Hello AITA. First time posting and I’m using a burn account because in light of the situation it feels like the safest thing to do.
My little sister (21) is constantly losing things but her keys are the main culprit. She for loses them around the house but at least 50 times since she’s been driving she’s lost them in public and a few of the times have been very scary because she got her self stranded.
In early June she lost her keys and had to pay a ton of money to get her remote lock reprogrammed. Last Friday she lost them again in a grocery but was lucky enough that the cashier found her and gave them back as she was frantic in the store. So I had a little tag made up that had her name, phone number and address so she wouldn’t have to go through replacing them again.
Earlier this week she went to six flags great adventure with some friends and truly, truly lost her keys. When she got home her car was gone. Yesterday the police found her car but completely chopped with the key in the ignition (but her house and work keys were gone).
I hope it’s obvious what the police think happened.
She’s furious with me and my parents are mad as well saying I should have minded my own business. She knew the little tag was there and she even thought it was a good idea. I don’t know if I’m the AITA because she is the one who lost her keys again but it was my idea that backfired.
AITA?
Conclusion
The fallout from this well-intentioned gesture left one sister furious and parents divided, questioning if helping a loved one can truly backfire this badly. Was this a case of ‘no good deed goes unpunished,’ or did the sibling cross a line?
Here’s how people reacted:
Edit: Thank you for the awards!
Not an asshole, but certainly an idiot.
Tell your sister to get a lanyard and physically attach the keys to herself. I know it’s hardwr with women’s clothes, but if she wears pants with belt loops those are perfect
You had a good idea : to tag the keys. Then a terrible idea : add the address to the tag. That was dumb, but neither you nor your sister realized that at the time. That doesn’t make you an AH because you didn’t do it on purpose and your sister knew and agreed to the idea.
Edit : your sister is justified to be angry because of the outcome, but she shouldn’t be angry _at you_. She could be the AH if she thinks that’s your fault : it’s not.
Get the locks changed on her house immediately and then she’ll have to notify security at her workplace as well.
Does she have a condition that contributes to her losing her keys? Maybe get her a new car with push start button and attach the fob to her handbag. So as long as she has her handbag on her she can open and start the car. Guessing she doesn’t lose her handbag.
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I get it, you’re intentions meant well, but man, the execution was incredibly stupid.
YTA
“You’re heart is in the right place Rose but I don’t know where the hell your brain is”
Bruh. You put her name and address on the keys. Are you trying to manifest trouble for her? Holy shit. Don’t do that. Ever again. Wtf.
Get an Air tag or another gps tracker for her keys. Something that won’t make her an easier target to victimize.
Your sis needs to grow up and be fucking responsible for her shit. Like put them on a lanyard attached to her or something. That’s ridiculous.
And assuming there were house keys on there, should change the home locks too. And check if anything else is missing
Listen, you have a really stupid idea. Incredibly so. The fact that your sister did not recognize it as a terrible idea doesn’t say much about her judgement, either.
Your heart was in the right place. You made a big and obvious mistake, but it wasn’t malicious.
That being said, you should have bought her a lanard for you key chain. I have a nice little tether that clips onto my belt loop so I can’t loose them without taking my pants off.
Should have got an AirTag rather than instructions on where to burgle her home.
We have the ‘home’ setting on our car set to a few houses down the block (which has video surveillance and a gate) for the same reason: if someone steals the car they can’t rob our house while we’re stranded
You basically gave a car thief an invitation to steal her car.
Also, the insurance probably won’t pay out either.
Putting her name and address on the keys of someone who *frequently loses said keys* is a terrible, horrible, no-good, very bad idea. But she also somehow agreed to this, which masked both of you TA to her work and anybody else who lives in her house.
I can’t imagine a bigger “please rob me” flag you could’ve flown.
Next time, buy a tracker chip. They’re a thing.