Having a dog is a responsibility that should not be taken lightly. In many ways it’s like being a parent.
Caring for a dog that is not your own is also an important responsibility. After all, a dog is a living creature and most people would do anything to protect it.
Some people are not as careful as they should be, especially if the dog is not their own. And this groom found out that his bride-to-be couldn’t take care of his best friend.
The newlywed shared his story in a thread on Reddit, where he was asked if he was the bleep man for dumping his fiancé after she almost end the dogs life. In true Reddit fashion, users didn’t hold back their responses. Reddit users love dogs, after all.
Feel free to read the story below.
The boyfriend left his dog with his girlfriend because he wanted to take her to a bachelor party. The man had given the woman clear instructions on how to take care of the dog, but she did not do so and her boyfriend risked losing his furry friend.
Other people reacted like this:
1) It’s not a healthy relationship.
Obviously leaving you doesn’t make that much sense, so yes, it does.
I have a cat that I love more than anything and if my current partner accidentally hurt it, I would be angry and upset but your dog didn’t die. If the man is more important than his wife, that relationship is doomed. I had a relationship where I put my cat before him.
2) A good reason to give it an end.
ESH – and reading your responses to most people, it sounds like you have a lot of problems with your partner’s behavior and are looking for a good reason in your head to end the relationship.
If all the things you mentioned have caused you pain over time, I don’t think the marriage will last long.
3) What would people say if you did the same thing with a child around?
NTA.
Such carelessness could have led to an end. What would people say if he had done the same thing to a neighbor’s child?
It is very clear how you feel. Withdrawing now seems like a better option than letting things go until the divorce.
4) She deliberately ignored what you asked her to do.
NTA.
You asked her to do something. Take the dog away. I saw a comment where you said they left it outside because they wanted to pet it. That’s what brought them to the TA. She deliberately ignored your requests after you asked for the dog to stay there and then when they started drinking she didn’t look after the dog or let it in. This is cruelty to animals.
It really disgusts me that everyone treats it like it’s just a dog. Like what?! If the dog had been locked up properly this would not have happened. It wasn’t an accident or a mistake because she deliberately let the dog out to have fun. I think that’s a legitimate reason not to marry her. It’s not like they can get married and be happy and laugh in the future and say, Remember your bachelor party where my dog almost passed away because of your ignorance? Hahahahahahaha.”
No.
5) You don’t have to justify yourself to anyone.
NTA.
I don’t understand people who say: ,,But it was just an accident.”. He interrupted clear and simple instructions in the operating room and should have had enough common sense to keep everything safe from the beginning. Besides, he has a history of questionable decisions. What would have happened if it was his son lying in the emergency room?
OP, block her family and take a break from talking to your family. You don’t have to forgive her because this time your dog survived. And you don’t have to be with her and marry her because you have been together for four years. You don’t have to justify yourself to anyone.
6) You seem to have already looked for a reason to end the marriage.
YTA.
She ruined everything because she didn’t do what you asked her to do but it wasn’t all her fault.
You say she was careless and you give a number of examples, isn’t it your duty to look after your dog and not put him in a dangerous situation if you know she is careless?
The way you talk about other little things she did, it seems to me that you are already looking for a reason to end the marriage. You are scared and you are using this as an excuse to get out of a relationship and marriage that has lasted for years.
She made a mistake and as you say she has already cried for hours, so she didn’t do it on purpose. I would understand if she didn’t express regret for her mistake or anything else.
There is a reason why everyone around you says you are overreacting, even your mother and your best friends. I don’t think you are overreacting, I just think you are consciously or unconsciously using this excuse because you are scared.
Edit: Thanks for the gold and silver
7) This is an overreaction.
According to the YTA, this is an overreaction. But you seem to have bigger problems.
You say you don’t hide it, but you clearly do.
8) The way you talk about her is horrible.
YTA. OMG YTA.
YTA. The way you talk about her is horrible.
Please dump her so she can find someone who doesn’t think she’s mindless.