The partner insists on using the withdrawal method (pull out) instead of condoms, arguing that abstaining from condoms is ‘much sexier’ and provides a ‘larger thrill.’ The OP is concerned about the high risk of unintended pregnancy and other potential issues associated with the withdrawal method, leading him to doubt his position when she dismisses protection as unnecessary.
I’m 26 (M) and my partner is 23 (F). We’ve been in a relationship for 6 months, however she’s been calling and mocking me as a “coward” for wanting to use condoms. She wants to use pull out method instead, but I pushed back and said it’s not effective.
She said it’s much sexier and a larger thrill not using condoms but I worry about pregnancy and if something goes wrong. She seems to think using protection is not serious and nobody uses it.
Is she right?
Conclusion
The central conflict revolves around the OP prioritizing physical safety and responsibility concerning pregnancy risk, while his partner seems focused on maximizing sexual excitement by rejecting reliable contraception. The OP is left feeling pressured and questioning the validity of his health and safety concerns against his partner’s strong preference for a less secure method.
Does the partner’s desire for a ‘sexier’ experience outweigh the tangible risks of pregnancy associated with the withdrawal method, or is the OP correct to insist on effective protection even if it impacts the perceived mood of the encounter?
Here’s how people reacted:
Aside from pregnancy, there are other things (STIs) that you are more likely to catch without a condom. Even if y’all got tested, standard tests don’t cover certain things, AND certain things can’t even be tested for in men.
Just don’t do it. Find someone who respects your boundaries, has actual brains, and agrees with you on having safe sex.
It’s normal to think this way but it’s not necessarily right. Be precautionary, regretting later is of no use. And this is something you both are a part of so might as well do what’s safer if one person IS vigilant. Better safe than sorry
You just cant be mentally weak you feel that pre cum abandon ship ASAP cant get caught up in the feeling
Also, has she always refused to use condoms with past sexual partners and relied on the “pull out” method exclusively? If so, has she ever been tested for STIs?
RUN!!! This is baby trap central right here! Not going to lie and say I’ve never used condoms but if that’s the girls response, that’d be my mindset immediately.
Also, wrong sub.
NTA, she’s a moron, find someone else.
Again, she is a moron.
[checks ages]
Still NTA, but FFS you both could use some serious sexual education!
NTA
She is trying to baby-trap you
NTA
NTA