I’m a 24M, and my girlfriend is 21F. We’ve been together for a year and a half. For context, I have a sister, and she’s always been the golden child. My parents will do anything for her, but they’re very critical of me. The other day, my girlfriend and I were at my parents’ house for dinner.

My sister was there as well. At the end of the night, my mom offered to pay for dinner. My sister, without missing a beat, asked for $200 for a new pair of shoes. My mom immediately agreed and pulled out her wallet. I joked and said, “Wow, I wish I could get money for things.” My mom scoffed and said, “Well, maybe if you were more responsible, you could.” I was annoyed, but I let it go.

Later that night, my girlfriend and I were in bed, and she was on her phone. I asked what she was doing, and she said she was on Zillow looking at houses. She found a house she really liked, and it was listed for $450,000. She then asked if we could afford it.

I laughed and said, “Absolutely not.” She got upset and said that I was never going to be successful. I was taken aback and asked her to clarify. She said that I’m not ambitious enough and don’t care about money. I said that I’m happy with my job and don’t need a lot of money to be happy.

She then said that she was embarrassed to be with me and that she wanted to break up. I was shocked and asked her if she was serious. She said that she was. I was hurt and told her that she was being ridiculous. She packed her things and left. I’m now wondering if I was the asshole.