On what should have been a day of love and unity, Christmas turns into a battlefield of accusations and heartbreak. Branded as the villain for standing up for herself, she is torn between resentment and the painful realization that sometimes family is the hardest obstacle to overcome.
Hi I am 17f my sister 21 f was always a rebellious child but never got in trouble. Our grandfather left us both funds for College in his inheritance. The only catch was to actually go to college.
My sister was the party animal and she got pregnant at 18, my parents took care of everything, she still live with us with no father in picture.
I wanted to start looking for collleges now to be better prepared but turns i have no money left, I’m literally sobbing while writing this my parents took my entire money and gave it to my sister.
I raised this issue on Christmas and I’m being blamed for ruining Christmas and not loving my niece or my sister. I told them yes i really hate each and everyone of them. I feel like an asshole for that.
My parents have offered 10k in exchange to calm me down but that amount was literally 80k they are now telling me that I’m greedy. Please reddit help me ? Am i really the asshole ? Should i take what they are offering me Right now because according to them this what they have got.
Conclusion
The original poster (OP) is facing a significant financial betrayal where the college inheritance intended for them was given to their older sister by their parents. This action has led the OP to feel devastated and wrongfully accused of being selfish and ruining a family holiday when voicing their distress over the missing funds.
Given the parents’ current offer of $10,000 against the original $80,000 inheritance, the core question remains: Should the OP accept this significantly reduced compensation to resolve the conflict, or is upholding the terms of the grandfather’s inheritance essential, even if it means maintaining the current state of family estrangement?
Here’s how people reacted:
The advice that you should seek an attorney and can sue them is probably correct. However, be prepared for the fallout from your parents for doing that. Also know that just because you sue someone and win doesn’t mean you will ever see that money. Whatever decision you make, make it informed and be prepared for the fallout.
Be mad at your parents. They stole your money and now they’re gaslighting you.
If you can, you might want to contact a lawyer and see if any laws were broken with the theft of your inheritance. You may be able to sue for it back. It will burn bridges but these bridges need burned anyway.
Either way, cut these awful crooks out of your life the second you have the means to.
Every state bar association has a lawyers diary. You can google it. Look for a lawyer that specializes in estate law, and if you have a trusted family member you can reach out to tell on your parents.
LAWYER UP AND SUE!!
NTA, you parents are TA and worse.
As a great man once said, you can sue them if you have proof that your grandfather left that money specifically for you.
Also, you need to get the fuck out of that house ASAP. This isn’t a case of parents preferring the golden child, it’s literally neglect.
Keep us updated, I’m curious how this goes.
Seek legal advice. It sounds like you may have been screwed out of an inheritence that should have rightly been yours, and Reddit can’t help with that.
Don’t accept any money from them that isn’t the full amount.
ETA: thanks for all the likes
NTA.
If your grandfather left it to you in a will or any other legal document, you may have grounds to sue for the money.