AITA for saying no in my sleep?

In a story that has the internet divided, a sleepwalking mishap could spell the end of a budding friendship. What happens when a simple request for a blanket turns into a major conflict in the dead of night? You won’t believe how this misunderstanding unfolds and the awkward silence that follows.

I (17M) have a friend (16F) who stayed the night for the first time recently. We shared a bed (I’m gay and she’s queer) I thought it went well, and I had a lot of fun. But when I woke up, she seemed really angry. I asked what was wrong and she said that at around 3 am she asked for a blanket, five times, and apparently I said “what?” each time, and then said “no.” and turned over, rudely.

I laughed at first, but stopped when her face didn’t change. I explained that I had no memory of the interaction, and that I must have been sleeping. Her expression still didn’t change and she asked to leave. Now she wont talk to me at all.

I shared the story with our mutual friends and they agree that I was a rude host… in my sleep. I’m confused on how my actions while I’m sleeping make me rude.

Am I the Asshole?

EDIT: I see this question asked a lot, assuming she was not given a blanket before hand. We both were under my covers, a sheet and a comforter. I handed her a blanket after I explained I was asleep as well.

Here’s how people reacted:

laurasdiary

NTA

How can you be judged for something that occurred in your sleep? Your friends are being unreasonable

LowBalance4404

NTA. I say the most random things in my sleep. Not long ago my partner told me I woke up and asked him why he hurt the butterflies. I have zero idea what that means. You weren’t awake, had no idea what was going on, and weren’t being intentionally rude.

Honor-Valor-Intrepid

NTA – maybe she thought you were being rude by laughing? you say crazy stuff when sleep talking it does not come filtered from personal experience… no further comment on that one…

Anna_Stacy_Yamina

Wtf? Your friends are weird. NTA.

shgrdrbr

not enough info. did you provide her a blanket to sleep with before you fell asleep? did you apologise to her for being unintentionally rude/leaving her to be cold overnight or just explain why it wasn’t a problem because you didn’t mean it? the impact on her from you being inconsiderate before you were asleep would still make you TA as a host

warclonex

If you were honestly asleep with no memory of it and didnt do it intentionally , NTA

that is funny as all heck though. i would have laughed

RafaelSirah

NAH

I can understand her being a little frustrated in being cold given the circumstances, but in the end you were half asleep and obviously didn’t understand what was going on.

lifeinsatansarmpit

NAH I believe you were asleep because I’ll answer in my sleep too. My answers aren’t real or genuine answers cos asleep but sound plausible answers. However, it’s not obvious that you’re asleep, so your friend thought you were being awful. Not sure you’ll be able to convince her you weren’t awake though.

Mehhucklebear

Assuming you gave her minimal blankets and pillows, NTA. I always find it insane when people try to blame people for sleep actions.

BlackCatFurry

Nta. If she really needed the blacket she should have asked you after making sure you are actually awake. Some people just will do very random things asleep or even answer to questions so calling you an ah is not something that is in any way sensible thing at that point. She didn’t wake you up properly -> not your fault for sleep answering weirdly

IWokeUpAt1AM

Ahhh to be 17 again.

emileeavi

Info: Did you not give them a blanket before you guys went to sleep?

Think_Bullets

Nothing I say between going to sleep and physically being out of bed in the morning is admissable. If you’re talking to me at 3am, you’re talking to yourself

NoWoodpecker7510

Is she bad tho? If you deny a baddie the right to comfortable sleeping, especially in your own bed (gay or not), you are liable for harsh criticism, negative mood swings, and death. I appreciate the consideration for your friend. NTA

baldnsquishy

Your friend(s) are mad at you for what you said when you were unconscious??? That is the most ridiculous thing ever. Kids are so weird. NTA.

BbSoBunnylicious

Once I sat up in bed and loudly yelled “what” at my wife. No memory of this. My wife just laughed at me, apparently.

ScrevyRevington

NTA – I once accused my friend of stealing this really cool floor lamp I had that had a lava lamp part way up while asleep. I yelled at her how I knew she had it in the trunk of her car, despite it literally sitting in the corner of my room. In the morning she told me all about it while laughing and asked me what I had been dreaming about. THAT’S how a person reacts to weird sleep-talking…not holding it against you!

Lusandeter

When I was young I fell asleep at church once and started sleep whispering to my mum. I apparently whispered shut up to her. When we were home she told me and we had a laugh about it. NTA, she needs to chill.

underhill_overhill

NTA My other half is a sleep kicker – I don’t get mad at him for getting me in the shins while he’s asleep!

myblackandwhitecat

NTA. I once stayed at a friend’s home for a night and apparently her dog (a huge boxer) came and jumped on top of me during the night and I was pushing him away and saying ‘Get off, Buck’ over and over again to him. My friend came and dragged him away. She told me about it all in the morning and I was completely unaware of any of it.

Conclusion

The final curtain falls on this tale with a chilling silence, leaving one friend questioning their own actions and the other heartbroken. Was it a simple case of a rude awakening, or something far more complex? The story ends not with a bang, but with an unanswered question hanging in the air.