and get why you’re skeeved out. Not interested in 20 something’s at all.

Idk what type of situation you are in but just run and never look back

I know women in their forties can give birth but forty-seven.

Why the FUCK is she dating someone younger than her own son?!

That age gap is just wrong when he is so young.

YTA. You’re just a disrespectful little shit.

What does the 22 year old parents think 😫