Curious, why not hit her too? I mean, she had to agree to it, or this would have been a different post.

You say you feel bad because he did not fight back, well, same if you hit her?

Understand, you are wrong, you are TA. I am just curious how you seperate the facts.

I walked in on my X and her coworker in our living room going at it. Very obvious that it was a guys place, and he had met me.

I threw them both out. Butt naked in the street. Had a grand time when the police showed up.

Domestic disturbance. Naked people in the street. Me, sitting in front of my TV, eating a burger I had just made.

There were no charges they could file against me. He asked if I would give them their things. I handed him a box. Had the guys car keys her purse, his wallet. Legally these were the only things I had to give back. Told him I would gladly return anything they had receipts for, otherwise it was my word against theirs. As the only person on the lease, they would have to explain, in court, what happened.

Met me now wife about 7 months later. Her first question after seeing my place was, whose clothes are these? Lol told her what happened and she replied, so if I intend to cheat on you, hide some clothes out front?

Couldn’t marry her fast enough.

In your own home?! In your bed? Is that someone you want close to you? This was somebody you considered a very close friend and he knew you were with someone you had considered being with forever… to me that is something that you cannot come back from. He probably thinks you two are square now that you have been “avenged” by beating him up, but you need to draw that line… is that someone you really want back in your life if they could do that to you?

He said he knew he had it coming so it sounds like he wanted you to do that to him so you could get some sort of “restitution” for him sleeping with your girlfriend for who knows how long…

Absolutely you are ta. Physical violence is not the answer. She was not your property to defend. Obviously he isn’t your friend and the relationship is over. But that never gives you a right to physically attack him. If he pressed charges you would be in jail. The court does not recognize “but he was banging my girl” as a defense. (Maybe in Texas) It is perfectly normal to want to do what you did, however it is not acceptable

You can’t be surprised if violence ensues when you have an affair with a person supposedly in a committed monogamous relationship. You know you’re messing with people’s deepest emotions when you do that.

Problem is that the law doesn’t care. People are legally protected from assault, so unfortunately you’re lucky he didn’t press charges, because he could have.

My only issue would be the beating may have given him some sort of vindication, he did you wrong and you kicked his ass so you’re square type thing. But overall nah fuck him, a few days of physical pain doesn’t come close the mental and emotional pain of this. Ghost them both don’t even give them a chance to get any sort if closure.

I’m ready for the downvotes from the self-proclaimed alphas, but violence is not the answer to having wounded pride. It’s another manifestation of toxic masculinity, and it calls for pushback. No bonus points are awarded for not touching the ex-girlfriend. Sorry this happened to you, but curse them out, kick them out, and deal.

I’m not going to call you an AH, but you’re lucky he didn’t press charges, because in addition to you’d losing your friend and your gf, you’d go to jail and have a record.

Sorry this happened to you, but you’re better without both of them. 

of course i would never endorse hitting women and though your best friend did deserve a punch or 2, the real villain here is your ex but youre smart for not hitting her cause shes not worth throwing your life away

Why is your buddy the scumbag? It takes 2 to tango. She was a willing participant. I’m sure this wasn’t the first time and now they’ve made a fool of you. She is a cheater and she cheated with your friend.

YTA pussy is not worth violence. You don’t have any actual claim on that woman, not even a marriage? Be glad that shit did not end differently, time in the cage would bring prospective a day too late.

Takes two to tango or have sex. They both betrayed your trust and only one gets beaten? How’s that fair? Unless he’s forcing himself upon her without consent, violence won’t solve anything.

NTA literally any person who walks in on their woman cheating would react the same way some people would react worse, the other commenter is just wack to say something like that💀

He deserved it and even he knew it. There is no coming back from that. I wouldn’t apologize for hitting him. Cut him off and break up with the GF because she will cheat again.

Neither deserved the effort it took. If you were 26, I’d chalk it up to just being young, but at your age, you just should have just walked away. It won’t do any good.

Yes, all three of you are assholes. You can never trust either of them again. I suggest you move on and find a good therapist, as well as an anger-management group.

Very delicate and thin line…

He isn’t in a hospital so I refuse to say what you did was right, but I wouldn’t never say it was wrong either.

NTA

YTA for obvious reasons I don’t know why you would even need to ask. Don’t listen to the people who say you are NTA because you know better.

NTA: Your buddy KNEW.

Some random dude off the street:

“Hey buddy, you know she had a man?”

“Nah…”

“Get the fuck out.”

YTA. You’re going to react with violence because two consensual adults have sex? Are you a baby? Grow the fuck up.

You have to at least be happy that he exposed your gf for who she is before you wasted any more time with her

NTA. As much as violence isn’t generally the answer, he deserved it.
Never see either of them again.

Sorry not worth beating him up. You go NC , break up and be happy they exposed themselves. Move on.

Bro why didn’t you join in? What’s wrong with you? I’d be all over my gf if she did this.

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YTA. I understand the pain, but if you have those anger problems, she’s better without you.

NTA. but I’m sorry you lost 2 people, but they were shitty people so good riddance.

What they did is scummy.

What you did is a crime.

Did it change anything?

ESH

u should have just told him to move over. she mentioned 2 was better than 1.

She lucky it ain’t the 1950’s . Hands were rated E for everyone back then 😬

Bravo, been waiting for somebody to finally go the distance. We salute you!

I wouldn’t have used violence. I would have just gone no contact with them.

Not the asshole. He deserved it. He knew what he was getting into

This falls under “unwise but not morally blameworthy”.

NTA

NTA.

He didn’t fight back because he *earned* every punch!!

Ask yourself what you weren’t giving her that she needed

They both got off lucky. I would have done much worse

You’ve lost a friend as well
As a GF. Well done.

NTA. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes

NTA. Disrespect requires a response.