YTA- you don’t seem to realise how potentially devastating nudes can be for a woman. I am not accusing you of anything, there could be a data leak or a bad break up ahead, yet once those pictures are in circulation they have the potential to discredit her personally/professionally for years.

I have an ex who kept pressuring me for nudes. Notice how I said “ex”.

YTA only because it’s not just you the NSA will get her nudes too

Some creepy old man looking at your girl

Why are you asking for nudes if she doesn’t wanna give em tho? Pornhub is right there bro

You’re NTA if you asked ONCE. If she let’s you know she isnt into it then if you ask again then definitely YTA.

Try a little diplomacy. Ask for a selfie and see what you get. She will send you what she is comfortable with. Might get lucky and get what you’re hoping for.

NTA for testing the water or asking originally. YTA for continuing to ask after she has made it known that she doesn’t want to and feels cheapened when you ask. Also she told you that being asked for nudes made her feel like you only liked her for her body, so you asked for nudes more after that, in her mind probably confirming her suspicion.

Yeah don’t ask my guy. If she gets mad that you even ask and you ask often, you need to put 2 and 2 together

YTA. If she doesn’t want to send nudes stop asking for them.

YATA and she is a smart girl.

If you keep asking, then YTA. Any female who is paying attention knows there is potential for those pictures to wind up on the Internet, shared with others for whom they’re not intended, etc. I’m not saying that is what you will do, but the horror stories are endless.

Also, if she tells you she thinks you only like her for her body, then start talking to her about all of the other lovely things you like – intellect, kindness, sense of humor, etc. Caveat – only say it if you mean it. You can also say that you think she is beautiful/that you like the way she looks, but don’t make it explicit about her body. You will find that this will go a long way toward making her feel more secure in your relationship.

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NTA, read OP’s clarification below.

You got needs too brotha NTA but like everyone else is saying if you pester for them YTA

YTA because you won’t stop asking. It’s fine to ask, but she’s clearly not having it. You’re being a dick by pestering her about it.

YTA. She has plenty of reasons not wanting to, and if she made it clear and you kept pursuing, then yta.

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YTA. You weren’t the asshole the first time, but she’s clearly not into it and you have to respect that.

Yes, YTA. If they aren’t comfortable with that they are not comfortable with that. Stop asking. All pestering them is accomplishing is pissing them off and making you an asshole.

I think this is an example of what the mods meant when they asked us to stop treating people who are only a bit of an asshole like they’re a huge asshole.

Yeah you shouldn’t have asked repeatedly, but like, people’s opinions change. If you asked her once in a blue moon, genuinely every once in a while, that’d be one thing. But if it’s like once a week or even once a month then yeah, too much.

So yeah, don’t if you’re doing it too much, otherwise YTA. But asking your partner every once in a great while a question to see if she’s changed her mind, I don’t think that makes you an asshole.

Don’t ask her ever again. It is a big deal, you break up and what happens to the pics?

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Is she expecting or asking you to send nudes as well?

NTA for asking.

YTA if you keep asking her. I get offended when my boyfriend asks for nudes, because I’ve made it clear on several occasions that I’m not comfortable with it. It feels inherently disrespectful each time he asks, because he *know* that it’s an uncomfortable situation for me, because I’ve made it clear to him.

You weren’t the asshole the first time though. But she has made it pretty clear that she doesn’t want to send them, so why not just stop asking?

Other people already said it, but yea YTA if you pressed her several times on the matter. Side note, I’ve had nudes given to me before and when the relationship ended they became a major source of stress for my ex because now this person she no longer wanted to be with had something extremely intimate of her. I deleted them pretty quickly after the relationship ended and told her and she made a huge sigh of relief and was extremely thankful that I didn’t use them in any malicious way against her.