The father expressed happiness about the election outcome and dismissed the OP’s deeply held moral objections, referencing her Christian upbringing as justification for his political stance. Feeling her personal trauma and moral values were disregarded, the OP is now questioning whether creating distance from her father is a justified response to this severe rift.
I am a 26 year old woman who has always disagreed on politics with my father. Being a Republican is one thing, but vehemently supporting a convicted felon, rapist, and racist is where I frankly draw the line.
After this election, it fully dawned on me how I would never hear the end of it with my dad. How happy he is that Trump won. How America is finally going to get rid of all those pesky immigrants.
How awesome everything Trump does is. My dad knows I was raped. He knows what was on the line for this presidency. And he doesn’t care. He called the left evil and that he raised me as a Christian and I should know better.
I feel like I’m living in an alternate reality. Am I really so wrong to keep a distance from my dad after this???
Conclusion
The OP is experiencing significant distress because her father’s political celebration directly clashes with her personal moral boundaries, especially concerning issues related to sexual assault and social inclusion. Her desire to distance herself stems from feeling invalidated and deeply disappointed by his lack of empathy.
The core debate is whether maintaining a relationship requires accepting viewpoints that one finds morally reprehensible, or if establishing strong personal boundaries that include separation is necessary for self-preservation. Readers must decide if the OP is justified in pulling away due to this fundamental moral incompatibility.
Here’s how people reacted:
We can go out to dinner, we can go to a play or concert, we can travel or what ever, but with me STFU about politics, I don’t want to hear the drivel.
I might not mind a rational discussion but I don’t need to hear sound bites.
I know she gets spun up with her friends and can’t help herself, I know she desperately needs to slip in something smart by the end of the night. I am not trying to change her. I also give her leeway because she is passionate, ignorant from my perspective but passionate.
I still love her as my mom.
Narcissistic, abusive, brilliant but stuck on stupid, kind of like ADHD or something.
Respect my simple boundaries and we will be okay.
Sometimes she forgets the boundaries when she gets excited, but not out of ignorant malice, so I love her for who she is. I also don’t talk to her for a while if my boundaries aren’t real enough for her.
When she misses me my boundaries become real again. So I give her space when she needs it.
For me no election is more important than the limited time I have with my mom.
At the moment, I don’t want to hear the bullshit she and her friends will be spinning up now to save their position, so I give them all space. This feels very much like people having a passionate discussion about a novella.
Does it makes sense for life long friends or family to separate over differing opinions of a novella? Apparently to many people the answer is yes.
I know it’s hard. Your peace of mind and emotional safety are worth it. sending peaceful and courageous vibes your way in these frustrating times 🫶🏻
All my best,
another 26yo woman
He just told you he’d be OK seeing you dead if you ever get pregnant, and, God forbids, something goes wrong with that pregnancy. No one, really no one, needs ppl like that in their life.
people have different opinions, and we should listen to each other more, rather than isolate ourselfs into echo chambers.
He’s chosen his position and tried to shift the blame to you. Fuck “not coming around as often”, block his number and find peace somewhere else.