YTA you’ve admitted yourself you are being partially vindictive.

You say you are being paid below minimum wage but I assume this is a casual cash in hand affair if you were to make it official and be paid minimum wage you would lose some of that 84$ in taxes.

Point being you were happy to help them before but after a win you have admitted jealousy over you aren’t happy to help now.

If it went the other way and they had say lost a portion of their income would you happily babysit for less than the 10$?

Their good lick should have no bearing on your original agreement, of course you are well within you rights to say you no longer wish to work for below minimum wage and that’s fine, but it seems like this only became an issue for you after they won some money.

And again you can’t demand minimum wage if you are not paying taxes etc on that wage.

Thank you guys for the awards

NAH.

I believe that you’re never TA for quitting a job (as long as you give however long a notice as is customary in your area/country, that is.)

Similarly, they’re not TA for not wanting to pay you more – you were willing to do it for this, they were willing to pay you this, so it was fine. Now, you aren’t willing to earn what they want to pay and they aren’t willing to pay what you want to earn, so naturally, you’re parting ways (at least in the employment-babysitting area). That’s not assholish anywhere – that’s just the way the labour market works.

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(BTW – if they try to guilt-trip you into staying anyway, they’re going straight into TA and choosingbeggar/entitledparents territory.)

The thing is, unless they are smart with their money (which it doesn’t seem they are) the number is limited. They will run out. It’s not like one of them got a new amazing job paying a lot more. Their finances are basically doomed.

That said, all you’re asking for is the minimum wage. You’re not asking for $30 per hour now that they have money. It’s not too expensive to buy brand new cars or go to Cuba, but childcare for their kids? Now that’s just too much. No. You have a right to ask for the minimum when you were doing it for less as a favor because they literally didn’t have it. Now they do.

NTA

ESH. Sort of. I was right about to say NTA until I read:

> I’m half doing this vindictively because I know they’re in a peculiar position where I’m their only option.

Sorry, but if your heart is in the wrong place, you are being an asshole. I totally think quitting is the right decision given the circumstances, but don’t do it to be vindictive, that’s not good for anyone involved.

But yes, your friends are totally being assholes about this. Who expects to pay anyone less than the (criminally low) minimum wage, especially when they can obviously afford to pay you minimum wage.

NTA

Interesting that husband is against babysitters or daycares, and was fine with you caring for his child for below minimum wage. Look, you’re a decent and trustworthy person. But who willfully underpays someone watching their kid?? Does he also insult his servers at restaurants?

So they couldn’t afford it. They can now. Ultimately, if they are buying new vehicles and taking vacations while underpaying you, they’re taking advantage.

I mean…a bonus is definitely something I would have expected, once you had provided childcare under minimum wage while they went on vacations.

NTA obviously if this is a true story (seems way too clear cut).

No one in their right mind can say an additional $24 for an evening of freedom from their child(ren) is too much when they’ve just gone and blown 5,000 times that amount.

Edit: I understand that it’s not “just an evening” or a “one-off” childcare arrangement. I was suggesting that an additional $24 for each occasion of said childcare is a drop in the ocean in comparison to the cost of the 2 cars. They could have paid OP’s request of minimum wage for over 5,000 days of babysitting for the same cost of their cars.

No judgement but if it makes you feel better, a $740,000 lottery win is probably close to $400,000 after taxes. Between the cars and the trips, they have spent 1/3 of their money in 2 months. They will be broke by the end of the year.

EDIT: A lot of people are pointing out that OP could be Canadian and therefore wouldn’t pay taxes on lottery winnings. This seems like it’s probably the case so will revise my previous statement.

*Between the cars and the trips, they have spent 1/6 of their money in 2 months. They will be broke by summer 2021.

NTA – Regular 6 hour shifts that allow a couple to not use a daycare is not “babysitting,” it’s in-home childcare and $10 per hour is a steal. Especially for an infant to 3 year old. Quality childcare is really expensive. Even bad childcare is expensive. You did them a huge favor when they needed it. It’s understandable to be miffed that they won’t pay you something closer to market value for your work now that they can afford it. They’re being cheap and ungrateful.

NTA. I am always so confused as to why people think paying a decent rate for a regular babysitter is so outlandish. You aren’t paying the teenage girl down the street $20 to eat your snacks and text her boyfriend while your kid watches Frozen so you can go out for date night. You are paying for an adult to be the care taker of your most valuable, irreplaceable possession for most of their day, multiple days a week. Pay them accordingly.

Holy shit you’re NTA, and you’re doing the right thing by refusing to be taken advantage of. You helped them through what would otherwise have been an impossible situation, and they’re repaying you by insisting that you allow them to take advantage. They’ll call you every name in the book and claim that you “let money change things”, but the fact of the matter is that they’re the ones being greedy, not you.

NTA and lavish in the fact they’ll be out of money ASAP. While $740k is a nice chunk of change blowing $120k on cars is absolutely silly. Go find a better job. I’m shocked you only asked for Minimum wage as well. Even prior to them winning you were under valuing yourself a lot. I am not sure where you are but here there are entry level jobs that pay at least double digits an hour to start.

ESH.

The kid(s) have gotten used to you and you abandoned them.

The parents get ghetto rich and skip town

And where TF is minimum wage over ten dollars an hour?

This post is a cluster-hump

NTA. It’s not like you’re trying to gouge them for everything they have. You asked them for minimum wage and they wouldn’t even give you that. These people are not your friends.

NTA.

You should get at least minimum wage for your work. It sounds like they are blowing through the money too fast and are starting to recognize that.

NTA. You wouldn’t have been an asshole even if you quit before they won the lottery. This business arrangement isn’t working out for you anymore.

Yeah, YTA. They got some money, you want a cut. $10/hr is plenty for babysitting, get over yourself.

NTA asking for minimum wage is pretty reasonable, you gave them a break when you knew they needed it