NTA. My partner & I are in the same boat. It really grosses my partner out to have dogs in the bed, and it’s literally the least I can do to let the dogs sleep on their beds on the floor (which they really don’t mind at all). You better believe I let the dogs in the bed when my partner’s not there, though.

NAH sleeping with pets is not for everyone. I don’t mind cats but hate sleeping with dogs. Nevertheless if a partner tried to kick my cat out of bed I’d be kinda sad.

Maybe buy the dogs some nice beds so you can make sure they’re comfortable and show you know they’re important to your SO. I’d talk to your boyfriend about changing the sheets if he lets the dogs in bed while you’re away as a compromise.

Nta. I grew up in home with cats that had free range and always hated that they would sleep on my pillow and I would breath in their hair. When I got my own place and got a cat I trained him to never set foot on my pillow. And he doesn’t. He also doesn’t sleep with us long so doesn’t disturb our sleep. Like most people here have said a dog bed next to your bed or at the foot is a good compromise imo. And maybe have a blanket you cover your bed with when u are not sleeping so if the dogs r on it during the day it can be removed at night.

NTA I would hate that too, my bed has to be super clean or else I get OCD haha

NTA I have pets, I love them, but they are not even allowed in the bedroom.

NTA, it’s perfectly reasonable to not want to wake up with dog drool/hair all over you/the bed. Sharing a bed with pets is not for everyone, and it’s not like you’re asking him to get rid of the dogs entirely or something. It’s unfortunate that you two are on opposite sides of this but you’re both entitled to your opinions and sleeping preferences. Idk how to resolve that tho

NTA. I love my dog, but that beast has her own bed. If a 70lb human was living in my home, I wouldn’t be like “yes, join us in our bed made for two people, that clearly makes more sense then getting you your own damn bed.”

NTA, and I feel your pain. I’m not a dog person either (they’re fine but I’d rather do without) and I just got a place with my bf and his dog, who he used to let sleep on the bed. She sheds like a motherfucker and hair is constantly everywhere. I hate it. But I don’t let her on the bed anymore either, and my bf knows if he lets her on I will flip my shit.

NTA I sleep with my dog but not ever if anyone else is sleeping with me. No bed is big enough for two labs and two people haha

NTA honestly two large animals and two people in a bed is alot period. There’s no real reason the must sleep on the bed, couches and dog beds are perfectly fine.

ESH.

I have my puppy sleep by my legs all the time, and she’s a great comfort when my depression gets bad. If a guy wanted her out, he’d be on his way out. I just know it’s not a thing I am willing to compromise on permanently, and frankly I don’t like anyone enough to live with them much less move my dog out of the room.

It seems like something you’ve gotta be compatible on, like kids or career goals or temperament. It’s unfortunate. But maybe he can build a raised, super comfy dog bed near his side of the bed so they’re close but not on your bed? He can put an arm or leg over with them if he wants but it’ll give you space?

Or maybe if it’s easier, have a dog futon or little guess bed. He can lay with them in that, but your bed is just for you guys? Like even a mattress on the ground with dog specific sheets and some pillows? It could function as a nice reading nook, as well

You’re kind of the asshole here. YOU moved in with HIM knowing he has two large dogs. Did you know they sleep with him in his bed? Animals are creatures of habit, just like people. Theyre not going to understand why they’re suddenly being banished from their sleeping area. I dont think youre the ass for not wanting your bed to smell like dog and be covered in hair but that’s what having pets are about.