People are a trip… A grown ass woman ask a question pretaining to weather or not she’s a asshole for untying her bikini top , ** to which my answer is absolutely not, being a mother myself if I went to the pool with all 5 of my Rugrats and saw a young lady laying out by the pool relaxing , catching some rays , I definitely would probably take my brood to the opposite side of the pool and set up our towels. I mean obviously she wants attention of some sort, she probably was expecting you to be like ” aww they are so cute ” or she’s one of those people that likes to “show off what a good mom she is “. Anyways… Back to what I was saying… Why on gods earth would anyone offer skin care advice to this young woman when she clearly wasn’t asking about the dangers of the sun? People really trip me out. I’d assume just from the post, she’s 23 living in Florida, I’m sure she understands that she could get skin cancer 30 years from now if she oils up and Fry’s like bacon 2x a week for the next 20 years. Honestly if you live in Florida and aren’t taking advantage of the sunshine then you should probably move up here to Washington State where I live .. wait don’t tell me the sun is more harmful when it’s cloudy . Duh.

Not the asshole for that, but you are for tanning.

I am 1000% kidding, but please, OP, wear sunscreen! Especially if you live in the Northern Hemisphere and it’s warm enough to be at a pool in March. That sun is no joke that far south (or visa versa in the Southern Hemisphere? I’ll be real, I don’t know where March is in the scheme of summer down there 😳). No one looks good with skin cancer. Plus, tanning ages you, the sun steals our youth. Protecting your skin is so important!

But for real, fuck that lady, you did nothing wrong. Your bare backside isn’t going to scar her kids. And you need to report her for taking pictures of you. I would absolutely go to Property Management for that.

I don’t understand what the big deal is about boobs. No pun intended. They aren’t sex organs. Laying on your stomach with the strap undone is not salacious or exposing anything other than normal skin. Hell, if the majority of your boobs (except for your nipples) are exposed, again, nothing but skin. It’s ok for men to expose their nipples, but not women, according to our society. I’ve seen men with bigger boobs and bigger nipples than women. Make it make sense for me please.

NTA Literally grew up with the idea of women tanning in tiny bikinis as a norm. As a kid if I saw that in person I’d look out of curiosity but I wouldn’t go into fucking shock. Part of being a parent is knowing that taking your kids out in the world will expose them to things out of your control. That’s why over sheltering is problematic. They’re going to see shit whether you like it or not. The world isn’t your perfect idea of what should and shouldn’t be shown to kids.

Well this is a pretty quick update but she moved over like 5 chairs and is literally taking pictures of me right now and I asked what her problem was and she said she’s sending it to the apartments management office. So I’ll let you guys know if anything else happens. I’m just trying my best to ignore her at this point.

Next tell her that your bikini top is offended that she has her children out in public. You are appalled that she is flaunting having had sexual relation twice in her life. (Adjust the number to suit the number of kids)

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NTA. If she were truly uncomfortable, she would have chosen to sit elsewhere. Just a psycho, insecure, bored woman looking to provoke dramas coz her hubby prolly does not want to participate anymore in her toxic behaviours.

> Keep in mind my upper parts are NOT showing I’m completely on my stomach and any side boob would be showing whether the straps are tied or not.

NTA – Some people are disgusted whatever you do, you did nothing wrong

What’s your plan for how you’ll get up off the chair without flashing her?

Nothing wrong with getting a tan without lines, but you will have to redo it at some point and most bikini tops are hard to latch in the back 

I will say that as a young lesbian I lived to see pretty ladies sunbathing with their tops untied. And you’re right, the sideboob is visible either way.

NTA, I’d put it on the lady for sitting right next to you.

I remember my mom and my aunt untying their bikini tops to tan in the summer back in the 70s. Heck, everyone’s mom did that.

That woman is majorly prudish and a busybody.

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Please stop purposely trying to get melanoma. Please. Tanning isn’t healthy. Sitting our for 90 minutes is so bad for your skin. At the very least you’ll look like jerky.

I’d also take a quick look at your state’s laws regarding nudity. In my state, women can have their chest out no issues, last I knew.

I can’t comprehend the anger over someone’s bare back… it’s a back, so what? She probably would’ve been grumpy no matter what.

No, she’s the asshole. Women have been doing this for years. Probably she sis as well. She’s just a nasty miserable Karen

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Seems like she just felt like picking a fight. If it really bothered her, she could’ve sat literally anywhere else

I am 63 and did this when I was younger. So no, this has been going on since the stone age, you’re good.

NTA. She purposefully picked that spot just so she could lecture you too. She’s a bitch.

I know the boys appreciate this. They’re like cats; always looking for an opportunity.

Tomorrow wear a white see through top. .
Pools around here we don’t harass anyone

NTA – It appears she was looking for a fight. What you did is completely normal.

NTA – god forbid she ever sees anyone in public wearing a backless top/dress 🙄

Fock off. Dont waste other peoples time with a question u know the answer to.

omg how dare you expose an extra centimeter line worth of skin!!!1

You didn’t do anything wrong. Your back was exposed. That’s fine

She was trying to sneak a peek before feeling guilty about it.

Just remember she can report you to building management.

NTA – nope, not at all. Tan away and she can go screw.

NTA. She maybe get angry because of insecurities lol.

Was she fat? Probably mad she couldn’t tan like you

YTA for your “everything causes cancer” nonsense.

It’s def fucking tacky for a public space

1/10 creative writing.

Try harder.

MTA she’s a prude and like envious!

Sounds like u met a Karen. Sorry.

Americans are so prudish…. 🙄