Do you realize how much he has to care for you to go out of his way to try to surprise you by figuring out what songs you’re listening to? That shows a HUGE amount of thought and attention. To have a parent that goes that out of their way just to try to make you happy is a gift in its own right. Live music is fun, and I hear Jinjer is pretty good live. I’ve listen to some of their stuff and she’s got a pretty unique sound and nice voice. If you have a few of their songs, then chances are they’ll probably play those songs. Overall, yeah you’re definitely TA. Not for not liking the band, or not pretending to like it, you’re allowed to express yourself. But YTA for being completely selfish and disregarding the fact that the best gifts are all about intention. You’ll always remember the time your dad got you these tickets, but now instead of laughing it off with him it’s going to make him sad. You should’ve been super touched by his effort and let him know that you really appreciate it but that in the future your favorite artists are “x, y, z”. But instead you completely rejected him even though he put in a lot of effort

NTA. You like what you like. Be sure to thank your father for the gift and let him know you appreciate the effort. You cannot blame him for buying you tickets for a band he thought you liked. If there are any bands you want to see, let your father know. Or, see if you can resell the tickets and buy tickets for a band you like. If your father gives you a hard time about it, tell him you do not want to see them for the same reason he doesn’t, so why can’t he accept that? You should make a list of bands or music genres you do like for him so he knows what to look for if he wants to but you tickets in the future.

Why wouldn’t you enjoy yourself? You like some of their songs enough to listen to them. It’s awful narrow of you to only enjoy your favorite band.

Your story does remind me of the time that my grandmother bought me some vinyl. At the time, I thought, “Erroll Garner?? Old lady music.” I didn’t openly sneer at it or reject the gift. And it turns out that it exposed me to a whole different kind of music, that turns out to be pretty darn good.

Being narrow in your musical taste is one thing. But being visibly not thankful for and rejecting a gift that someone put thought into is ungrateful and rude.

YTA

My dad came to me one day beyond excited, told me he had found a new book by my favorite author! Put it in my hands, I looked at it, grinned from ear to ear, told him how happy I was, I loved it and gave him a big kiss. My mother watched the whole thing, said nothing, walked away with me and together we took my old copy of this book out of my bookshelf and replaced it with the fancy new edition with a different cover that my dad had bought for me.

I was happy. I loved it. Because I loved him and I loved that he tried so hard to make me happy.

NTA – I don’t know why people are acting like you’re being an ungrateful brat. He doesn’t even want to go to the concert because he doesn’t like the band either. So why should you be expected to? If he was going to use your Spotify to figure out what band you like, he could easily have checked the most common artists on your playlist. Or he could have asked you what your favorite band is. It’s not really a gift if you can’t enjoy it, and the purpose of a gift is for the recipient to enjoy it. Why would he want to force you to have a gift you hate?

NTA

I know you dad me at well but then it seems like he was angry you didn’t like it. I know most people are like fake happiness for the present and, I get that that is the polit thing to do. I’ve never understood the point in it unless it was someone who’s genuinely getting you something they think you like.

However, you dad bought something probably pretty expensive, that he can’t take back based on assumption? Shit, lemme pull up a picture of my dream car and meet up with your dad.

Although, I literally have to know, what band is it?

So your dad tried to buy you what he thought was a really cool gift. You didnt like it. You ever heard the tern ” its the thought that counts” ? I can’t count how many gifts Ive gotten that weren’ t my style, didnt fit right, wrong color, not what I read, or would use, but one thing was always clear, it wasnt because the giver didnt try hard to get me something Id love. And theres no way I would have acted the way you did. Theres so many better ways you could have handled it that made him feel good, and you blatantly chose none of them.

My dad is no longer with me, he passed in 2022.. to be frank one day you’ll regret that response. You’ll regret not telling him you love that band and faking excitement. I’m on 23 and I’m telling you this. They aren’t around forever and you’ll miss him so much when he’s gone. You’ll replay everytime you weren’t as nice to him as you should have been or everytime you guys fought over stupid things. Idk but if it were you I’d apologize of something. Try to make it right.

NTA op, this is a huge show of disrespect. Why would he buy you concert tickets without first checking with you? For multiple reasons, also. Including: making sure you werent already busy the day of the concert, making sure a friend was availble/wanted to go to the concert with you, making sure you actually *want* to see the concert. He heard you listen to them once and said “done. Got her bday present” without putting any thought into it.

