NTA. Your girlfriend is trying to control you and where you go with a lot of money already spent. Everyone has only 1 shot at life and what to do with it. Say you break up in the future over an unrelated issue. Will you still feel fine you never got to go? That you listened to her? She’s got her opinion and she votes with her dollars. You do the same. You are allowed to in this free country, murica and all that lol but how could you have known this would turn into a issue when she stated before you can do what you wanted in regards of wizardry and she would stay out of it. She should be doing that now too, staying out of it. Rowling has so much money that the money she makes off your attendance she wouldn’t even notice. It’s pocket change to her. Go and have fun and your ticket to Harry Potter isn’t going to be life changing for the trans community. Next time, book somewhere else I guess. If she breaks up with you over it, she’s a dumbass.

NTA. Look, JKR is utter trash and I will not support any Harry Potter related merchandise going forward. 

But, the Wizarding World was a core part of growing up for so many people and that’s hard to draw the line between. 

I can say that many years ago, I visited the park and it was one of my favorite experiences in my life. I treasure my experiences around Harry Potter. 

It sucks that JKR is trashing our childhood memories. What she doing to Trans people is even worse. So I direct my upset towards her for ruining things. Don’t let her get between you and your girlfriend. Don’t let her hate create more hate in the world. Don’t let her unhappiness spread. 

Talk to your girlfriend about what this means to you, or go to Universal and Disney and skip the train that goes to the Wizarding World. 

Find other ways to support Trans rights to show your girlfriend your values. 

NTA. But also, just because you love HP does not make you anti-trans. As someone who loves the stories and the movies, I have made peace with the fact that I can love HP and be supportive of trans people and think Rowling is a scumbag. 

Do I want her to have my money, not at all, but in this world, in some way shape or form, I figure my money has probably inadvertently gone towards something I don’t support. I would be willing to be money your girlfriend money has too. If she’s ever eaten at Chick-fil-A, shopped at Wal Mart or hobby lobby, or the countless other places with shady policies, then she has given money to “anti” causes. 

But it’s something I can’t control. I can only control myself. I just have to shout louder and support LGBTQ+ causes more.

I mean..I’ll go soft Nobody is the AH here. Should she be telling you what you can do with your money? No. But she has very good intentions here. Especially now when Rowling is basically putting all her money into supporting anti trans rhetoric and causes.

I am non-binary and have a trans brother. We really want to go to the new Epic park but don’t want to give her money so I can see where you’re both coming from. Hopefully this isn’t the end of your relationship and you can work things out.

I think this is so dumb lol. She needs to separate her hatred from your love of that fantasy world. This is you just trying to have a good time and do something you’ve always wanted to. She can support you enjoying yourself and her brother it doesn’t have to be mutually exclusive and a good girlfriend would want you to go and have fun and now you’ll have to worry about enjoying yourself because of her hatred. That’s not very good gfy of her. And it’s your money, do what you want

NTA, in my opinion she should seperate the art from the artist. It’s the same with music, you can love a song/franchise/artpiece without actually liking the person behind it.

Especially since she told you it was fine first and now is backpeddaling.

Maybe have a conversation with her brother and ask him if he’s really bothered by you liking the franchise (and maybe throw in some hate for Rowling if you’re feeling supportive)

NTA. Your gf needs help. My daughter just married a FTM trans and I couldn’t love my son in law more.

We are also Universal passholders. No one has a problem with it. Daughter and SIL also just went to Epic during the previews and spent money in WWHP. They both grew up loving HP and while all of us realize that JKR is a transphobic idiot, we don’t let her rob us of the all the memories and joy that HP brought us.

I don’t know what is or isn’t real on this reddit anymore. Hell, reddit in general.

Anyway, she can’t tell you what to do with your money and she can’t stop you from going. However, you can’t stop anyone from changing their opinion of you due to supporting these types of people.

Go, have fun. Spend your money how you want, but you can’t be mad at the fact you’re supporting people who have horrible views

NTA. Not only is she going back on your previous agreement, but she’s screaming at you and telling you what you’re “allowed” to do. This is abusive on her part.

If she had calmly discussed the matter with you, and been prepared to work out a compromise, perhaps there would be something to be said for her position. As it is, I think you should break up from your toxic and controlling girlfriend.

Warner Bros essentially ripped creative control from JK, so you’re girlfriend is an idiot. She’s basically banished from her own product because she’s a loon now.

If there’s something to support about Harry Potter it would literally be the movies.

