Children often think they are experts in everything, even if you try your hardest and make multiple attempts to prove your point.
Having to deal with this aspect on a daily basis may be quite frustrating for parents, but a mother’s letter to her 13-year-old son, in which she tackles the reality that he believed it was acceptable to create his own rules, has gained a lot of popularity.
The mother, who goes by Estella Havisham on Facebook, claims that her adolescent needs to be taught a lesson. Her lesson gained rapid internet traction.
When Estella Havisham decided to attempt teaching her little son a lesson about acting his age (figuratively), she only meant for her friends and family to view her post on Facebook.
She didn’t know that her account offered a “public” viewing option, thus her letter went viral right away. Before she knew it, it had gained a lot of attention and gone viral due to the supportive comments it had received from people all around the world.
Her son Aaron was chastised in the letter for attempting to act like an adult before his time. When her 13-year-old son started trying to set his own rules, Estella became frustrated and threatened to start assigning him tasks that would better fit his desired status if he persisted.
The irate mother threatened to demand that he pay his fair part of the food bill, the rent, and any “maid service” that she performed—presumably preparing meals and doing his laundry.
“I guess you will need a lesson in independence,” the letter says. Furthermore, since you’re now profitable, which you pointed out to me, it will be simpler to repurchase everything I previously purchased for you. You will have to cover your portion of the expenses if you want your lamp or light bulbs, or if you want internet connection.
Additionally, you will need to sweep and vacuum on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday in addition to emptying the garbage. You’ll need to cook your own food, clean up after yourself, and maintain a weekly clean bathroom. I will charge you $30 for cleaning service each day I have to perform it if you don’t comply. We can work out terms if you decide that being my child again is more important to you than being my roommate.
While some internet users thought she was overly rigid, many others applauded her for the manner she brought up her kids.Before long, Estella’s letter had 85,000 likes and 160,000 posts on Facebook. She said the following in response to criticism that she had “shamed” him online:
Why degrade him in front of others? Not me. An mishap took place. I was confused yesterday as to why I had received over 100 friend requests when my intention was to post to only my close friends and family. Sincerely, I thought there had been some sort of compromise to my account. Sure, I could take it down, but a lot of people have already read and seen it by now.
Her tough stance was immediately welcomed by many social media users. Moreover, it appears to have been successful. According to reports, the mother and son have a contract in place to maintain Aaron’s authority, and he is aware of her new rules. But since Heidi and Aaron have since created a contract with rules that Aaron seems to follow, it seems that the letter was effective.
“I’m not a tyrannical parent attempting to ‘manage’ my child. As a parent, I have every right to set boundaries, expectations, and sanctions for my kids.
Do you think that I went too far, the mother? Or was it OK for her to establish limits, demands, and sanctions for her own child using her parental authority?
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