I Am Done Paying For My Girlfriend’s Entitled Adult Kids Who Destroyed My Home

The original poster (OP) has been in a relationship for 18 months with his girlfriend, Lita. The core conflict stems from OP’s financial and material support for Lita’s two adult children, a 25-year-old son and a 28-year-old daughter. Both adult children are unemployed and rely on government assistance and financial contributions from OP, totaling about $1,000 per month.

The situation is aggravated by the daughter’s frequent stays with her own two young children in OP’s fifth wheel trailer. This has resulted in significant damage and uncleanliness, leading to an estimated $30,000 loss in the trailer’s value. OP’s attempts to get Lita to address this cleaning issue have failed. OP is now questioning his anger about constantly supporting two grown adults while trying to enjoy his life with Lita.

I Am Done Paying For My Girlfriend's Entitled Adult Kids Who Destroyed My Home

My girlfriend’s kids are 2 of the most worthless human beings I’ve ever met. Both are adults (25m & 28f). The daughter has 2 kids. 4 and 8 years old. Neither have jobs. Both live off the govt and me.

We have been together 18 months and it’s a constant fight. She wants to give her kids everything. I want to live our lives happily. On average, it’s 1k a month to support her kids.

My kids are grown and self sufficient. Am I wrong to be mad that I constantly have to pay for 2 adult children? Her daughter comes and stays in our 5th wheel all the time. She and her kids have destroyed the trailer to the point that it’s worth apx $30k less than it should be.

It’s filthy. I can’t get her to clean up after herself and her kids. Lita?

Here’s how people reacted:

LapierreUK

You are your own problem. Harsh but it’s true. Stop, step back and take a look at the situation. You are a vending machine to them. They don’t respect you and the GF (I’d go as far to say, leach) is taking advantage of you. My biggest question is WHY, after 18 months are you even this deep into this relationship? Get out now. Spend the 1000 on you or at least put it away into some kind of investment. GET OUT NOW.

TorrieDenali

I’d say you guys move fast to co-own “our trailer” in 18 months, but I was married for 15 months and pregnant with my second kid by then.

Tell your girlfriend that the purest form of love is discipline. It’s the moment you realize that turning your children into humans that others can also love is your greatest gift to them. The most worthless love is that which is one sided and is financial.

TrafficLopsided4048

People will abuse you only if you let them. It sounds as if you’ve involved yourself with a bunch of leeches who fully intend to bleed you dry. I suggest that you leave the trailer to them since it appears that none of them are going to move, and start over fresh somewhere that none of them including your worthless girlfriend can follow.

HotdogFromIKEA

Sometimes it just turns out you aren’t compatible and want different things, you are better than the relationship you have, it’s up to you if you want to endure it but I would say life is too short.

Limp_Estimate_810

The sex must be really good because you can’t leave a relationship that’s destroying you. You complain, but you’re not doing anything to help yourself.

FitterOver40

One time my MIL told me this… she was happy that my wife and i don’t need them. When you really think about it, it’s an amazing compliment.

Gloomy-Principle-27

No booty is worth that. If she can’t tell her kids to get their shit together, you need to throw them all out, gf included

Luzerbro

They didn’t take anything.. YOU gave it to them. Run dude..run fast & far. These losers will take you down with them.

DarkTieDie

18 months? LEAVE. wtf is wrong with you bro? They’re not your problem. Find someone who’s got less shit to deal with

Baekurly

My step dad hates me. It negatively affected me my whole life. Please leave the relationship if you’re not happy.

GimmeFalcor

Your values just don’t match. That does not make you an asshole unless you phrase it like. I’m better than you.

Bruins408

Fire up the truck and move that fifth wheel to a new place – leave all their stuff in the driveway – cut and run

Prestigious_Badger36

Dude, just leave the leech pit

Y T A if you stay another day in this relationship,

gaytrashqueen24

I mean like just don’t pay? I don’t understand how this is even an issue

Accurate_Annual_9721

I see a lot of men lacking self respect lately on here it’s terrible.

CapsizedbutWise

How old do you have to be until you realize someone is using you?

ballistics211

Bro must really be in love to tolerate this from the jump.

universechild9

The answer here is to leave the relationship.
NTA

goinghome81

I will keep it simple, you need a new girlfriend.

SuperLeverage

You’re a moron for staying in the relationship,

bruzkee

Insanity from all parties. You know what to do.

Cultural_Horse_7328

Best to cut and run. Theyre not going anywhere.

Blue-Fish-Guy

Sex with your girlfriend must be amazing!

Long-Okra1415

Updateme
When you come to your senses!

Stacy3536

Have you had a talked to your gf yet

llevin67

I’m sorry. It won’t change. Leave.

Conclusion

OP is clearly in a difficult position, feeling frustrated because his desire for financial independence and a peaceful life clashes directly with his girlfriend’s commitment to supporting her adult children without accountability. The ongoing financial strain and the physical damage to his property are causing significant stress in the 18-month relationship.

The central debate is whether OP is wrong to demand an end to supporting two capable, yet dependent, adults when it severely impacts his resources and living situation. Readers must weigh OP’s right to protect his assets and finances against Lita’s desire to provide unconditional support for her children.