On Reddit, a woman claimed that her spouse had made fun of her leg hairs during a pool party. In response, she had made fun of his head bald spot. She is now approaching Redditors for guidance regarding her situation.
She had mentioned that she is a light-skinned woman with dark body hair.Background: I am a 23-year-old female with naturally fair skin. I’m also afflicted with rather dark body hair, which makes maintenance a real hassle. After shaving my legs, I notice black hair prickles two days later. I can’t shave again for almost a week without getting a really unpleasant razor burn.
She was asked to a pool party for the new year because she lives in the Southern Hemisphere with her partner. But she skipped the swimming because she was so self-conscious about her leg hairs, and that’s when the issue arose. “After lunch, my friends and I were lounging around the pool while our partners were splashing around and playing cannonballs. When my friend’s partner, who is 25 meters away, asked me why I wasn’t swimming, I explained that I would much prefer lie in the shade that day. My buddy exited the pool once more at this moment, and I figured he would immediately dive back in.
Then, her companion made fun of her while grabbing her dress and pulling it up while making a crude joke about her body hair. “Rather than that, he approached me, raised my dress to display my legs, and said, “She isn’t swimming today because she is as hairy as a fucking bear!” I gave him a really irate look as I grabbed my dress and pulled it back down, looking pretty ashamed. Mostly uneasy silence, with a few chuckles here and there. I was DEPRESSED. He is aware of my self-consciousness in this regard.
She replied by making fun of his bald spot, which infuriated him and caused him to walk away. “Maybe we can transplant some of my leg hair to that nice bald patch you’ve been brewing?!” I exclaimed, biting back my rage. There were also a few giggles in response to this, and then even more awkward quiet. After that, my companion bounded out of the water and headed inside to dry off. After changing into his dry clothing, he emerged and announced our departure. I apologized to the hosts and told them they may keep the salad plates I had bought over because I felt terrible, especially for them.
After wrapping off her tale, she asked Redditors for suggestions. “I’ve never discussed my partner’s hair loss with him before. I saw photographs of him taking pictures of his head, where the hair loss has started, on his phone, so I knew that when I stated this, it probably bothered him. I simply thought it was hypocritical that he could start the whole thing. My insecurity wasn’t off limits, but his is? I acknowledge that my behavior here wasn’t the best.
Here are a few remarks made by Redditors.
NTTA. Why are you dating someone who makes fun of you in public on purpose?
Let him know that’s EXACTLY how he made you feel when he lifted up your dress and revealed your hairy legs to EVERYONE if he continues acting irrational and “hurt” over the bald spot comment.
Not only that, but how dare he be mad at YOU when all you did was repeat the insult he gave you, knowing full well that you’re incredibly self-conscious about it, and yet he still did it? Remind him that you feel very self-conscious about your extra hair and that his lack of it makes him feel the same way. It’s a portion of your body over which you wish you had more control.
NTTA. When your spouse committed that prank, all expectations of civility vanished. Does he frequently act in that way? This at least calls for a meaningful conversation.
How do you feel? Inform us.