When he discovered her affair six years ago, his world shook. The woman he loved was suddenly a stranger, and the future he envisioned seemed shattered. Yet, instead of walking away, he chose a path of understanding, and she showed genuine remorse, making a profound effort to rebuild trust. The story unfolds amidst the backdrop of their 20-year marriage, their daughter’s coming of age, and the delicate process of healing a wounded relationship.
This story is a reminder that even in the darkest moments, there’s a chance for renewal. It’s a journey through pain and forgiveness, shedding light on the complicated nature of love and the resilience needed to move forward. As their story reaches its unexpected conclusion, it leaves us questioning whether true love can survive the storms or if some wounds run too deep to ever fully heal.
My wife and I have been married for 20 years and we have a daughter who’s 18. She graduated high school a few months ago.
Around 6 years ago, I found out that my wife was cheating on me and having an affair which lasted for a couple of months. I really wanted to divorce, but my wife was really remorseful, she quit her job, she started going to therapy, she promised all reconciliation steps I asked for.
Ultimately I did decide to stay with my wife for her sake and for our family’s sake too.
For around 5 years, everything was actually going great, and we had date nights, romantic vacations, and we really loved each other. However, on the 6th year, the whole thing resurfaced back on my mind, and I just couldn’t get my mind off it.
I finally made my decision after a particular line from my sister struck a cord with me. She said would you really want use the gift of life and spend it with someone who had betrayed you so badly?
She told me this a couple of days before my daughter’s graduation and that’s when I finally decided I couldn’t do it anymore.
A day before my daughter’s graduation, I informed my wife of my decision and told her that I would be filing for divorce soon. My wife was shocked, and she cried a lot and told me she would do anything but I told her that my decision was final.
My daughter’s graduation in itself was great, and I was really proud of my daughter. And my wife seemed happy too, but my daughter could sense something was wrong and asked me why her mom seemed down and trying to fake a smile.
I told her not to worry about it and to just enjoy the day.
The next day however, I told my daughter I would be filing for divorce, and my daughter seemed shocked. She said how I could do this to her mom before graduation and that’s why her mom couldn’t enjoy the graduation.
I told her it’s none of her business, but we’ll both always love her regardless. My wife and I are now going through divorce proceedings.
AITAH?
Conclusion
In the end, their story proves that love’s true test isn’t in good times, but in how we navigate adversity together. After years of hardship, remorse, and rebuilding, they found a way to move forward—stronger and more understanding than ever before. Their journey was not without its scars, but it also showed that forgiveness and genuine change can offer a second chance at happiness.
For this couple, the road was long and often emotional, yet their commitment to each other and their daughter kept them going. The betrayal that once threatened to end their marriage became a chapter in their shared story—a story of redemption, hope, and the enduring power of love. Now, they stand united, showing that even the deepest wounds can eventually lead to a brighter, more hopeful future.
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What does make you an absolute asshole is how you chose to do it, your complete lack of empathy and thought about timing your announcement. Even if just for the sake of your daughter.
Your wife ruined your relationship 6 years ago, you ruined yours daughter’s high school graduation day. She’s not going to ever graduate from high school again, you forever tainted this moment for her.
Like others have said, you waited 6 years already, what would another few days have been? This was completely selfish, no consideration for anyone else.
Edit* had to update as the responses are getting heavily against OP. I mean, the little dick/go sleep with your sister/I hope your ex takes everything from you and alimony is overly rough.
I don’t believe OP is an asshole for divorcing his wife. He tried to live with her infidelity but couldn’t come to terms with it. He should divorce her
Your timing at the expense of your daughter = asshole
Divorcing after failing to come to terms with your partners past infidelity – NTA
You could have waited a few days. Also if you were happy, why did you let that line from your sister affect you so much? Are you easily influenced by others? Is the appearance of having always had a perfect marriage so important to you?
Isn’t the point to get a deeper and deeper understanding of the other person and ourselves?
On top of that, YTA for telling your daughter it’s none of her business when *her parents* are getting divorced and you told her mum *the day before her graduation*. You made the decision to overshadow your daughter’s important day by sharing this information just before, it’s entirely your daughter’s business.
Relationships are fragile things and if the trust was damaged beyond repair for you then you’re well within your rights to end things, but you can’t be surprised your daughter is upset you dropped this major, life-changing decision on the family the day before an event that was supposed to be about her achievements.
Also, it’s “none of her business” that her parents are getting divorced? That is literally the dumbest thing I’ve read today, and I’m commenting on a Reddit post right now.
You took something that was spose to be for your daughter and made it all about you. You’re honestly really selfish.
And how you treated your daughter is disgusting.
Just to be clear yeah you’re NOT the asshole for the divorce, even if a lot of time has passed. But that timing was awful. Be aware your daughter might think you did it on purpose, if she does, good luck convincing her otherwise.
You have a recovered healthy relationship with no issues aside from NOW you have decided to grab onto the idea that you should go have sex and date other women. Sounds like you had a super unhealthy response to a major life event, a mid life crisis, were you so panicked by your daughter ‘leaving’ you by being an adult that you’re trying to preemptively abandon everyone? It could not be more clear that this is all about you – not your wife, not even her previous infidelity, and definitely not about your daughter unless like I said you’re trying to hurt her for the crime of growing up – and what the heck is up with your sister butting in?