Little did he know, that innocent click would spark a drama storm with his girlfriend and her family.
I liked a good looking girl on Facebook 4 days ago, I never really took notice of it until now.
My girlfriend messaged me saying she feels sick and started puking. I then asked, “What’s wrong?” I didn’t get a reply.
My girlfriend’s aunt messaged me a screenshot of her saying how I reacted on the said girl’s post. I got scolded from the aunt, who said, “It’s common sense” to not like other girls’ posts.
Like I said, I didn’t take note of it.
My girlfriend is very insecure of her body and looks overall, but I sincerely love her.
But damn, I feel really bad, and I don’t have any other clarifications if what I did was wrong.
AITA?
Conclusion
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I might add, that whilst I wouldn’t react like that, I would maybe raise an eyebrow to my boyfriend liking pictures of fit girls he doesn’t actually know on social media. It’s worth sitting down with her and talking about what you both think is un/acceptable in the relationship and go from there.
Some people get a little antsy when their bf/gf likes certain posts. If that’s the case, talk about it.
Claiming that she puked from this (I really doubt it), and having the aunt sent you screenshots is extremely manipulative. Maybe you should reconsider this relationship.
do you know this girl whose pic you liked? Does your GF feel threatened because this girl is in your life. Was it obviously a thirst trap picture? Like a picture of the girl in her bikini or posing scantily clad . Not in any way to blame the girl – she’s entitled to post what she wants. Rather to suggest that if it’s a rather sexy picture then it might be wisest to appreciate privately. It’s more concerning if your GF is jealous of you liking just a random normal picture of someone sitting with a friend or standing in front of a monument or something.
It can matter how often this is/generally whether you like lots of pics like that, how scanty the pics are, whether it’s some hot celebrity or someone that you know etc. It doesn’t sound like you go around liking tons of hot pictures by any means, though.
Your GF’s reaction is excessive, but it sounds like she has lots of issues. It should be fair for you guys to come to a compromise – you shouldn’t ahve to agree to never look at another woman (that’s not fair or even possible) but likewise she may not want to see evidence of every time you find some other woman hot in her face because it came up on her feed. Perhaps your GF could do with some counselling to deal with those insecurities – you are going to encounter other girls in your life and she will have to learn to manage her jealousy and insecurity.
Some people don’t like their partner ‘liking’ posts of attractive people on social media – because likes are public and anyone can see it, so it can come across as leering. Depends on the picture – even if it’s someone you don’t know – or a celebrity, if it’s a raunchy picture that can be bad taste. Some people see this as the same as ‘eyeing up’ a man or woman when you’re out with your SO – not wrong to notice someone’s attractive, but not always appropriate to visibly do so in front of your partner. However this is a very YMMV situation.
Personally I don’t care what my BF finds attractive or even enjoys ‘alone time’ to, as long as it’s legal and consensual and not something horrific, but I wouldn’t want it coming up on his FB feed or coming up on mine that he’s liked tons of hot pics on FB – because if I can see that, then everyone can, and it’s a bit weird. I’d probably tease him about it though. If he happened to like a pic of a female friend on holiday it’d be NBD but if he only seemed to focus on everyone’s bikini pics – there might be issues. What I’m saying here is a lot depends on context.
These are boundaries couples discuss. Some people talk about hot people together, others don’t.
It is not common sense. People have friends of both genders. Does she not want you to interact with 50% of the population or something?
Her saying she cried so much she puked. She is either lying to manipulate you or had a massive overreaction. Either way she needs help.
Then bringing her family into arguments to confront you. Bringing family into your problems with your partner is not healthy. And not only that, she can’t communicate to the point where she sends her fucking aunt to chew you out.
She is young. I don’t fault her for being insecure and not knowing how to deal with things. But It will take her a lot of time to figure out how things work in the real world, as she currently is. All I’m saying is that you are young too. You don’t have to wait around for her to figure out how to be a more healthy individual. Because the more you stay with her, the more of these unhealthy behaviors you are exposed to. I wouldn’t want you to think this is what a healthy adult relationship looks like..