Ignore these comments that keep saying you over reacted. The racial jokes seem a little much for just meeting them. I’m a minority too and I don’t appreciate it when people make racial jokes. They may say “ quit being a snowflake” or whatever but you can feel anyway you want. YOU know what made you uncomfortable. If you didn’t like it then YOU didn’t like it. Tell your BF to tell them to not do those kinds of jokes.

Side note most of the people on here are white honestly trying to say “ it was SARCASTIC” “IT WAS A JOKE”. But they weren’t there. You were. My fucking wife is Hispanic and I’m sorry but don’t make jokes like that. I’m not down with that shit.

You have a right to feel how ever you want! (You were there you felt the vibes)
Your boyfriend noticed and glared at him so that means he knew it was not cool ! I’d have your boyfriend talk to them and just tell them that if they want you to feel welcomed and have peace they should not say things like that even if it a joke. Brown lives matter too ! Lol

i understand being upset, and you have every right to feel the way you feel. however upon reading it, i think they were making a joke about racists rather than being racist. i think they were making fun of the wall idea that trump keeps talking about. in a way i think they were trying to be against trump, but it came out in a way that hurt your feelings. your boyfriend probably noticed it upset you so he told them to stop. i’m sorry you felt uncomfortable, though.

Do you think it could be them satirizing the current president?

Should’ve said “there’s so many gringos, we should build another olive garden with a country club attached to it”.

It was either racist, or it was sarcastic and ridiculing people who believe ridiculous things like all Mexicans are bad. I wouldn’t rush to judgment. At least ask your boyfriend if their humor is sarcastic or not. If they are racist, that doesn’t mean your bf is also. But you may need to confront him about some of the beliefs he was raised with and challenge them.

As a child of stereotypical suburban white parents, this happens often… That to me sounds like an attempt from an awkward white father to make a joke about racial tensions to try and make some sort of connection with you, but i agree that it was a misplaced comment and even I find it incredibly cringey… However i don’t think it was bad intentioned, i wouldn’t chalk it up to racism yet.

If you stay together long enough they will learn about your culture in a positive way.

As a Mexican American who strongly opposes the border wall, I think you’re overthinking this. It definitely sounds like they were making fun of it.

You are absolutely not wrong for feeling upset about this. His family is obviously showing their true colors and they aren’t likely to change in the future. If this gets serious, you should be mindful that they may never actually respect you or treat you as an equal. That is a decision that you need to make if you start considering marriage.

My father and grandmother are racist and I made the choice to just cut them out of my life because that attitude is toxic. I’m better for it. So the question is, is this relationship worth enduring the racism for the rest of your life and is your boyfriend willing to stand up for you and say “That is completely inappropriate.” If he’s not willing to stand up for you, then maybe you should move on. Nobody should have to endure racism and they shouldn’t be with someone who won’t stand up for them and support them.

I’m half White and half Hispanic. My dad is a German and my mom is Mexican.

My outer appearance is Caucasian. I don’t even look a little bit Mexican. Nor do I speak Spanish which my mother speaks fluently.

Can I just say that when Caucasian people believe there isn’t a Mexican near by and the subject comes up about walls, stereo types, ect. They go to town.

I was a desk clerk at a printing and graphic store and a woman had come in from the notary next door and complained to me about the “Mexican trash” next door and I was speechless. But I had to give her service.

She left after the service. My boss confronted me asking “aren’t you half Hispanic?” I nodded. She retreated to her office.

Awkward

Were they being sarcastic? I say completely outlandish and ridiculous stuff when I’m mocking politics that, if someone didn’t know me, could be taken completely the wrong way.

I’m Latina to and sometimes I wonder when people are making comments , what the under current really is. I’m light skinned Latina … so sometimes I hear comments and people don’t realize I am Hispanic.

I wouldn’t take it so offensive. When I was little my friends grandma used to make racist jokes towards Latins but funny ones I always laughed at it because I knew she me

I saw a great statement on reddit the other day (about something someone learned in therapy): “Just because I’m feeling hurt doesn’t mean someone is hurting me”.

I mean, I read that as the sarcastic eye-rolly thing that white liberals do where they mock racists by saying outlandish, sarcastic racism. A lot of white people / straight people do this around their POC / queer friends, and their friends often tolerate it either because they don’t care or because they don’t think it’s worth fighting it.

Like, it doesn’t make it better, but I don’t think they really were using codewords for hispanic people. They may even have been trying to show you how woke they are in their own way. Most white liberals are flabbergasted when their POC friend of 15 years tells them that they viewed those jokes as a racist attack.

Seems like you overreacted and took a joke badly.

It’s super unlikely that they were just being racist to your face. What did your boyfriend say?

It’s very likely they were satirizing the ridiculous US/Mexico wall nonsense and making fun of it referring to a chihuahua invasion. I think this is more likely than not.

If they were being racist he should say something to them.

You’re not wrong for feeling upset. Talk to your boyfriend and see what he says. Lots of people on this thread say it’s not racist, but they have no way of knowing if it was sarcastic or serious. If you felt hurt, your boyfriend should know that– regardless of their intent.

I’m German and my wifes family is Serbian. Her brother jokes with me all the time about the war and current affairs. They could have been being sarcastic about building a wall.

This is clearly a joke, making fun of Trump’s wall idea and also making fun of people who claim Obama let in too many Mexicans.

They were using “chihuahua” to mean exactly that – the dog. The funny part is that they poked fun satirically at the wall idea by saying we need to build a wall to keep those dogs (literally, not people) from coming over the border. *Nobody actually thinks that, and they are saying that’s just as stupid as the real wall idea, which is why it’s funny.*

Frankly this is actually a good joke, and it’s sarcasm. If I were in the room I would’ve laughed, and I hate Trump. They are in support of you, not talking in code about you in a racist way.

I get that you didn’t catch the sarcasm and felt insulted. There’s nothing wrong with that, just know that they aren’t racist (at least not based off of that comment.)

You can talk to them or your boyfriend about how you felt uncomfortable with it. I’d suggest they be explicit when they make sarcastic jokes like that so you know how to interpret them. I’m sure they would be sad if they knew you were insulted.

**TLDR: Relax, you just misinterpreted a sarcastic joke *against* Trump and *pro* Obama. They were not laughing at you in front of your face.**