I went to Disney/Universal with some alphabet friends, and you know what we had? Memories so core we bring them up frequently years later.

Tell her you already spent the money and she should have said that before because you’re already supporting her whether you go or not. You going downer change the fact that she ALREADY has your money all it does it deprive you of both the money and experience. NTA. The time to object was up front she can’t changes her mind AFTER you spent $2500

Ask her if she will refund the money. You’re out the cash, and that is what it is, but if it’s not about the money to her, explain that while you respect her position, you aren’t willing to lose 2500 bucks over her personal views especially after the two of you talked about this before you booked it and she was OK with it.

So what I’m hearing is your girlfriend wants the world to be open to accepting trans people and their right to their own opinions and letting them live their lives their way……however she’s not open to you doing what you want to do and live your own life? I think you need to take that on board and ask her about this.

I get being a fan of something and also having a strong moral conviction. You going or not going is not going to change JK Rowling and it is not going to put anything meaningful in her pocket. The only person benefiting would be your girlfriends sense of righteousness. Go and also break up with her.

Sorry but her expectation for you to cancel is out of line. Rowling is entitled to her opinion, and she hers. You aren’t going there saying I think she is right. You are going there as a Potter fan. I love Harry Potter, but do not like rowlings stance. I will still be going to Universal.

Tbf , fuck her brother tbh , their sorry choices in life shouldn’t reflect your life , if she feels that strongly about mental illness then I’d say go separate ways with this chick and you and your friend go and you find you a little hufflepuff action while you’re down here in fl

You’ve directly funded Segregation and the removal of rights for all women, so I suppose it’ really a question of how you feel about that,

I’d suggest YTA for doing this thing, and your GF is TA because she stayed with you knowing that you support bigotry against her family.

bro no, ur not the ah, u told her from the start, she agreed, and now u already spent the $, it’s not like ur waving a jk rowling flag or sumthin, ur just tryna live a dream u been waitin on. u can support trans ppl AND still go to a theme park lol

It’s your money – you can support whatever human pieces of filth you want to, and your girlfriend has a right to be disgusted by it, and if she gbreaks up with you over it, she’s a smart girl.

But you’re not the asshole for the reason you asked.

you’re a *huge* AH for helping to fund anti-trans agendas. Every dollar you send to JKR is a dollar she’s going to use to harm people. Go have your fun at your little wizard park knowing that every cent you spend there goes against common decency

Your girlfriend’s trying to control your choices and money. You already agreed she wouldn’t join. Losing $2500 for a trip you’ve always wanted, especially using inheritance, is unreasonable. You’re allowed to make your own decisions

NTA, she should’ve said something before you bought the ticket.  The park money, which probably barely covers Rowling’s royalties anyway, will go to her either way.  

If you care about trans-rights, I wouldn’t go again, though.

>Her younger brother is Trans

Could you elaborate? I’m not sure if you meant her brother who is now her sister or her sister who is now her brother or if you were referring to a previous cis gender identity.

I have LGBT family of all types, me and them still eat chic fil a. Idk, might just be a cultural/regional thing, my Midwest LGBT family is less adverse to supporting that type of thing, from a practical sense.

Um tell her who cares half her make up goes into shitty companies that test it on animals or her jewelry which might be blood diamonds. People are so dumb with that like almost rich ppl are scum

NTA You can spend your money how you want. She is not in control of that. If this is her hill to die on maybe she is not the person to spend your life with.

I mean 3/4 of that park have nothing to do with Harry Potter and neither does Disney world so… NTA.

Was she invited? Because she may be upset about that.

>I’m not allowed to go

Aaaand that would have been the moment i’d kick her out the door.

NTA

Also, you might want to reconsider this relationship.

You ever consider growing a pair of balls and telling her you’re going with or without her? Or she can reimburst you the money?

NTA – youre right, she cant ban you from going. But this also may be important enough to her that she ends your relationship

NTA – I think Danial Radcliffe said it best in that your experience with Harry Potter doesn’t belong to JK Rowling.

There’s a lot of Red Flag material. Don’t cancel because your GF can’t handle people with different viewpoints.

So now your a kid and she is your mom? 
What else is she gonna ban you from doing?

NTA, your girlfriend sounds exhausting and it seems you all aren’t compatible.

Could you make a donation to a trans-positive charity to balance out?

NTA. It’s a shame when people can’t seperate art from the artist.

NTA. But you should break up. She is toxically controlling.

Hopefully her next partner isn’t a transphobe YTA

You’re 27 and arguing about Harry Potter?