14 cans of formula is no joke. NTA.

NTA. She just literally dumped hundreds of dollars of formula that YOU BOUGHT because of her own personal opinions on formula. I would have done the same thing, in your situation

NTA

She destroyed your property, and I’m baffled how destroying property is supposed to be *ok* because she breast fed at that moment.

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I was going to say:

*But you just… went into the bathroom and called the police? You didn’t say anything to her first, say, to make a demand that she replace what she destroyed? (Speaking of which, was it just sitting in the garbage? Did you check? Or was it poured down the drain?)*

But at the end of the day it’s the same as someone saying they decided TVs are bad for kids so they smashed yours. Can’t do that. (*How* did the police say it wasn’t a crime?)

She owes you for the 14 cans of formula that she stole and threw away. She can disagree with you all she wants, but theft is theft – and now that she’s blocked you everywhere, she’s leaving your child to go hungry.

Small claims court?

NTA. She destroyed $140+ worth of formula and endangered your ability to feed your child. Also, a lot of jurisdictions consider breastfeeding a child that is not your own without the permission of the parents a form of battery, regardless of what that one cop said (cops aren’t lawyers, they often do not know the law, especially in odd cases). Others can charge it up to sexual assault since it involves breasts, so she got really lucky you were actually okay with that part, if not the destruction of your property and child endangerment part.

Your sister majorly crossed some boundaries that, in many respects, could be considered criminal. If this was the first time she did anything that disrespected your boundaries, I would say calling the police was an overreaction, but it seems that she has been very vocal about things that are none of her concern and this was just her escalating her behavior, which was already over the line. Plus, she’s messing with your infant *and* your ability to care for him while you are vulnerable, in the hospital, and depending on her support, all of which she leveraged to violate your boundaries. I don’t think that expecting you to take that calmly is fair.

Edit: my bad, formula is more expensive than last time I bought it for a friend with a baby. 14 cans worth of it is more like $300+. Yikes, that’s totally out of pocket to destroy that much of someone’s property over a healthcare disagreement, *particularly* when you know an infant is depending on that property.

NTA, she destroyed your property, the food for your child. Such a typical blow-off from the police though. 🙄

Nta- idgaf if I get downvoted but wtf is wrong with your sister. She’s crazy.

ESH.

Your sister is an obnoxious, judgy AH. She should not be giving you shit about how you choose to feed your child. She should *never* have thrown out your formula. That’s extremely fucked up.

You also shouldn’t have called the police. That’s equally fucked up, maybe moreso.

She took care of your newborn for 72 hours straight. That is normally a costly service and would about equal the cost of the formula. If not for her you would have had to pay someone to babysit. And she had a newborn of her own at the same time.

You’re even. And you both acted like AHs.

ESH. Her for obvious reasons, it’s not ok to throw away all your formula, duh, but really? Your gut instinct is to call the POLICE???

Reddit will defend it because Reddit loves revenge porn and “but mah property” but that’s a ridiculous overreaction as a FIRST response and needlessly escalated the situation. No attempt to get the money back, no argument, just straight to call the cops? On your sister who took care of your baby for free? Wtf.

I just can’t get into that headspace. Well, either headspace here. Hence ESH. Y’all have issues.

Destruction of property is a police matter. I’m sorry there wasn’t any evidence. NTA

NTA. That is a lot of wasted formula which she had no right to toss out. I am so sorry, OP. I will say, my first reaction would not have been to call the police. Maybe you could have come to a solution together if you’d talked to your sister first.

She destroyed your private property, that’s worth something. Take her to court over the lost supplies.

NTA

ESH but your sis far more than you. Your sis threw out literally hundreds of dollars worth of formula (in my area formula is anywhere between $18-37 a can depending on what kind you need) and that’s not acceptable. Then she doubled down and blocked you, leaving you in a serious bind when it comes to feeding your son. 2 cans won’t last.

You overreacted by calling the police. That being said, I doubt you had a lot of other options.

She destroyed your property. Property that you cannot easily afford to replace. All out of a sense of misplaced self righteousness. Not only did she have no right to do that, but her doing so was illegal. You had every right to call the law. NTA.

Your sister was completely out of line. While it could be very kind to offer what she was offering, she offset that a ton by throwing away all of your formula. That was, at best, poorly thought out. Much like your decision to call the police. Seriously? You both sound like major overreactors. ESH

NTA! Take her to small claims court if you can!

You have have texts or any proof she threw the formula away, you can certainly file a small claim. Civil matters shouldn’t affect her job, so no guff from your parents

ESH. She had no right to get rid of the formula, but calling the police was a massive overreaction. What was your goal? To have a nursing mother arrested? Both of you should have been adults and discussed this. Now you have jeopardized your relationship and destroyed the chance to help each other raise children, especially since your baby’s father isn’t around. You have damaged the relationship the cousins could have with each other. Y’all need to fix this

I’m sorry it’s not a crime to destroy your child’s food? NTA and I’d go no contact for a minute because she’s clearly in her own little world

She destroyed your property. Property that you cannot easily afford to replace. All out of a sense of misplaced self righteousness. Not only did she have no right to do that, but her doing so was illegal. You had every right to call the law. NTA.