Caught between pride and responsibility, he faced the fallout of a reckless decision, exposed by a surprising connection that bridged strangers and kin. This is a story of youthful impulsiveness clashing with the harsh realities of respect, money, and the unexpected ways our actions echo beyond the moment.
I’m m23 and few months ago I was at a nice bar in Toronto with my boys and I saw this really hot girl. Decided to shoot my shot and we spoke and danced for a bit and I offered to buy her a drink and she gladly accompanied me to the bar, when I got there I was like can I have a beer and whatever she wants.
She promptly says can I get 4 double shots of 1942. Thats like $75 a shot for a double of 1942 and I was like wtf and she said there for her friends and patted me on the back. When the bartender came back I slapped a $10 bill on the table and told him she’d be covering the shots and walked away.
She was pissed and yelling the normal insults lol.
Well it turns out my mom works with her and they were talking and my mom showed her a picture of me (god damn it mom!) and she instantly recognized me and remembered my name and told my mom about what I did.
My mom then called me and said I’m a huge asshole and told me to send her the cost of the 4 drinks which was like $325 with tips.
I just laughed and told my mom I’m not doing that and my mom said that the girl thinks I’m a huge asshole and douche and she agrees LOL.
Conclusion
The original poster (OP) experienced a situation where he intentionally avoided paying for expensive drinks ordered by a woman he met, leading to an immediate confrontation and public embarrassment. This action conflicts directly with general social expectations of hospitality or paying for what one orders, especially after initiating the interaction by offering to buy drinks. His subsequent refusal to reimburse the cost, despite pressure from his mother, solidifies his position that his actions were justified in the moment.
Did the OP have a right to dramatically alter the agreement after the drinks were ordered, or does the social contract of offering to buy a drink imply a financial responsibility for what is ordered? Should the OP repay the full cost of the drinks ($325) as his mother requested, or was his decision to walk away and leave a $10 bill the appropriate boundary to set against what he perceived as excessive entitlement?
Here’s how people reacted:
NTA, she tried some bull move that you rebuffed. She knew she was taking the mick when she patted you. I’m impressed with your nerve to straight up reject that and walk away.
Side note hilarious that it still bugs her!
If someone offered to buy me a drink I wouldn’t ask for a round for my friends… that just takes the piss. $325 seems like a crap ton of money. Although I’m not sure of the exchange rate between Toronto and the UK…
I think there is chivalry and courtesy, but that has a limit when another person wants to take the piss.
She was totally trying to take advantage of a nice gesture. You’d be an asshole if she ordered a simple drink just for her, but you are by no means required to spend over 300 dollars for her friends too. If anything she is the asshole expecting you to by drinks for her whole group.
Your mom needs to get a sense of perspective here too, she should be chastising the girl for trying to manipulate her son. Again, no way are you the A/h.
Bonkers and supremely rude of the woman to take advantage like that, and what crazy drink is your mum on to tell you to send the cost of the drinks over?
NTA tell her she can have her friends split the bill since they all wanted a shot too lmao.
Also I’m amazed that a shot of anything costs $75. Goldschläger doesn’t even cost that much and it literally has gold in it.