I had a friend in my early 20s, Melinda. She was always a little odd, but we remained friends for awhile. We were bridesmaids in each other’s weddings. We grew apart over the next decades as our lives took different turns. We did stay in contact via the odd text and Facebook post.
She attended my virtual baby shower back in 2021.
Recently, Melinda had a baby girl, announcing her name was Amelia but they refer to her as Mia. I found this odd as my name is Mia. I felt as if she were naming her child after me and we didn’t feel close enough for that, plus she didn’t even ask. I said something to a mutual friend of ours who told me they also found it odd.
I didn’t say anything at first. Then I saw Melinda with her husband and the baby at another friend’s party. She was showing me the baby and I half-joked “yeah, my namesake”. She gave me an odd look and I said “her name is Mia…I’m Mia.” Melinda said her name was Amelia and Mia was a nickname, while my full name is just Mia.
I said I understand, but she still had to have named her after me, saying it was odd but cute.
Melinda got a weird look on her face and said “no, we named her after (her husband)‘s mother”. I nodded and she was clearly annoyed. She asked why I assumed I named the baby after her. I said it was just a weird coincidence and seemed like something she would do.
Melinda said “you’re not important enough for me to name a baby after”. I told her that was rude and she said “so is trying to imply she’s odd because her baby and I have the same name”.
Our mutual friends feel I shouldn’t have brought it up at all. Some feel that in spite of that, she took it too far by saying I’m not important enough. AITA?
Conclusion
The story concludes with a stinging remark, leaving one questioning the boundaries of friendship and the impact of perceived slights. Did a simple name choice ignite an irreparable rift, or is this a misunderstanding that could have been avoided?
Here’s how people reacted:
Spoiler: if a friend picked a name because of you, *they’d tell you*. That she didn’t, and that you’ve grown apart should be a big indication that it had nothing to do with you.
You don’t own the name, so she doesn’t need to be “close enough” to you to decide to use it as a nickname, regardless of the reason.
The world does not revolve around you. Why are you upset that she thinks you’re not important enough in her life to name a baby after you when *you* also think that? You literally noted that you’re not close enough to each other for that, so you should be glad that she confirmed she feels the same way.
I think that’s all that needs to be said
When you assume, you make an ass out of me and you.
People can have the same name, and her name isnt even Mia, its just short for her real name. You should have atleast asked about her name before assuming things, or just not brought it up at all
>She was always a little odd
She’s not the odd one.
You’re weird for assuming a person would name their child after you. Mia is not an uncommon name.
You’re allowed to think these things, but once you share them, people are allowed to judge you for how you sound
YTA and this makes it look like you have main character syndrome based off of what Melinda said, and your response to her
The protagonist of the Princess Diaries movies is named **Mia Thermopolis**, but her official name is **Amelia Mignonette Thermopolis Renaldi**.
You’re not the inspiration for the baby’s name.
Get over yourself.
You assumed she named her daughter after you just because her daughter’s nickname and your name happens to be the same. Mia isn’t that uncommon of name to hear and you sound a little on the narcissistic side.
Mia is an incredibly popular name. You AREN’T important enough to have her name her child after you (by your own description of your relationship). It’s super weird that you’d think you were, and even weirder that you kept pushing it after she said you weren’t a factor.
It’s a nickname. A totally common name.
AHAHAHAHAHA! I love her response.
She’s right.
YTA
You aren’t the only Mia in the world. She told you baby was named after her MIL. You should have just left it alone… but noooooo. Your ego couldn’t resist.