A good compromise would be delayed vaccination schedule. Babies usually receive two vaccines at a time or the receive them every three to six months. Delayed would make it easy on your wife so she can monitor the baby in between.

My niece had a severe reaction to one of the vaccinations, and for some reason she had trouble with her bowel movement after the shots. My nephew also has some kind of reaction, so their parents decided to pause the shots. I think oldest three has all the shots while one only has some shots. The rest doesn’t have any shots. They are leaning to not having shots because they don’t want them to have more health issues like older ones did.

Vaccine injuries do happen, but I think it’s rare. Having a delayed schedule may help her see that her baby can handle the shots.

As a longtime mom, I’m going to offer what is possibly going to be a controversial thought. I believe in vaccines, but I don’t necessarily trust every doctor. Here’s my thought… vaccines are tested and then deemed safe. They are often given to kids in combination. I’m not sure (I could be wrong…), but I’m not sure that they’re ever tested in combination. OP should ask his wife if getting each vaccination separately would make her less anxious about vaccinating their baby. For example, I’ve had a flu vaccine before, and a COVID vaccine, but I would never get both of them together, as is often advertised now. Just throwing the idea out there.

As someone who has worked with ASD children, there is a lack of evidence that autism is caused by vaccinations. Andrew Wakefield perpetuated that myth with deeply flawed studies. https://www.chop.edu/vaccine-education-center/vaccine-safety/vaccines-and-other-conditions/autism

Vaccinations are one of the best inventions of modern medicine. People would have literally at least a dozen children in the hopes that at least half would live to adulthood due to diseases. We don’t need to think in that antiquated way anymore.

NTA! Do not have children with anyone unless they are on the same page as you on vaccinations.

I’m autistic (professionally diagnosed) and thriving in life at 30 years old. It’s genetic and not caused by vaccines. Want to know why? I was never vaccinated as a child, suffered a childhood full of illness on top of being on the autism spectrum without any accommodations at school because I wasn’t diagnosed until much later in life. Also, I’m the uncle of three neurodivergent kids and they are all brilliant, funny, and sweet. The oldest started college at 14 years old. What’s the issue having ASD? Afraid of your child being sensitive to loud sounds and bright lights? Get over yourself at that point.

NTA but your wife sure is for opposing Vaccinations. Google the statistics about bad reactions to immunizations. The side effects you mention are rare. IGNORE the Site where anybody can upload reactions they feel are bad. Only use accredited Medical Resources like the FDA or CDC. One other thing. If any future kids that are not vaccinated by the time they get to be 5 years old it is unlikely that the Public Schools will allow you to enroll the child in school. It takes up to 3 years to complete recommended childhood vaccinations.

That is a very serious issue. If my husband was an antivaxxer, I would not have married him, let alone have children with him. I know an antivaxxer who has children with ASD. She was so upset when it finally set in that her children had the flu, covid, etc, throughout their lives, and it was for nothing. There has never been a credible study that linked ASD to vaccines. Not even the studies that the antivaxxers paid for. ASD is genetic. There’s no changing that.

I got my kid fully vaccinated as our pediatrician recommended. We’re gonna do the same for the baby my wife will deliver within a few days. Wanna know why? I work in IT and my wife is a Registered Nurse. Do you know which one of us got a degree in Virology and Epidemiology? Neither of us so we listen to the experts. Our kiddo is healthy and amazing, please don’t put your children’s health at risk because you saw a tickytocky video and think you’re smart.

Vaccines can be spaced out, the only reason that there are so many on the same Dr visit is for
efficiency and you can vary from the standard schedule and also have some be delayed, maybe this would be an agreeable compromise, as long as the child has them alI before starting school. I did this and there was no problem. You still have to stick to the booster timeline and booster the shots with the spacing remaining the same just at a slightly older age.

Do your own research but honestly with the amount of vaccines they want to give babies these days right after birth is crazy in my opinion. Give your baby a chance to develop its own immune system first. Yes I have two kids. Neither one had any vaccines at all until they were at least 2 or 3 years old and even then it’s been very minimal. They are now 12 and 7. No issues at all

NTA.

