AITA for confronting a neighbor who was rude to my son at trick or treat because of a “rule” I’d never heard of?

You won’t believe how one sister’s lifelong favoritism culminates in a shocking wedding announcement! Prepare for a tale of resentment, family dynamics, and the sting of a ‘golden child’ always getting her way. What happens when adult siblings face the same old parental bias, and one is showered with wealth while the other has quietly earned their success?
AITA for confronting a neighbor who was rude to my son at trick or treat because of a "rule" I'd never heard of?

I’m at a loss. My sister has always been the golden child. Growing up, she could do no wrong. She got all the attention and praise, while I was constantly criticized. Now that we’re adults, things haven’t changed much. She still expects special treatment and gets it from our parents.

Recently, my sister announced she’s getting married. The wedding is going to be huge and expensive. My parents are footing the bill, of course. They’re also contributing a significant amount to a down payment on a house for her and her fiancé. I’m happy for her, truly, but it stings.

I’ve been working hard for years, saved diligently, and bought my own place. I’m not asking for handouts, but it’s frustrating to see such a disparity in how we’re treated. I can’t help but feel resentful, especially when my parents make comments about how lucky my sister is and how she deserves it all.

Am I the asshole for feeling this way?

Here’s how people reacted:

LukasHughes

This has to be fake. I cannot believe it’s not fake.
thesnarkypotatohead

OOP is familiar with the concept of trick-or-treating yet has never heard the rule that you don’t trick-or-treat at houses where the lights are off? I absolutely know people this entitled, but OOP had to have lived under a rock on every previous Halloween to be this dense.

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Criticalwater2

It’s clearly fake. No one trick-or-treating is going up to a house with no lights on and ring the doorbell 3 times. After 1 ring and no answer you move on to the next house.

And no one who isn’t participating is going to answer the door at all. There’s always some excited/clueless kids that go to every house but the people inside will just ignore them.

Also, no one is going to “blow up your phone” if you don’t know the rule. It’s a very mild transgression.

Finally, a 4 yo isn’t really going to care if 1 house is opting out. They’re just going to want to run to the next house. [ed. sp.]

fanaticfun

So in the time it took for this person to walk to a few houses and then home, the woman posted the video to the group, people figured out who OP was, and of course blew up her phone with messages? On halloween? It usually takes an hour for me to even get a comment on something I post in a Facebook group, let alone a whole investigation to be completed.
vctrlzzr420

I like how they made it an old lady too so now Reddit can come up with the ifs, like she can’t walk and open the door all night. This is ofc reasonable to consider but the perfect rage bait detail for aita halloween post.
neongloom

>It got worse. I got back home and saw my phone had insane notifications, apparently this woman had recorded the whole interaction on her door camera and posted it to the local neighborhood Facebook group.

Would a good old fashioned “my husband says I’m the asshole” not suffice here? A *Facebook group* was blowing up their phone? Jesus Christ 🤣

debatingsquares

I think it’s a take on the post from yesterday about the OOP who posted online not to go to this one woman’s house because she wouldn’t give OOP’s autistic daughter candy unless she said “trick or treat.”
SpoonMousey

3 comments from OOP and all of them are:

>She could have explained nicely. And she could have given him a little something and complimented his costume while nicely explaining the rule and he’s not bad for not knowing it.

Quality trolling.

QueenOfShibaInu

growing up my house was THE house to go to for halloween. My dad would turn our whole garage into a haunted house and get dressed up and hand out candy. Then, when I was in 4th grade, my grandma, his mom, had a stroke halloween night (he went to the hospital dressed in a full bloody mummy costume, one of the most sitcom-esque nights of my life even while being so tragic). She died a week later and my dad never did the haunted garage again. People have all sorts of reasons for not wanting to be involved in halloween and while I know this is a troll post I also think we should all be cognisant of that!
Marchin_on

Now we need a rage bait post from the perspective of a mother who gets called out for emptying an unattended basket of candy. “How was I supposed to know that you shouldn’t take every piece of candy possible?”
Sea-Professional-953

I wanna see the doorbell video 😊
SevsMumma21217

I am forty and this has been a “rule” for my entire life. My parents were always careful to remind us not to bother anyone with their porch lights off before we went out on Halloween.
gnomeweb

I am not from the US, and I have never went to trick-or-treating, so I am unaware of the light or whatever rule. But it you ring and someone doesn’t open the door, that’s your hint to leave, even if they have all the lights on. For all you know the home owner is busy taking a dump.
SabrielSage

I’m just surprised that an AITA post actually got taken down for for obviously lying.
lodav22

This is such bollocks. I hate trick or treating, but my kids broke me this year and I took them around briefly. My one rule was that a house had to be decorated and have the lights on. If I knew about the rule, this jackass did.
DocChloroplast

A 27-year-old on Facebook? Press X to doubt (please don’t reply if you still check FB regularly and are under 40; I’m just making a stupid “joke”).
ChordStrike

Lmao, I’m glad we’re all in agreement that this is clearly fake for so many reasons 😆

> I asked what kind of idiot doesn’t make sure to have some bare minimum candy around on Oct 31, like use a damn calendar.

Really?? Come on now. And what kind of idiot doesn’t know that if the porch light’s off and they don’t answer after a few knocks, the house isn’t participating?

lucyjayne

This situation isn’t complete unbelievable, but I know it’s fake just because of the way it’s written.
Wizzle_Pizzle_420

Lights off has meant “don’t go there” since I was a kid and I’m old. I remember my mom telling us before we went out, “if it’s dark or there’s no outside light on, then move on. They don’t have candy”. Honestly it’s pretty universal I thought. Yes that sucks for your kid, but it’s not everybody’s job to cater to your whims. Also unless it’s an emergency and you knock once and nobody comes then clearly they don’t want to talk.
BoxFuzzy8222

Lmao nice try troll 🤣

Conclusion

The dust settles on a wedding that highlights a decade’s worth of disparity, leaving one sibling questioning everything. Will this ‘fairytale’ wedding be the breaking point, or is this just another chapter in a never-ending story of unequal treatment? You’ll be left wondering if this is the end of the favoritism or just the beginning of a new, bitter reality.

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