Dad made a real effort to do something nice for you. That deserves recognition. Go to the concert, and if you aren’t vibing it, leave after the 3rd song. Go to a movie, or the mall, or whatever, but do your Dad the kindness of at least trying to make you happy. Not all gifts will be exactly what you want, but think of the love that went into them. Make Dad happy and go.

I get it for sure. I’d be a little upset too. Everyone makes mistakes, and maybe he can learn from this one by communicating about it more in the future before purchasing. I’d still go because a show is better than most things I personally can do with my free time, and some are way better than recorded because of great live performers.

OP your dad was trying really hard to relate to you and even though he maybe missed the mark this is really sweet.

I’m watching my dad enter his senior years now and the realization that he won’t be with me forever is hitting hard. He took me to my first concert when I was eight years old and to my second concert when I was fifteen.

YTA. Your dad tried to do something nice for you, even if he botched it, he went the extra mile to check your play list. This should be something you both laugh at, not something you need to post about on Reddit to try and justify your self importance. Go to the show even if it’s terrible and be glad you have a loving father

Uncomfortable circumstance. When someone attempts to show love but falls short, it’s difficult. Going to the performance together might be a compromise; since he has a stake in it, you might give it a shot and enjoy the experience, even if the band isn’t your favorite.

Even though your dad said he didn’t want to go, ask him again if he would like to be your “date” to the concert. Tell him it would be the best birthday ever if HE were to go with you. As a father, I would endure a night out with my kids, even if it were a band I hated.

If I bought my son a gift and he didn’t like it, I’d be bummed. You’re dad was just trying to be nice, and it backfired 🙂 So, no harm, no foul.

Tell him you appreciate the thought. It sounds like he would appreciate those words, and all will be well.

Yeah, it seems like your dad was just trying to be nice but didn’t quite get your vibe. NTA for not pretending to be excited, it’s your birthday, you should enjoy it! Maybe just explain to him it wasn’t your thing but you appreciate the thought.

YTA – but you’re 17 so you won’t realize it until you’re 35. Your dad just wanted to get you something you might like and an experience on top of that. He’s trying.

Also live music is live music. Maybe you’ll enjoy the show.

Dad trying to pretend he knows you but half asses it. NTA He could literally find out a myriad of other ways which band is your favorite. Let’s not applaud dad’s who barely show up just because they barely show up.

You’re not the asshole. Your dad assumed you liked the band based on a few songs, but it’s okay not to want to go to a concert you’re not excited about. You were honest, and it’s not your fault he misunderstood.

You’re the AH, stfu be appreciative your dads trying and go to the show with him. Some of us never had this in our lives and wish for one moment they could have what your complaining about. This sub is so trash

my dad bought me (27 F) a hulk lego set 😂 I don’t like Marvel or superhero’s or anything like that. I think he definitely liked it more than me, but he gave it to me because he loves me. I love my dad

I’ve been to a few concerts that I flat out don’t like the band. Concerts have alot of things going on and it’s almost always a good time. Go people watch, get some snacks and walk around the venue

I mean I hate concerts but if someone got me tickets I’d just go to go.

If nothing else you have a little fun, grab some merch, and have a funny story to tell the grands someday

Don’t you have a friend that will come with you just to hang out? If not tell him nobody will cone with you and he should come withyou but its kinda off to just not go.

Sometimes live performances by a band you feel you don’t like may fool you. They may have an energy that makes a difference. NTA, just blind to opportunity.

That’s a tough one, maybe you could try going and making the best of it? But if not, maybe be honest with him and explain how you feel.

You are old enough to start using manners.

Thank him for the gift and the thought he put into it, then get over yourself.

I like live music. I can even tolerate music I don’t like at a live venue. Just go for the fun of going to a concert.

Go anyway.

Live music is always more fun. Even if you’re not 100% on some of the songs, the vibe is always great.

Tell him go with you you can both suffer it together and look back on this as one of them things in the future

One day you’re going to wish your dad was still around. Go spend time with your dad while you still can.

I told my daughter when she was about 7 that if you want more gifts be grateful for the ones you get.

You’ll be the AH if you don’t stop whining and go to the concert. It’s one concert. You’ll live.

INFO: the band must be identified before judgement can be passed. Your taste is now on trial.

He tried to get you something nice. Go to the concert. You may end up actually enjoying it.

Just go. You will have fun. You don’t have to know any songs to have fun at a concert.

YTA sorry not sorry. I’d be heartbroken as a mum if my child reacted like this

YTA for not telling me the band. Other than that, NTA.