This is the type of thing that you need to be in agreement on before having children. If you can’t agree now, imagine how much harder it will be to agree once you do have kids. Fighting over vaccines isn’t going to be a good situation for anyone.

I would make it clear to her that until the two of you can reach agreement that you aren’t comfortable having kids.

Kid in the seventies I knew got chicken pox and she wound up with severe brain damage but still alive. Not her parents’ fault as vaccine had not come out yet.

There is no excuse nowadays.

My kids and I get all the vaccines. Shoot me up with them all. I had influenza one time and hopefully Never Again. All the kids got the HPV vaccine too.

You are NTA

NTA – and you should not have kids with her. ASD is in no way, shape, or form caused by vaccines; the “study” was debunked, and the guy who performed it lost his credentials for it. It was that bad.

She’s happy to take medical advice from TikTok over actual medical professionals. That’s not someone you want to have kids with, or be married to.

NTA—she would be putting your hypothetical child at risk due to a disproven claim, not to mention anyone who depends on herd immunity due to legit reasons to be unable to get vaccinated.

Not to mention that even *if* they did increase the risk of autism? That’s an awful attitude to have about kids with it.

You two need to seriously talk.

Yeah mate, you need more than just to rethink your child situation with this lady. Anyone who takes medical advice from “influencers” and not people who have spent decades up to their eyeballs in research shouldn’t be allowed to have a phone, let alone a child.

Delete facebook, hit the gym, lawyer up, etc etc etc.

NTA polio is now a concern for the first time since the creation of the vaccine in 1955. One famous actor stated with absolutely zero proof that it causes ASD. This has been disproven by lead scientists. I’m sorry you are going through this. Have her watch the Fire Truck Red episode of House to see if it helps her

Very important to get on the same page before having children. That being said, I’m 68 and never had a vaccination in my life, my mother was derelict and as an adult I don’t believe in them. Never had the recent vacs, never got sick or had the flu in at least 20 years.

I remember hearing a story on the radio a few years ago about a 10-year old (I think it was in Africa) who carried his baby cousin for miles to get him to a free vaccination clinic. We don’t realize how lucky we are.

One option is to do a delayed vaccine schedule. We opted not to do hepatitis B vaccines until right before school. We also did one vaccine a month. That way, we could monitor for any side effects.

NTA. Y’all should have had this conversation a long time ago. Maybe both sit down and do some research together and then come to an agreement? But honestly yeah I would wait too haha

I strongly recommend you guys get and read The Vaccine Book together. Very common sense book that does not dismiss vaccine concerns. Followed their protocol with my kiddo.

Your wife is an idiot making decisions that may wind up putting any future kids of yours in a pine box. If you need to have kids, just don’t have them with her. NTA.

Vaccines don’t cause autism but even if they did…She’d rather risk your kid getting measles than have to *gasp* have a kid with autism. Speaks volumes.

It’s actually a huge deal that your wife is really easily influenced by misinformation spread by social media. Vaccines do not cause Autism.

NTA, Your wife is ableist and cares more about whether or not a child has autism than whether or not they live or die, hope this helps.

Oh yikes. I am so sorry. I would not be comfortable having children with someone who values TikTok over evidence-based research.

I’m a big fan of nurture, but nature influences things too. Do you really want a baby that is half moron?

NTA 

Your wife is an asshole who would literally gamble with her child’s life and the lives of others.

NTA. That bitch is retarded and you owe it to your ancestors to not sully your bloodline with hers.

Have you considered leaving her and getting with someone/something smarter? Like a box of rocks?

Stop! Reverse! She’s insane, a cultist, and not mom material. This cannot possibly end well.

NTA, be glad you had this talk before kids. Don’t have kids whit here.

NTA. Are you telling me she still believes vaccines cause autism? EW.

“You know another really good business? Teeny tiny baby coffins”

And it is only gonna get worse with RFK, Jr. at the helm.

I wouldn’t reproduce with an idiot, but that’s just me

Please don’t reproduce with stupid people. 

Sort this out before you impregnate anyone.

Vaccines do not cause ASD, NTA