NTA. Your marriage, your body, your decision. You probably also had to argue with your doctor for several months before that happened. I know because I went through the same thing. I had three kids with my ex (the first 2 happening while I was on birth control), and had had four miscarriages besides. And I almost lost both of my boys, my last two pregnancies. Tubes were tied before the last one was an hour old. Argued with my doc for 7 months because I was only 25 at the time. I was told that I was too young to be making such a permanent move but I finally convinced him the third time I was in his office with contractions with the last pregnancy. At 3 and 1/2 months along. I don’t know what anybody in my family thought about it, because I never asked them and I was lucky that they never threw in their 2 cents’ worth. Which, looking back, was a major achievement for my family members!

Your parents are laboring under the misapprehension that they actually have some say in your reproductive life. You are no longer a child, you are a fully functioning adult with a husband and children and adult responsibilities. They have exactly zero say in anything. You and your husband have obviously had many conversations about this during your pregnancy and this is the right move for you two. Tell your parents that they can have more kids if they want them, you’re done.

Congratulations on your new family member! Hope everyone is healthy and happy!

NTA…it’s not their business and you needn’t have told them at all. Getting your tubes tied was a decision you CHOSE to share with your husband after bearing 4 kids, one of which required major abdominal surgery. Your parents will eventually gain perspective on this even though they may still try to impose their will on you in other aspects of your life.

Hold firm for those decisions that don’t directly involve them to teach them appropriate boundaries. Eventually, they’ll get it through their heads that there is a difference between what we might prefer for other people and what we’re entitled to expect them to do about it. There is no universe in which your parents are entitled to information about the state of your tubes, let alone having a preference for whether they remain untied.

NTA. I’m guessing by the comment about your husbands potential desire for more children that your parents have a more conservative, “women = incubator” mentality (?) I would have simply told them that you respect the decision of the man of **your** home (your husband) and you do not appreciate them disrespecting your husbands authority with personal opinions about a personal matter between yourself and your family.

It’s none of their damn business.

My second pregnancy was extremely high risk, which I didn’t know until AFTER I was pregnant. It was rough, especially since I had to give myself multiple shots of blood thinners throughout the pregnancy on top of the health woes. If any of the parents had reacted the way yours did, it would have been rather ugly.

You are NOT the asshole.

You’re 27 and you’ve had FOUR kids 😳 And they think you could want MORE????? If you’re a mother of four at 27 you probably know the realities of being a parent and therefore your own mind perfectly well thank you. No business of theirs.
And if it’s them that want more grandchildren, tell them they can bring them up 🤣

NTA. However, I’m not sure why you told them at all. Why do they need to know “you and your husband will be able to do it without worrying about anymore kids coming along?” They don’t get an opinion on your reproductive decisions. Maybe keep more sensitive information to yourself next time.

The ‘disgraceful’ I feel like your husband should give them a call and tell them a) do not speak to my wife like that ever again b) her body, her rules

I just think since they are misogynistic they will hear it better from your husband and feel the shame they tried to make you feel

I had 3 kids in under 3 years, last two conceived on birth control and for the youngest my then husband also used a condom, still got pregnant. So 6 weeks after having our youngest I had my tubes tied. No more children for me! Was our decision and nothing to do with anyone else.

Absolutely NTA. If you’re happy with 4 children & don’t want any more then it’s a sensible decision & only yours & your husbands to make. Your parents are in the wrong here, it’s none of their business what you do with your body, within your relationship or family.

NTA when I got my tubes tied my doctor asked “what if your husband wants more kids” my response was “no, you don’t understand I PERSONALLY do not want one more child, I don’t care what he wants”

Your body, your right to choose

your parents are so weird for that. it’s not their body, their marriage or anything to have opinions on it. “what if [husband] wants more?” well he can go adopt one, you’re not an incubator for your husband.
NTA NTA NTAAAAAAA

Lol how much will you let your parents disrespect you? They basically scolded you for doing something that won’t let your husband use you as an incubator if he wants another kid, regardless of whether you want one. Disgusting.

NTA. Your body, your choice. Unless your parents are going to help you with raising and funding the upbringing of any additional children you could have had after the 4, then it’s none of their business.

If sane, reasonable people were more willing to beat stupid people up for saying insane shit, police all over the world would need budgets a thousand times bigger. I would have physically fought them.

I got a vasectomy. We have 0 kids. Parents still don’t know. It’s none of their business. If they want grandkids, they probably shouldn’t have contributed to voting all hope of a better future away.

I cannot believe they would be so invested in hypothetical grandchildren that they would actually get up and leave mid-visit! That is insane. I hope they get over it, but that is on them completely.

I think you should have kept this private between you & your spouse. You have 4 children & I would think people would assume you were finished with your family of 6.

As long as you and your husband agree then there should be no problem. Not the parents decision or life. So no input needed from them.

It’s not their f… business! Why do you people even feel like you have to say personal stuff like this to your parents and explain it? 

That is absolutely nobody’s business. Do what’s best for you and your family and everyone else can stick their noses elsewhere 🤷‍♀️

Of course you are NTA. That the parents imagine they have a say in this situation blows my mind. Terribly rude and entitled of them.

It’s not your parent’s business if you dont want to get pregnant anymore. Youre clearly just taking care of yourself

I didn’t even tell my parents i got my tonsils out lol. Medical procedures are not your family’s business.

You didn’t need to tell them, but you did, so now this is the result. It wasn’t their business, ever.

It’s weird, intrusive, and inappropriate for your parents to react this way. NTA

“what if your husband wants more kids”

“Well, even in that case, I don’t”.

You only need to read the title to say NTA your body your choice <3

NTA. Your body, your choice. You owe them nothing in this regard.

Are Dad and stepmom religious of the quiver full sort? 

Um, your body, your choice. Noone else’s business

NTA Your body. Your choice. Simple as that.

How tf is that ANY of their business?!

Nta. It’s nobody’s business but yours.

That is wild. Your body, your family

What cult are your parents in?

NTA