So I (28f) have a sister (26f) who got married last month. I’m gonna be blunt, my sister has always been one of those people that has to have everything perfect, to the point where sometimes it was hard to be around her. But she was my little sister and I’ve no other siblings, so I always made excuses when she’d hurt me when I was doing things right in her eyes.

I was kinda nervous when she asked me and my daughter (4) to be bridesmaids in February because I knew she was gonna be a massive bridezilla. Over the last few months, we have had to practice multiple dances, pay for very expensive dresses, and put up with her tantrums.

I told her from the start, if she was anyway nasty to my child, I wouldn’t stand for it. She assured me she’d never be nasty towards her “favourite person in the whole world.”

Well, her now husband’s little cousin (8?) started coming to dance practice with her mom, and my sister started to ask her to do little things like show my daughter how to throw the petals. I honestly thought she’d make them both flower girls for a while, but when she started to make my daughter sit out and have the little girl do her poem, I knew what was gonna happen, but prayed I was wrong.

I invited her out to coffee a few weeks before the wedding and asked her what was going on. She told me she was glad I brought it up because she was looking for the right time. Apparently, my four-year-old wasn’t doing everything right, and she was afraid she was gonna “mess up Her version” by saying the wrong thing or not doing the dance right on the day.

I told her she was doing a pretty good job, and everyone was always praising her. Sister giggled and said it’s not THEIR day now, is it? So it’s not up to US what’s good enough for her wedding. I asked her straight up, did she think her niece wasn’t good enough to be in her wedding?

She replied with, “not as something big as a flower girl, but to attend.” I asked her how was I gonna break it to my daughter who’s excited about being in the wedding? She just told me, “figure it out.” I told her I’d give her a day to rethink her decision, if not, we wouldn’t be attending, and wouldn’t speak to her ever again, than left.

Well two days went, so I couldn’t put it off any longer. I broke the news to my child. Even though I tried my hardest and sugarcoated it as much as possible, the news still broke her heart. She cried herself to sleep (so did I and my husband).

Well, after a week when I was a no-show for anything, my sister started to panic and started to get everyone to talk to me, even drop off gifts for my daughter. When I told them why, a good number of our family, including bridesmaids, dropped out. We ended up going for a few weeks away with no phones.

When we came back, my sister had sent me multiple letters and emails apologising. her in-laws and husband have called me an asshole for doing what I did.

Edit fixed some spelling.

Edit -my bill saw this post and told my sister who cried reading all your comments. How do I know? Because they showed up at my job knowing I wouldn’t want a scene. They begged me to delete the post before people they know see it and kept apologising, finally my sister said she might be pregnant.

I told even if she is, pregnancy doesn’t wash away all the shitty things shes done and I hope her husbands siblings never treats her child the way she treated mine because I don’t plan to be apart of her life. She busted into tears saying she was sorry and she loves my daughter.

I told her leave before I called security and her husband tried to talk to me alone because “I was making her so upset” and “everyone was cold towards them because of me.” I told them no everyone was cold because “Cinderella and Prince Charming forgot that after treating everyone like shit that no one wanted to be in their happy ever after.” they didn’t like my mocking tone and raised their voice at me.

My boss told them leave who knows the situation and has a 5 year old herself so she’s on my side j. My sisters mil reached out to my parents asking for everyone to meet up on neutral terms so we can all work out our differences. I m gonna go to this dinner party because I want to hear their story and officially tell them leave me alone.

I will update you guys.

❗️important edit ❗️my sisters photographer saw this post and reached out to me on here (she knew my full name and she gave me her Instagram to confirm) this goes deeper than my daughter not dancing right apparently she over heard my sisters mil and aunt in law talking in the bathroom, they used slurs against my daughter and husband.

They called me the black mans wh*re. The photographer said they were both drunk but BIL also made jokes around my sister earlier in the day which she smiled at. She also thinks my family members heard it and it’s the reason they dropped out. So yeah my daughter wasn’t flower girl because unlike me, her aunt or the other flower girl she doesn’t have blue eyes and blonde hair.

If you’re reading this Sarah and frank fuck you and your family, my child is too good to be around trash like you both stay the fuck away from us and if anyone in my family knew the real story and didn’t tell me fuck you too.

Edit four – thanks everyone for the love and support but especially thank you to the photographer who came forward thank you so much for bringing this to my attention before I let them back into our lives, you’re real one.

Edit five -so I thought I’d answer a lot of questions that keep getting asked because I’m tried and will be going to bed soon.

-My parents are fully on my side so are multiple other family members the ones that aren’t have been cut off.

-my daughter doesn’t know the full story but as treat (for all of us) we plan to take her to Disneyland for Christmas and my parents have said they will join us.

-as for my sister some people have mentioned she might be in an abus***e relationship. Well her husband is from old money and his family is very will connected in England which is something she always wanted so idk but if she is in a bad relationship and afraid it’s up to my husband to forgive her not me.

-you can post this wherever you like please don’t message me again and I will not give up the photographers information because she wants to stay anonymous.

– I’ve found out 3 family members knew including a bridesmaid that dropped out knew.

– I’ve seen a lot of people making fun of the fact me and my husband cried our self too sleep the night my daughter found out. We didn’t cry about her not being a flower nor did we cry while she was awake. we cried because our child was extremely hurt and there’s no worser feeling than your child thinking they’re not good enough for someone they love.

for the commenter who was extremely nasty about my husband crying a fathers love is equal to a mothers, men do and are allowed to have emotions, do better