I take it you are from America? The education regarding topics like this are horrible there, so in that perspective he does make a fair point in that. However to act like that is seriously not needed. I can understand that he would freak out to some extend, but it’s his own fault for not bothering to look up things online or just asking if you were okay. He is to blame for not even bothering to learn about such things, which are rather important to understand a woman to at least some degree.

For you OP, you did offer him to clean it which is a good thing. I however don’t think it will be a positive thing to get angry because he doesn’t know something. I think it might be a good thing to offer him information regarding that. This way you can work things out together in the hope it will help you both out and save the relationship. I however can understand that you said things that you may have only done because of him flying off the handle like that.

OP, you are a ahole in this but not as much as he is. The best thing is as I said to just talk to him now about this, offer him what he doesn’t know now so he won’t freak out the next time or at least has a knowledge about what’s going on.

If he doesn’t want that, then it’s best to part ways. If he doesn’t want to learn about it and just continue being a ahole then it isn’t worth it.

NTA. He’s a grown ass man, his lack of education is his own fault and no one else’s. As other people have already said, a man who doesn’t know how the reproductive system works has no business having sex with anyone.

I had an unexpected period start when I was staying the night with my husband when we first started dating. I left early for work so he mentioned it to me later that days. I was mortified and apologized over and over and offered to replace the sheets, and he laughed at me. “It’s fine, I already washed them and put them back on the bed. It’s not like you did it on purpose.” Which is the only correct response.

Edit: thanks for the awards, my first!

Also…it’s astonishing to see how many people are offended by the fact that he brought it up at all? I mentioned that I started in the night and he said he knew because he had to wash the sheets. That was literally the end of it. Heaven forbid people have a conversation about what they did with their day.

Ignorance – “Ah, you got period blood on the sheets?! Why didn’t you put down protection; didn’t you know it was about to happen? Does blood stain permanently?”

Assholery – “You’re disgusting and irresponsible! Let me yell at you aggressively and make sure you know just how lowly I think of you as a person.”

The first example is an ignorant person *addressing the issue, making their assumptions known, and inviting new information to inform them*. The second example is an ignorant **asshole** *lashing out at a person – not the issue, and entrenched in their assumptions instead of inviting correction*.

NTA. You shouldn’t have apologized for calling an asshole an asshole.

NTA. But you need to up your game for real. How you gonna be with a dude who wants to bang but doesn’t know what a period is? Poly friend of mine had tampons, pads, plan b morning after pills, extra toothbrush, menstrual pain meds just in case any girl he was with randomly needed something. He may have had a physical therapist on call in case the girl pulled a muscle during sex for all I know. Never mind the fact that he doesn’t know much about periods; if he can’t give a simple apology for yelling at you he isn’t a real adult. Consider exiting stage left.

NTA. Even if he didn’t know, his reaction was unreasonable. If my partner wet the bed one night out of the blue I wouldn’t jump out and start screaming at him. I’d be like omg what happened are you ok?

I would help him shower, wash the sheets etc. Your boyfriend’s reaction is what makes him the major A, besides his apparent indifference to your health (he doesn’t understand periods but isn’t concerned when lots of blood randomly comes out of you?) And his deliberate lack of education on the subject (he’s 23. He has access to the net. No excuse)

Don’t you hate it when boyfriends get mad at you for being upset when they act like jerks?

Whether or not he knew that periods can be irregular (sounds like a stretch to me) you obviously felt bad and were embarrassed. Even if you weren’t already, you certainly would have been after the way he acted. He shamed you for a natural bodily function, and refused to let it go when you were clearly done with the harassment. That’s not okay.

Also, NTA.

NTA. His ignorance isn’t your responsibility. He should have tried to treat you with respect and asked questions, not accused you of things. Also, of someone has sex that person should understand the equipment involved. He sounds immature AF.

And you aren’t mad for his ignorance. You’re mad because he acted like a dickhead. Big difference.

NTA- but those are some HUGE red flags. Apologizing will tell him he is right to go screaming about his assumption. You need to sit with him and have a calm , rational conversation about what you are mad about and how he could have acted differently, and if he is unwilling or incapable of doing so then the relationship is probably doomed.

These are some major red flags. Not the part about him not knowing, but him screaming in your face about something that honestly, wasn’t a big deal? What else will he scream at you about, and then try to brush off and say you’re the unreasonable one?

Like, who the hell calls screaming in your face a ‘misunderstanding’?

NTA.

NTA –

1. He shouted at you first

2. He is 23 years old, using school as an excuse doesn’t fly, he has had plenty of time to educate himself

3. He treated it as if it was a serious bio hazard that needed to be dealt with majorly

4. He tried to turn it around and make you responsible for how he acted

NTA. He’s a 23-year-old man, even if he didn’t know that you could get your period unexpectedly his reaction is all out of whack especially since you woke up and offered to fix the mess. How is it you’re unreasonable when he was the one shouting at you?

NTA.

how does he not know how periods work? i was taught about it early on. even ignoring that, he’s being an asshole who won’t just own up to his asshole-ish behavior. the “he didn’t know how it worked” excuse doesn’t cut it.

His lack of empathy is weird. Like you’d probably be embarrassed by that — a good bf would empathize, help clean sheets, and reassure you that it’s okay and that he’s not mad. This guy sucks.

Nta

But his inability to take responsibility for his mistakes is a huge red flag and don’t be surprised when it becomes a regular occurrence in your arguments/fights.

NTA – and really, sex education needs to be better, why didn’t his own mother tell him this stuff? Did she think he wouldn’t ever find out about it?

NTA i think its messed up that he specifically stopped you to continue the argument, does he do that alot?

“I’m ignorant so it’s your fault I yelled at you”

Is that someone you wanna spend your time with?

NTA