But sibling rivalry turns bitter when her sister’s jealousy and laziness lead to theft, mocking words cutting deeper than the missing snacks. With a mother’s indifference weighing heavily, she’s forced to find a desperate, painful solution to guard her simple happiness, revealing how love and pain are often tangled in the bonds of family.
I(17F) am a person who love to snack and have a special addiction on cheese pretzels from a specific bakery. The place is rather far from my place, and since I don’t drive, I would spend about an hour and half or so on bus and fro just to buy them once in a while.
My younger(13F) sister loves them too, and she is always too lazy and stingy to buy for herself that she would steal from me. When she does steal, she would take the whole box of 6 and finish them before I realized they are missing.
Whenever I confront her, she would laugh and say that I don’t need all that since I am so fat. Yes, I do have a decent amount of chubs, but that’s my business, not her’s.
After quite a while of failing to hide the pretzels, shouting match between me and my sister, complaining to mum who doesn’t give a damn and agree that I don’t need extra fats, I have started using another way, “Peanut Repellent” I call it.
You see, my sister is mildly allergic to peanuts. She had accidentaly ingested them a couple of times in the past, she looked nasty for a while but nothing serious happened otherwise.
Still, it was enough for her to make an effort to avoid eating peanuts.
I bought some breadcrumbs and would now sprinkle them on top of my pretzels in front of my sister whenever I buy them, announcing to her that they are peanut crumbs, so that she would stop stealing them anymore.
She did stop.
My sister has been calling me selfish pig and my mother demanded me to stop as I am putting my greed over my sister’s safety, to which I replied that she would be in no such danger if she keep her hands and mouth to herself.
AITA for using the “peanut repellent”?
Conclusion
The original poster (OP) is facing persistent theft of her favorite snacks by her younger sister, coupled with body-shaming comments from the sister and a lack of support from their mother. In response to feeling violated and unheard, the OP resorted to deceptive tactics involving a mild allergen to protect her property and establish boundaries.
Is the OP justified in using a deceptive ‘peanut repellent’ tactic to stop her sister from stealing her property and verbally abusing her, or does this action place the sister’s genuine, albeit mild, health risk above ethical considerations of honesty and trust within the family?
Here’s how people reacted:
If you want to stop her then get a container with a lock and put them in there. But don’t ever mess around with food allergies.
I fully understand they are just breadcrumbs but the ATTITUDE towards the allergy is the problem here. OP is clearly not taking it seriously which can and probably will lead to the sister being harmed in future – such as them being careless with actual allergens around her.
That being said, yeah, your sister should stop eating your stuff and she’s unnecessarily cruel about your weight.
Y’both kinda assholey here – mildly, admittedly, but gonna have to go with ESH. It’s a sibling argument, it ain’t a huge deal, but yeah, don’t ACTUALLY slather allergins around please, that can actually end up really dangerous. Right now she’s definitely more th’asshole than you for having no respect or boundaries and your Mam should be enforcing rules on her not to eat your shit in this case (or like… she should buy your sister her own if she likes them that much)
You’d maybe be TA if they were real peanuts, bc then you’d potentially put her in danger if she were to forget they were there or something like that.
It doesn’t matter how fat or skinny you are, or how much you “need” these pretzels. They’re your food that you payed for. No one is entitled to your stuff, especially not after you told them not to take it.
I’m sorry if them calling you a pig hurt your feelings, that part also makes them TA bc they’re just stupid pretzels. Be mindful, though- something tells me your mom might start retrieving pretzels for your sister. I suggest multiple hiding spots 😛
The idea that your mother would consider you greedy for wanting to eat food that you bought and shame you for your weight is fucking gross though.
I’m sorry your mother has such clear favouritism.
Usually I disagree with playing with people’s food allergies but your sister is an intolerable brat who needs to be taken down a peg or two. If your mother is so keen for your sister to have pretzels, let her take her to the bakery herself. It really winds me up that your mother thinks it’s okay for your sister to scoff 6 pretzels. It wouldn’t be so bad if she just had one or two but to eat them all? Anger!
Some day soon you’ll be adults, you can choose to make this a positive memory or a I hate my sister and this experience is why. Buy her some too and take her with you to get them. Make it a thing that brings you both together. She’s 13 what do you expect, her to be the mature one??
they’re YOUR pretzels. YOU buy them and travel to get them. my judgement would be different if she only took one or two but eating all six and then having the nerve to say you don’t need the extra fat is appalling.
keep sprinkling those breadcrumbs.
edit: typo
Just be careful?
*remove sunglasses *
…go nuts.
*Scream yeaaahhh in David Caruso*
Edit: reread the story and they’re not actually peanuts. Clever.
Edit: reread post.
NTA.
I obviously can’t read well…