Now, standing at the crossroads of grief and new beginnings, she must wrestle with the past she never wanted and the future she’s determined to claim. As an accomplished attorney launching her own firm in a new state, she carries the weight of inheritance and painful memories, ready to transform pain into power and redefine her story on her own terms.
I was married to my husband for 13 years, we got married at 19 and my husband passed away a few months ago. We didn’t have children together.
I have a high paying job as an attorney and I’m currently moving to another state to start my own firm.
My husband passed away 4 months ago. It wasn’t a pretty end to our marriage as I had just found out that he was cheating on me with one of the waitresses working for his restaurant.
They had been having an affair which went on for 3 years. He told me he didn’t love me anymore and left to be with her. He passed away due to a sudden cardiac arrest after 2 weeks of leaving our marital home.
We weren’t legally separated. It wasn’t official.
As his wife, I inherited everything, including the restaurant as he started the restaurant after we got married. My parents helped him financially and I supported him after I got my first job.
After finding out about his infidelity, I had no interest in keeping the restaurant. It was doing really well, but I needed a fresh start.
My husband was emotionally attached to his restaurant and wanted his kids to take over after he died. He wanted it to be a family enterprise.
I didn’t want any part of that. I made the decision to move to another state for better prospects, and decided to sell the restaurant.
2 days before I made my final move to sell it, his mistress showed up to my home begging me to not sell the restaurant because she was pregnant. She wanted her unborn child to take over the restaurant.
She said that the child was morally entitled to the restaurant as his unborn child.
I simply asked her to leave and went ahead with my decision.
Conclusion
The original poster is navigating the complex aftermath of a sudden and painful loss, complicated by recent infidelity and subsequent major life changes, including relocation for career advancement. Her central conflict lies between honoring her need for emotional separation and starting a new life, and the perceived moral or familial claims asserted by her late husband’s mistress regarding the inherited business.
Given the OP’s legal right to the asset and her clear desire for emotional closure, is she obligated, morally or otherwise, to transfer the profitable restaurant to the mistress’s unborn child, or does her decision to sell the asset and sever all ties represent a justifiable exercise of autonomy following severe marital betrayal?
Here’s how people reacted:
Husband is a total asshole, for obvious reasons, but also for what he did to her. She’s going to be a single mother because of how he played her.
She is also the asshole for having the affair, and expecting to be given a restaurant for her troubles. But she is also the victim of asshole husband because he promised her a restaurant and a future she won’t get. It’s fair that she is upset at this, but she should be upset at the husband, not at you, his other victim.
You don’t have any obligation to her or her child. All obligation died with your husband.
My condolences. NTA
>his mistress showed up to my home begging me to not sell the restaurant because she was pregnant. She wanted her unborn child to take over the restaurant. She said that the child was morally entitled to the restaurant as his unborn child.
What!? Wow she is being very entitled! She’s basically asking you to GIVE her a restaurant that is doing well so she can give run it and hopefully profit for what the next 18-30 years and hopefully not run it into the ground so she can then give it to her UNBORN bastard child that is ALLEGEDLY your husband’s baby.. No.
If I were you I would continue on my path and sell it. If they had an affair for 3 years he would have ended it a long time ago if he actually wanted to be with her. I’d consider selling it to her if she wanted to pay for it though.
Sorry about all you’re dealing with and good luck with your new firm.
Nah. You’re doing the right thing. I mean if there was 3 adult children who worked in the restaurant with him then it’s different. But you have no obligation to keep something for a fetus.
If she was pregnant with his kid, she should have made a claim against the estate. You shouldn’t have altered your plans just on her say-so.
No.
NTA
He cheated on you.
And also he’s dead.
You’re the one calling the shots now.